Margie's Blog: What I Wish I'd Said To Lisa Ling About BDSM
"Our America with Lisa Ling" - Shades of Kink - airs on OWN (the Oprah Winfrey Network) on Tuesday, January 22 at 10 p.m. ET/PT.
Last Fall, I had the pleasure of being interviewed by Ms. Ling, whose critically acclaimed show begins its fourth season on the Oprah Winfrey Network . She's tackling the topic of BDSM and felt she needed an 'expert' - a sex therapist knowledgeable about the kink community- to help explain some things to the viewing public.
Ling is intelligent, sincere, and amazingly open minded. It was a lot of fun being interviewed by her - she made it easy. After the interview I thought of lots of things I wished I'd said, which I'm sure is normal. But a few issues stuck in my mind, so I decided to write about them. And now that I've seen the 'Sneak Peek' for the show I have a suggestion for viewers.
The one question that threw me involved a scenario Lisa asked me to 'explain' to viewers who might be shocked or repulsed. Apparently they will show footage of someone who likes to be burned by cigars. How, asked Ling, are we to understand this? As I remember, I fumbled and finally said something about behaviors having a context surrounding them, e.g., the eroticism might have had to do with being 'marked' by a beloved dominant.
Read the rest of the blog here!