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GuardYourEyes Chizuk E-Mail (No. 1170)
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In Today's Issue
Torah and 12 Steps:
Sukka - Letting Go of Control
Attitude Tip: Disaster=Opportunity
Chizuk: Lifted by the Past
Daily Dose of Dov: Our Lust Problem is Just a Symptom
Food for Thought: Article of Interest
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Category: Link of the Day
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Category: Torah and 12 Steps
The Sukkah - Letting go of Control
By "An Honest Mouse"
Rabbi Pinchos Roberts brings in his book "Timeless Seasons" that the principle of hashgocho protis is what Sukkos is all about. We remember how Hashem set up camp for us in the midbar and looked after every detail of our needs. We sit under the flimsy s'cach which represents our utter dependence on Him. Everything we do in a succah is all part of His command, His plan for us. Our eating, sleeping, talking, learning are all under His protection and His watch.
This prepares us for the whole year, to remember that everything that happens in our lives, every little thing, is part of His plan. If the guy in front of us in line at the bank is taking forever making us late for a meeting, that is all part of His plan. Sukkos is step 3 (of the 12-Steps): we realize that our life is planned by Hashem and we aren't in control, there is hashgocho protis, He's running the show. If we can develop this belief into a daily reality, we will be well on the way towards recovery from lust and from our controlling selves!
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Category: Attitude Tip
Disaster=Opportunity
or "The value of Failure"
In the Spirit of Business (p.72)
Robert Roskind
In Chinese, the word for disaster and opportunity is the same. No one is immune to the fear of failure; all of us have failed and misinterpreted its meaning. The experience of failure is painful. However, it is this pain that can initiate a search for its sources.
We can begin to realize that to fail in an endeavor in no way indicates our failure as a person. Nor does it necessarily have to upset our peace of mind or self-esteem, unless we allow it to.
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Category: Chizuk
Lifted by the Past
Based on the letters of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, ZTz''L
When do you know that you have truly returned and changed your past?
As long as that past keeps pulling you down, it remains what it always was.
When that past drives you higher and yet higher each day, then you know that past has been transformed.
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Category: Daily Dose of Dov
Our Lust Problem is Just a Symptom
The experience I have is like this: If I don't do the behavioral things that teach me to be free of these things (like shutting my eyes or removing my glasses when needed, praying caringly for the woman whose image I want to lust with, making the calls I need to make to other guys and admitting the sometimes embarrassing truth about myself, diverting my gaze from the People magazines on the table at work, getting the heck put of Dodge when needed, or whatever...), I'll screw up. Doing these difficult and sometimes painful kinds of things, shows that I am surrendering my "right" to use lust, and they go a very long way toward aiding my recovery.
But if I only do those things, and consider the avodah the recovery itself, I am a fool. I'll screw up for sure, that way. That'd be taking the fight in my own hands all over again, and that's how I got into this mess to begin with! It'd be proof positive that I am still pretending that my problem was the lusting/schmutz/masturbation - but the truth is that my drugs of choice are just my way of dealing with my actual perceptions: that life is unfair and scary, that people are beneath me and no good, and that I am a useless stinker. My lust problem is a symptom of my own brokenness. If I don't learn a new attitude toward life, people, and myself, I'm doomed.
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 Category: Food for Thought
Article of Interest
This article was published on The Yeshiva World News on Erev Yom Kippur. While it's no "news" to our members, it puts our work into perspective.
You may choose to forward the link or repost on social media - as a "curiosity" you have stumbled upon.
You never know who may see it!
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