Total Leadership News 
September 2013

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It is time for the harvest here on the East Coast.  I hope yours is bountiful and that you have much to celebrate.  Our research team finished two book-length manuscripts this summer.  Baby Bust, based on a 20-year study through Wharton's Work/Life Integration Project, will be out in two weeks.  And a follow-up to Total Leadership is drafted and set for 2014 publication.  Both projects are intended to spur cultural change and enhance people's lives. 

 

Total Leadership continues to be contagious in public and private organizations worldwide.  I will speak at the U. S. State Department again next month, for instance, with Secretary Kerry introducing my talk. And students and clients write regularly to tell stories of their latest experiments in pursuit of four-way wins.

 

I hope you find it fruitful to read about these and others updates below.  With appreciation, Stew

                                               

Baby Bust to be Published on October 15 -- Pre-Order Now.

 

On October 15, Wharton Digital Press will publish Baby Bust: New Choices for Men and Women in Work and Family. The book draws on the Wharton Work/Life Integration Project's study of two generations of Wharton students: Gen Xers surveyed in 1992 and Millennials studied in 2012.  We found that the rate of graduates who plan to have children dropped nearly in half over 20 years.   At the same time, men and women are now more aligned in their attitudes about dual-career relationships, and they are opting out of parenthood in equal proportions. But their reasons for doing so are quite different.

 

The book addresses:

  • How views about work and family have changed in the past 20 years
  • Why men and women have different reasons for opting out of parenthood
  • How family has been redefined
  • Why we are all now part of a revolution in work and family
  • What choices we face in our social and educational policy
  • How organizations and individuals -- especially men -- can spur cultural change

Please visit The Wharton Digital Press site to pre-order and to see what Anne-Marie Slaughter, Ellen Galinsky, John Gerzema and others are saying about Baby Bust.

 

Help spread the word and contribute to the conversation!  Please share the pre-order link by email, Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, or otherwise.

 

All proceeds from the sale of this book will go to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI).

 
Follow-up to Total Leadership Set for Fall 2014 Release

I have completed a manuscript for Harvard Business Review Press as a follow-up to Total Leadership.  In this new book, tentatively titled Great Leaders, Good Lives:  The Skills You Need to Live the Life You Want, I profile six great Americans, describe how they use TL skills, and instruct readers about how to practice and develop these skills in their own lives.  The New Yorker-style bios are of Sheryl Sandberg, Tom Tierney, Bruce Springsteen, Julie Foudy, Michelle Obama, and Eric Greitens.  Stay tuned for details!

 

Work/Life Integration Project (WLIP) Student Advisory Board
The Wharton Work/Life Integration Project is launching a student advisory to help bring to life the ideas for action described in Baby Bust by organizing dialogues on campus and beyond.  Watch for news from this remarkable group of young people who are energetically changing the conversation about the choices men and women face in shaping the future of their work and family lives. 

Coursera Course in the Works
Better Leader, Richer Life is the name of the free Coursera course we're now building, with its maiden voyage planned for early 2014.  Perhaps you'll take it!

Work and Life Show on SiriusXM's, Business Radio Powered by Wharton
The Wharton School is partnering with SiriusXM to launch a new radio channel and I will be hosting The Work and Life Show.  Watch for news of our first show in the next few months.  And please get in touch with me if you'd like to be a guest or want to recommend someone.

 

Creating Sustainable Change -- How People Use TL

  

Two TL alumni -- Shockyou Shiozaki, WG '10 (pictured below) and Goshin Mizuno, WG '12 -- partnered to deliver TL in Japan with the new Japanese edition.   

 

Here's what Goshin reported: "We made a first foot print of TL in Japan. Shockyou made an excellent presentation, navigating the audience well. I am privileged to be part of TL program."  

 

And here's what Shockyou had to say: "We successfully completed our first TL workshop. The feedback was very positive. The time was tight but we were able to finish everything according to our schedule. Goshin was a great support and helped me plan the workshop as well as facilitating the coaching sessions. I could not have done this without his ideas and encouragement."

 

Brad Jiulianti, WG '09 wrote: "In retrospect your class was incredibly valuable to me.  I still use TL as a touchstone and give it to folks on my team frequently.  My wife, who is also an executive at Capital One, also loves the book and the tools.  We have a family meeting every week and one piece of the agenda is choosing an experiment for the week.  This week we're each writing thank you notes to an old manager. What I have loved about the course is that as she and I have each gotten more responsibility at home (we have a 2 year old and a 6 month old) and at work the lessons have been even more relevant and practical. I am truly grateful for the opportunity to take your course.  It was a great experience for me."

 

Michelle Schultz, WG '09 wrote about her ongoing experiments: "I mentor a more junior marketing person at AbbVie.  I also sit on the board of my college choir, and mentored three young women as they planned their spring tour for the choir. This let me engage with music ( sadly I'm not performing now), execute on my desire to mentor, and find a means to volunteer some time so I could, ironically, feel less busy at work...I nearly burned out over the summer and became rather unproductive and overwhelmed as a result. I had to take stock, get external coaching, clarify expectations with my manager, and commit myself to focusing on experiments in the "self" domain while dialing dial back the work domain.   It worked: I'm now working less, spending more time on myself and my loved ones (including Sunday gym dates with my boyfriend), and negotiated a promotion at work as a result of revising expectations and clarifying what is most important.  And I've got more energy to boot...The experiments continue.  Thanks for teaching me the skills do to this."  

 

Monica Logan, WG '03, got in touch to say this: "I was in your first class TL class.  It was one of my favorite experiences from WEMBA.   As life evolves, the concepts ring true even more."

 

Recent Posts at HBR.org

 

How to Make a Job Sharing Situation Work

Job sharing - splitting a full-time position into two part-time jobs - is an increasingly popular flexible work arrangement. But is it really possible to share a job with another person? How can you make what looks good on paper work in reality?

"There are a wide variety of reasons to choose a job sharing arrangement - it might be to take care of a dependent, to work another job, or to advance one's education," says Stew Friedman, a professor of management at the Wharton School and author of Total Leadership: Be a Better Leader, Have a Richer Life.  Read more.

Men: Win at Work by Leaning In at Home

 

Research shows that many men want to have richer lives, with greater emotional engagement and joy in their family lives and bigger contributions to their households. But they face substantial barriers at work, in their homes, and inside their own heads. 

Just as women need support from their organizations and their families to surmount the hurdles of fear and tradition, men need help in getting past the roadblocks that keep them from engaging more fully as caregivers and homemakers. And, of course, for women to advance in the world of work, men must advance in the world of home. The really good - seemingly paradoxical - news is that when men find smart, creative ways to "lean in" at home, they also perform better at work. Read more.

 

New Tool for Taking the Four-Way View

 

If you're wondering how you can successfully integrate your work, home, community and self, check out this new assessment tool at Harvard Business Review.

 

Recognition

In June I was honored to receive a Work Life Legacy Award from the Families and Work Institute at Cipriani in New York City along with Lisa Belkin, Stephanie Coontz and others.
 
I am humbled to be on the short list for the Thinkers50 Leadership Award. On a panel with esteemed colleagues -- Amy Edmondson, Tammy Erickson, and Lynda Gratton -- I'll be  addressing What Tomorrow Looks Like -- The Future of Work at their Gala Awards in London in November. 

 

Books We Like  

 

Springboard: Launching Your Personal Search for Successby my colleague at Wharton, Richard Shell, cites research, personal anecdotes, and spiritual wisdom in a compelling and wide-ranging discussion of the meaning of success and how to attain it.
 

Leadership Conversations: Challenging High Potential Mangers to Become Great Leaders, by Alan Berson and Richard Stieglitz, details the differences between what works for rising stars on the way up, but backfires once they've achieved success.

 

Getting to 50/50: How Working Parents Can Have It Allby Sharon Meers and Joanna Strober, is the updated re-release of this highly readable and very useful guide.
  
 
Total Leadership -- 
in Polish, Russian, English, Portuguese, Japanese, Chinese   
  

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Causes We Support

 

Total Leadership is devoted to helping those who suffer from mental illness and their familes. We support bringchange2mind.org and NAMI. The National Alliance on Mental Illness "is the country's leading nonprofit dedicated to helping ALL people live mentally healthier lives." Please consider supporting them too.  

 

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