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GuardYourEyes Chizuk E-Mail (No. 1190)  

Getting stronger every day!
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In Today's Issue  

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Rabbi Feuerman's Friday Phone Conference
  
Parshas Vayeshev - "Intimacy, pleasure and responsibility."


 8:30 AM NY Time

3:30 PM Israel Time

The call-in number is: 
U.S: 209 255 1000              Israel: 076 599 0060
Participant PIN: 637207#

For archive of previous Shiurim see here.

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COMING SOON! 

A new shiur series by Rabbi Feuerman beginning Friday, Dec 26: 
The Chosson (and Kallah) Shmooze you WISH you had, but never got!

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Category: Recovery Poetry

 

A Letter to the Yetzer Hora

 

Anonymous

 

Dear Yetzer Hara,

At the advise from Skeptical and Pidaini, I am writing you this letter. This is what I will be telling you when you come knocking again, and I know you will...you @#$%.

At first, I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinking, I could never live without you by my side
But then I spent so many nights thinking how you did me wrong
And I grew strong and I learned how to get along

And so you're back from outer space
I just walked in to find you here with that sneaky look upon your face
I should have changed that stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I'd known for just one second you'd be back to bother me

Go on now, go, walk out the door, just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one, who tried to hurt me with your lie?
Did you think I'd crumble? Did you think I'd lie down and die?

Oh, no, not I, I will survive
Oh, as long as I know how to live, I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live, I've got a family to give
And I'll survive, I will survive, hey, hey

It took all the strength I had not to fall apart
Kept trying hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart
And I spent, oh, so many nights just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry but now I hold my head up high

And you see me, somebody new
I'm not that chained up little person still infatuated with you
And so you felt like dropping in and just expect me to be free
But now I'm saving all my loving for Someone Who's loving me 

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Category: Member Chizuk

 

Addiction's Three Lies
 
By The Guard

The addiction always tells us lies. The 3 top lies he tells us are:
1) You need it
2) It's very important to have it
3) The desperate feelings you have now will last forever if you don't give in.

It's in our interest to recognize these 3 lies for what they are. They are not true!
1) You will do just fine without it.
2) There are MUCH more important things in life than lust.
3) You will feel very different than you do now in just a few hours, or (worst case) tomorrow when you wake up.

So don't fall for the addiction's lies! Just hold out a little longer and your vision will clear up. You will soon see these "excuses" once again for what they really are: LIES.

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One-liner

  

 12-Step members encourage:

 

Willingness is the key. 

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Announcement

 

The Nesivos Shalom Conference Call

 

SUNDAY Mornings from 9AM to 9:30AM EST 

 

Reb Noach Schwartz, LCSW will give a shiur in Nesivos Shalom specially geared to GYE members, followed by insights, sharing and Q&A.

*Kindly call in for an enjoyable, educational, and chasidishe schmooze!*

 

Call in number:

From U.S: (605) 562-3131

Israel: (076) 599-0060

(From other countries, see this page)

PIN# 952533 (for all countries)

 

For Reb Noach's therapy page  here. For Reb Noach's website  here.

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Category: Attitude


The Impossible


Sometimes, dealing with pornography addiction and compulsive masturbation seems an impossible task. The truth is, it is probably impossible for most of us to deal with these on our own. But even when we feel that we are truly alone and the task ahead of us is, indeed, impossible, it helps to keep the following in mind:

1. Difficult things take a long time; impossible things a little longer. (Andre A. Jackson).

2. Nothing is impossible. The word itself says: "I'M POSSIBLE" (Audrey Hepburn)

3. It's kind of fun to do the impossible (Walt Disney).

4. Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible (Francis of Assisi - author of the 11th Step Prayer).

5. So long as the man imagines that he cannot do a certain thing, so long is it impossible for him to do it (Baruch Spinoza).

6. Darkness comes. In the middle of it, the future looks blank. The temptation to quit is huge. Don't. ... You will argue with yourself that there is no way forward. But with God, nothing is impossible. He has more ropes and ladders and tunnels out of pits than you can conceive. Wait. Pray without ceasing. Hope. (John Piper).

7. And finally, from the Lubavitcher Rebbe:
We are here to do the impossible. ... When they tell you, "You can't go on that path, it's beyond you!"-grab that path as your destiny. (Translated by Tzvi Freeman)
 

Care to comment? 

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webinarWebinar of Interest


Love Addict: Sex, Romance & Fantasy 
- A Toxic Trio


Please note that this webinar is not endorsed by Guard Your Eyes. User discretion is advised.

You might be a love addict if...

  • You check his (or her) Facebook page before you check your own.
  • You leave a second (or third, or fourth) voice mail message before the first message is returned, just in case (a) he/she didn't hear it properly; (b) he/she is shy and needs encouragement: (c) maybe you dialed wrong: (d) maybe you forgot to leave a callback number; (e) maybe he/she called and you missed it; or....
  • You changed your route home to pass your love object's house. Extra points for parking outside the house and waiting.
  • You really believe you can save that [stripper, biker, serial philanderer, suicide survivor, alcoholic] with the depth and the purity of your love.

Love addiction, it turns out, isn't like cocaine addiction at all. It's exactly the same thing.


 

If you think you may suffer from Love Addiction, check out this free webinar by Center for Healthy Sex:

Friday, December 12, 2014
12 noon to 1pm Pacific Time

A free interactive webinar 
with Ethlie Ann Vare, Author of 
"Love Addict: Sex, Romance, and Other Dangerous Drugs" 


 Access by Internet or Phone
 
 
To join online copy and paste this link in your browser:
 http://www.anymeeting.com/771-085-840  
 
To join by phone call: 
Toll Number: 
213-416-1560 
Attendee Access Code:
885 7402 
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