Before You Touch Her Body - Part 2
By C.J. Mahaney
What we love, we want to learn about. And what we love to study, we come to love even more. That's just the way God has wired us.
Because I have this passion for my wife, I have studied her. I've noticed and noted details about her. All kinds of details. Everything from the kinds of snacks she likes, to what certain facial expressions reveal, to this one particular freckle that only I see.
As I have studied her - seeking to learn what pleases, excites, honors, encourages, refreshes, and helps her - my love for her has only increased.
The truth that can change your marriage
If you remember nothing else from this article, remember this:
In order for romance to deepen, you must touch the heart and mind of your wife before you touch her body.
These notes are my building blocks for creating and cultivating a more romantic marriage.
To learn how to touch your wife's heart and mind, you must study her. Here are two lists that may be helpful. You can probably add to them.
Do you know how to surprise and delight your wife in specific ways in each of the following areas?
* sex
* clothing sizes, styles, and stores
* jewelry
* health
* exercise
* books and magazines
* movies
* the arts
* sports
* food
* music
* entertainment
* places to visit
* intellectual interests
* hobbies
* vacations/getaways
* and, of course, sex
Do you know how your wife is faring in each of these areas?
* theological knowledge
* practice of the spiritual disciplines
* growth in godliness
* spiritual gifts that can be used to serve others
* involvement in the local church
* relationship with children
* relationship with parents
* relationship with in-laws
* relationship with friends
* personal retreats
* fears
* hopes
* dreams
* disappointments
* temptations
How much of this information do you have readily available to you, preferably in written form?
How much do you really know about your wife in each of these areas?
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