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GuardYourEyes Chizuk E-Mail (No. 1205)  

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In Today's Issue  

  • Torah Thought: The Complete Ba'al Teshuva 
  • Testimonials: Leaving Walmart Behind
     
     
  • Attitude: Perfectionism

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Rabbi Feuerman's, LCSW-R, Friday Phone Conference

  
The Chosson (and Kallah) Shmooze You WISH You Had,
but Never Got!
8:30 AM NY Time
3:30 PM Israel Time

The call-in number is: 
U.S: 209 255 1000              Israel: 076 599 0060
Participant PIN: 637207#

For archives of previous shiurim see here.

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Category: Torah Thought

 

 The Complete Ba'al Teshuva

The Gemara tells a story about one of history's most famous baalei teshuva - Mar Ukva.
 
Most people - even Torah scholars - drop their jaws when they hear that Mar Ukva was a BT (baal teshuva). He was not only reish galuta, the President of the Jewish People in Diaspora at the time, but he was such an outstanding rabbinical court judge that even Shmuel of Nahardaa - one of the three leading scholars of the generation - looked up to him.
 
Tractate Shabbat mentions a tzaddik by the name of Natan Tzutzita, whose name means that Hashem "gave him a bright light" that reflects from his forehead. Whenever he'd walk in the public domain, this bright light would shine from him, so that's how he got his name.
 
Rashi in an obscure comment found on tractate Sanhedrin 31b, says he discovered in an ancient book of legends that Natan Tzutzita was none other than Mar Ukva, who was a Baal Teshuva. The story makes any Hollywood screenplay look boring...

Mar Ukva, before he became a Baal Teshuva, would freely look at women; that got him into big trouble. Once, he saw a gorgeous woman whom he craved. When he found out that she was married and forbidden to him, he became lovesick and literally bedridden, in danger of his life. Meanwhile, the married woman and her husband became destitute. No one would give or lend them a cent. She knew that Mar Ukva had money, so in desperation, she knocked on his door. In her heart, she was prepared to submit herself to him in order to save herself from such dire poverty. Mar Ukva could have easily taken advantage of her. Instead, without touching her or even looking at her, he gave her the money she needed and sent her on her way.
 
Mar Ukva's phenomenal act of teshuva made such a deep impression in the spiritual realm that the Samech-Mem, Amalek's administering angel, fell over backwards. On the spot, it was decreed that Mar Ukva would not only become a complete penitent, but a magnificent Torah scholar, judge and leader of the Jewish People and a tzaddik whose countenance reflected Divine light just like Moses!

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 The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it.

Big Book of AA, p.83
 

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Announcement

 

The Nesivos Shalom Conference Call

 

SUNDAY Mornings from 9AM to 9:30AM EST 

 

Reb Noach Schwartz, LCSW will give a shiur in Nesivos Shalom specially geared to GYE members, followed by insights, sharing and Q&A.

*Kindly call in for an enjoyable, educational, and chasidishe schmooze!*

 

Call in number:

From U.S: (605) 562-3131

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(From other countries, see this page)

PIN# 952533 (for all countries)

 

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Category: Testimonials

 

Leaving Walmart Behind

 

Our recent article "Return to Walmart" in Shmiras Ainayim #342 brought a lot of reaction from our readers. Here are some of their letters:

 

Thank you for that. [This article was] very validating. Others also have a constant battle when going to the store. I thought I was the only one. Everybody else is either immune to it all or lusting away like a panting dog. It is only I, with the big capital I, who undergoes this yoyo effect. Up-down, up-down, down again and then... down-up, down-up... Now I see that I am not the only one.

Be blessed,

Rabbi E.

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Love it, absolutely beautiful!
Thank you
Dz.  
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Wow, you guys are great.
David A.
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That was a great email. I really can relate to what you wrote. It's a great feeling leaving Walmart, or any other store for that matter, knowing you've just controlled your eyes and crushed the yezter  hara by a landslide. Its moments like those that give you the confidence to know that you can over come any situation Hashem tests us with. Thanx for that. Really appreciate it.
Arye

 

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Category: Attitude

  
Perfectionism

 

Perfectionism is one of the manifestations of the spiritual disease of addiction. It is an unreasonable expectation of ourselves. It gets in the way of recovery and of normal functioning.
 

You don't have to be Amazing Amy. You don't even have to be Alright Amy. The internal pressure to be perfect, to look and act juuust right, can actually hold you back.

In fact, experts are finding that perfectionists succeed despite the desire to make everything perfect, not because of it. So stop being so hard on yourself. Here are six ways perfectionism can sabotage you - and how to beat it back.

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