Anger, Stress, & Time Management
In this issue...
Beauty and the Beast
It's On Like Popcorn
How Do You Manage?
Ask Tina
Me Time
Stress and Time management
Time Management is Personal
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November 2012
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While on life's journey, we will all certainly face some level of stress. We may find ourselves challenged with getting through our daily tasks, and there will be things that will no doubt make us angry. What I've come to know is that it's how we manage these challenges that makes all the difference in our lives. 

 

This month, Journey has enlisted the help of a few sister friends who have discovered techniques to successfully manage anger, stress, and their time.  

 

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Blueberry Salad

Blueberry Salad

INGREDIENTS:

C. vegetable oil
C. balsamic vinegar
2 tsp. Dijon mustard
C. raspberry preserves

tsp. salt

1 (10 oz) pkg fresh spinach, torn

1 (4 oz) pkg blue cheese, crumbled

1 C. fresh blueberries

red onion, sliced

C. chopped pecans, toasted

 

DIRECTIONS:

 

In blender, combine the first five ingredients and blend well. In a large salad bowl, toss the spinach, blue cheese, onions, blueberries and pecans. Add dressing and toss gently; serve immediately.

 

 

211 cal, 19 g fat (2 g sat, 4 g mono), 10 mg cholesterol, 10 g carbs, 0 g added sugars, 4 g protein, 5 g fiber, 354 mg sodium, 627 mg potassium, 6 WW points

 

 

 

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Fish Foil Packets

INGREDIENTS

 

C. chopped shallots 
2 tbsp. finely chopped fresh parsley or tarragon
2 tbsp. capers, rinsed and chopped
C. lemon juice

 

2 tbsp. dry white wine

2 tbsp. extra-virgin olive oil

2 tsp. Dijon mustard

1 tsp. salt, or to taste

1 pd. Pacific sole or flounder fillets, cut into 4 portions

  

Potatoes or vegetables can be added to the packet 

 

DIRECTIONS
   
Preheat a gas or charcoal grill. 
 
Combine shallots, parsley and capers in a small bowl.  Whisk lemon juice, wine, oil and mustard in a small bowl or glass measuring cup.

 

 

Stack two 20-inch sheets of foil (the double layers will help protect the ingredients on the bottom from burning).  Coat the center of the top layer with cooking spray.  Arrange   of the potatoes, slightly overlapping, to form a 5- to 6-inch circle in the center of the foil.  Sprinkle with a dash of salt; set a piece of fish on the potatoes.  Top with of the shallot mixture and 1 tbsp of the lemon juice mixture.  Bring the short ends of the foil together, leaving room in the packet for steam to cook the food.  Fold the foil over, pinch to seal. Pinch seams together along the sides. Make sure all the seams are tightly sealed to keep steam from escaping. Make 3 more packets with the remaining ingredients.

Place the packets on a gas grill over medium heat or charcoal grill 4-6 inches from medium coals. Cover the grill and cook until the potatoes are tender and the fish is opaque in the center, 8-10 min, depending on the thickness. (When opening a packet to check for doneness, be careful of steam). To serve, us a spatula to slide the contents of the packet onto a plate. Top with the remaining lemon juice mixture.

 

268 cal, 8 g fat, (1 g sat, 6 g mono), 53 mg cholesterol, 24 g carbs, 0 g added sugars, 23 g protein, 2 g fiber, 424 mg sodium, 344 mg potassium,  7 WW points

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Italian Marinated Flank Steak

Flank Steak

INGREDIENTS  

 

2 pounds flank steak

1 8 -ounce bottle light Italian salad dressing

salt (optional - to taste)

pepper (optional - to taste)


DIRECTIONS    

 

Pour the Italian salad dressing over the flank steak and marinate for at least 4 hours.
 
Grill the flank steak to the desired doneness.
 
Slice the flank steak across the grain in thin strips. (It's easiest with an electric carving knife, but if you don't have one, just use the sharpest large knife you've got.)

Serves 6

 

180 cal (4 oz), 7 g fat, 0 g carbs, 28 g protein, 75 mg sodium,  4 WW points

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BEAUTY AND THE BEAST

Stylicia A. Bowden

Stylicia A. Bowden

 

Life can bring out the beauty in us all, but the beast can be resurrected during times that we feel under pressure. There is a beast that lies dormant on the inside of every woman and every man. In order to bring out the beauty, we must confront the beast by discovering and solving the problem. For example, the beast that raged on the inside of me was the spirit of anger. I was accustomed to lashing out in anger when someone upset me. My anger was harmful because I was a passive aggressive person. A passive-aggressive person is one that does not express their anger, but suppresses it. 

 

Over the years I have learned to confront my anger, and get to the root of why I was out of control. Anger is a normal emotion that we all deal with in life. However, we have to be conscientious about how we deal with our anger. Below are some simple steps to tame the beast and bring out your beauty:

  

  • Assessment. When someone triggers the angry beast within you, before you react out of emotion, stop and assess whether the situation is worth getting angry over.
  • Evaluate. Examine the mood you were in before you got angry. Sometimes our outburst is the result of other issues. 
  • Confront. When you become angry, confront the person that has aroused this emotion. Before you confront the person who made you angry, make sure you have calmed down.   
  • Resolve. If your anger results in behavior that is abusive, it is important to seek counseling for anger management. 

  

Anger is a natural emotion, but it's how we allow this emotion to be expressed that will result in a positive or negative outcome. 

 

Control your anger by confronting your anger!

 

 Stylicia Bowden is a native of Detroit, Michigan who started writing at the age of eight. Ms. Bowden is a poet, blogger, speaker, businesswoman, and the author of four poetry books. Her fifth book, "The Inspirational Corner" is currently available at  www.styliciabowden.com 

IT'S ON LIKE POPCORN

Monica Swann

Monica Swann

 

 

Pop, pop, pop, pop pity pop!

That's the sound of my favorite stress management tool: bubble wrap. To the average person, it's good for packing precious items; to me, it's good for relaxing my spirit.  

Stress comes in all shapes and sizes, and has become so pervasive, that it seems to permeate everything and everybody. Stress contributes to heart disease, high blood pressure, strokes, and other illnesses in many individuals. Stress also affects the immune system, which protects us from many serious diseases and is an unavoidable consequence of life. Distress is everywhere from getting the kids off to school, to paying your bills, to balancing the economy of the U.S. Without stress, there would be no life. However, just as distress can cause disease, there are good stressors called eustress, also known as positive stress that promotes wellness. 

 

How do you manage the stress in your everyday activities?Your answer can make the difference between life and death. Counting to ten is good, and going out for some air is even better, but what about those times when you just can't get away, or when fifteen minutes later you've only counted to 4? There are many stress management techniques on the market, but finding the right tool for you will prove most beneficial, because "calgon" can't always take you away.

 

Bubble wrap is just one cool way that I use to relieve stress. I save the bubble wrap from packages that I receive at work, and when stressful moments attempt to overtake me, I start popping and my office sounds like popcorn in a microwave. Two minutes later, I usually feel much better while having fun in the process. This puts a smile not only on my face, but my coworker's faces as well. 

 

I encourage you to take a moment to find a fun, easy, and cool way to relieve your stress and add years to your life. 

  

Monica Swann is a mother to all, a grandmother, and is currently pursuing her doctorate in Public Policy.  She runs a youth leadership development non-profit located in Maryland www.tasplace.org, and enjoys exercising, reading, watching movies and dancing.

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HOW DO YOU MANAGE? 
 
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 We are all faced with stressful and upsetting situations. Some of us have things we do regularly that make dealing with the stress of everyday life bearable. Here is how some of our sister friends deal with anger and stress, and manage their time.  

 

Getting enough sleep helps me with both anger and time management. I can't be at my best if I don't get my rest. I also understand that I do my best work between the hours of 12:00pm and 3:00pm; the hours after 3:00 are reserved for me!

Rosalyn Byers

 

Managing my time comes very easy. We get messed up because we don't know how to use the word no properly. Respect your time, and people will learn to respect you. Remember this, You can always turn a no into a yes, but turning a yes into a no (I changed my mind) can damage a friendship.

Evelyn Jackson

 

I stop and reflect on a few [bible] verses and keep it moving. Not much stresses me out because there is not much in life you can truly control. Once one grasps that thought; anger and stress will subside. Faith with works.

Shonda Gibson

 

To deal with stress, I like working out, having sex, and/or talking to someone who will give me the best God given answer. I try to get things off my chest so I don't allow them to consume me.  

Sonja Z. Cavness

 

To deal with my stress and anger I write and keep busy. The ways that I manage my time is through my Google calendar and Cozi family calendar. We have a family push board and we also have family meetings to go over our schedules.

Shacara A. Jefferson

 

Sometimes I have to sit myself in timeout. I usually write my thoughts in a journal, because my journal never judges me and is open 24/7. Since I was diagnosed with cancer, there is always something on my mind, but journaling has helped. Sometimes it feels like the world is on my back, but writing about whatever is on my mind helps me to vent and get some of the stress out.

Alisa Porter


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ASK TINA

 

"I have always struggled with saying no. I understand that saying yes when I really mean no can be detrimental to my business as well as my sanity, but there are times when I'm tempted to accept a project or client when I know I shouldn't. Help!"

  
Tina Says...   

 

Saying no can be a challenge when yes seems easier to roll off your lips. The problem is you probably feel a sense if guilt when declining an offer. Therefore, you are beating yourself up for saying yes when you really wanted to say no. Guess what? Just as easy as you responded with yes, the same can be done with the word no.

 

If there is a project or client that you feel you are unable to accept, be honest with them and yourself. Identify the reasons you choose to decline, and make sure they are valid reasons. For example, don't say you have a lot on your plate. Instead, rephrase your statement and say, "I'm currently working on x amount of projects that would not allow me to give your project the attention it deserves." No, you can't squeeze one more project into you to do list. No, you can't afford for your other projects or customers to suffer because you made the decision to add just one more assignment. Why? Because there just may be several 'one more assignments' that come your way. 

 

In a nutshell, you are tempted to accept because you don't want to feel guilty at the conclusion of the conversation. Work towards changing your way of thinking. You know why you want to decline the offer. Stick to your guns and don't allow guilt to enter your mind. It is your right to be selective when it comes to clients and projects.

 
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Lisa Dixon

ME TIME!

Lisa Dixon

 

 

My stress really began to increase when I got married two years ago. At the time I was working and going to college full time. I was also a mother, and responsible for the up keep of our apartment. My husband was in a trade school taking an electrical course, so I figured that I could continue to cover the bills during that period. At the time I didn't realize that the bills would go up because of the additional person in the house and it began to take a toll on me.

 

It took my husband over a year to get his first job and it paid minimum wage. My mind was blown. But because he had no hands on experience he didn't get paid well. My stress level was through the roof because the high expectations I had for my husband were not met. 

 

So here's how I began to handle the stress. When I got home from work, I would sit alone in my car for 15 minutes to relax before going into the house. Once inside, I would go into the bathroom, light two candles, and take a shower. After that I would start dinner, then talk to my daughter and help her with homework. I would then go to my husband and tell him how much I loved him, give him a nice kiss, and ask him to finish dinner while I got ready for school. I  continued this until I graduated. 

 

The secret was that I started taking time out for myself between all that I was doing for others. I realized that I was neglecting myself. I started taking care of my sanity so that I could remain calm enough to balance a marriage, school, and still have time for my child and myself.

 

Lisa Dixon, is a 46 year old married mother of two. She holds a BA in Psychology and works full time at a hospice. Lisa enjoys ministering to others. Her goal is to allow the Lord to use her to do his will. 

Heather Jensen STRESS AND TIME MANAGEMENT   
Heather Jensen 

  

  

As most moms know, there is nothing more rewarding then motherhood. However, with the rewards, being a single working mother can also bring stress that may be difficult to overcome. The daily routine of juggling the kids, homework, and other activities, can seem a bit much at times. I endure multiple levels of physical and mental stress daily, but I have learned to eliminate some of it with a little more preparation and organization before the hectic work week begins. 

 

My work week really begins on Sundays, which is the day that I prepare for the upcoming week. Meals that can be prepared ahead of time are cooked, portioned, and stored while I do laundry. I even label what night prepared meals will be eaten to save time during the week.

 

The last thing I want to be concerned about in the morning is pulling and matching clothes, and arguing with my 6 and 9 year olds about what fits and what's cool. Clothes are paired and hung together with a pair of under garments and socks in their closet. In the morning, they're able to just grab their clothes and get dressed without a battle or my assistance. 

 

The final Sunday task is the preparation of all snacks that will be included in lunches during the week. Snacks are placed into zip lock sandwich bags for easy packing at night. I also sack "breakfast on the go" in case of a late morning.

 

Being as organized as possible makes our mornings easier and provides more time for myself at night. I know it is a crazy thought, but "me time" gives me a chance to crochet, watch a movie, or read a book. I can also meditate by listening to peaceful music and reflecting on all the accomplishments and blessings in my life. It provides a moment for my mind to clear and recharge for the next day.

 

Heather Langan Jensen is a marketing assistant and the proud mother of two amazingly well rounded boys. She's the founder of Our Place, a working mothers meet and play group. She also works with charities such as March of Dimes, Nevus, and Third Street Alliance. 

Sheila HawkinsTIME MANAGEMENT IS PERSONAL 
Sheila Hawkins


There never seems to be enough time get everything done. Time is elusive; it's intangible. You can't see or touch it, it can't be captured or moved, and it's hard to conceptualize. If you can change your perception of time, develop a more tangible view of it, and change your habits, you can master it. First you must realize that since time is not a tangible thing, there really is no such thing as time management. You have to manage yourself.  

 

Secondly, you have to realize that it's personal. It's easy to choose a tool, but the tool you choose won't work for you if it's not a fit. Years ago a friend of mine purchased an electronic productivity tool and hated it. It didn't work for her because it didn't fit her personality. Her personality traits were a fit for a paper tool rather than an electronic one. Just choosing a tool to manage your time without knowing what type of tool fits is like walking into a store and buying an outfit or a pair of shoes without considering your size. You have to understand how you relate to time and choose a tool accordingly.

 

The additional personal component is to know your prime time™.  Life becomes much easier when you work according to your energy cycles. Pay attention to your energy level and mental activity at various times of the day. Perhaps physically and mentally your energy is up until the afternoon then drops off, or maybe your juices don't get flowing until later. Use that higher energy time for priority task and other times for lower priority tasks.

 

Once you understand how you relate to time, you're on your way to increased productivity, which is vital to success in both your personal and business lives.  

 

Sheila Hawkins is President/CEO of Third Eye Group based in Detroit, Michigan. She provides customized professional organizing services for individuals, coaches and solopreneurs. Learn more by visiting  www.thirdeyegroup.net.

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Later Sister Friends! 

 

We appreciate you joining us for this issue and hope that we have given you some tools to help you manage your anger, stress levels, and time. In your quest to find balance, we want to assure you that your Sister Friends are here to support you. They have selflessly shared their experiences, success stories, and tips sure to help you find a healthy balance. In this issue, we want to encourage you to take the steps necessary to live a happier, healthier, more harmonious life.

 

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