"That what does not kills us makes us stronger." 

- Frederick Nietzsche

Flexible. Adaptable. Independent. Resilient. Our world loves and admires people who can master change, survive trauma, work through adversity, and come out on top. One of the top skills businesses look for in new employees is flexibility, a top trait that also fosters resiliency. 

Regardless of your personal adversity or trauma, skills that support resiliency can help you survive some of the toughest times in your life including the loss of a spouse, long-term unemployment, or an intense organizational change at work.  We may survive and sometimes we are the same. Sometimes we may perceive ourselves as worse off. But survival can also give us the new experience of post traumatic growth. We may feel closer to others, experience strength we didn't know possible or appreciate life more in general. 

Feldman and Kravetz suggest there are four common traits of the super resilient including accepting social support. Accepting help sometimes flies in the face of the much-admired attributes of independence, autonomy, self-direction, and self-reliance. But when it comes to managing stress, trauma and crisis, being OK with accepting help promotes bouncing back quicker and perhaps, with more strength than before. 

What are my resources? 

How comfortable do I feel asking for help?

Who in my network am I comfortable asking for help?

If I am not comfortable, what am I committed to do to become more comfortable asking for and receiving help? 

Coaching Specialties: career, leadership, life events (retirement prep, caregiving, home management), personal enrichment