In Today's Issue  

• Personal Victory: The Nisayon that Changed Everything
• Attitude: Porn is Worse Than Crack Cocaine

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Category: Personal Victory

 The Nisayon that Changed Everything
 

By "Shmeichel"

I owned a shop, selling things, and most of my clients were local yiddishe women. I made an excellent living out of it.  

Then, there was this very attractive woman living around the corner, about 70-80 feet away from the shop. She would pass by many times daily, first by chance, then purposefully. Eventually, she started coming in on a regularly basis, as if she wanted to buy something, asking questions about items, while sort of winking, moving provocatively, etc... You can imagine the hell I was going thru as she was really a nice woman. It took me down the drain, as I saw in her all I was fantasizing about in my p**n addiction. 

One summer day, she came in with her carriage, telling me that some string was caught in the wheel, asking if I could lend her a pair of scissors. Once I gave her the scissors, she pretended to work on the carriage wheel, and it became clear she did it only so that she can position her body in a very provocative manner. 
 

Then and there, I decided that that's it, I am not having this anymore, I want to be ehrlich, I don't want to go down this route. I closed my shop, sold it, lost a lot of money on it, but saved my life, and my family's life too.

Only after she made me hit bottom, that's when I cleaned myself completely from the whole addiction. B"H, I've been clean now for 2 & 1/2 years.

Dear Shmeichel!

We can't profess to understand Hashem's ways, but the way I see it, Hashem wanted to help you get out of the addiction. In order to be zoche to His help, you needed a special zechus. So Hashem gave you this big nisayon - as if to ask you, "Do you really want this? Because if you do, here is your chance to get it - and fall in very deep. But if you really don't want this, NOW is the chance to make the decision". And your pure yiddishe neshama saw life and death before you, and you chose life. You were MOSSER NEFESH for LIFE. And this was exactly the zechus you needed to break free completely. The very koach of the mitzva was enough to shake off all the shmutz you were caught in! 

Ashrecha. It is not common in today's world to hear such messiras nefesh for Kedusha.

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One-liner

  Sometimes you may feel God is hard on you & doesn't love you... Truth is, He Loves you too much to leave you the way you are

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Category: Attitude

Internet Porn: Worse Than Crack?

Full Article here. Warning: the site may have advertising and links to other, more provocative articles.

This article was published ten years ago, in November 2004. Just to think that things have only gotten worse since then!

Internet pornography is the new crack cocaine, leading to addiction, misogyny, pedophilia, and erectile dysfunction, according to clinicians and researchers testifying before a Senate committee Thursday.

Witnesses before the Senate Commerce Committee's Science, Technology and Space Subcommittee spared no superlative in their description of the negative effects of pornography.

Mary Anne Layden, co-director of the Sexual Trauma and Psychopathology Program at the University of Pennsylvania's Center for Cognitive Therapy, called porn the "most concerning thing to psychological health that I know of existing today."

"The internet is a perfect drug delivery system because you are anonymous, aroused and have role models for these behaviors," Layden said. "To have drug pumped into your house 24/7, free, and children know how to use it better than grown-ups know how to use it -- it's a perfect delivery system if we want to have a whole generation of young addicts who will never have the drug out of their mind."

Pornography addicts have a more difficult time recovering from their addiction than cocaine addicts, since coke users can get the drug out of their system, but pornographic images stay in the brain forever, Layden said.

Jeffrey Satinover, a psychiatrist and advisor to the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality echoed Layden's concern about the internet and the somatic effects of pornography.

"Pornography really does, unlike other addictions, biologically cause direct release of the most perfect addictive substance," Satinover said. "That is, it causes masturbation, which causes release of the naturally occurring opioids. It does what heroin can't do, in effect."

The internet is dangerous because it removes the inefficiency in the delivery of pornography, making porn much more ubiquitous than in the days when guys in trench coats would sell nudie postcards, Satinover said.

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