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October, 2013

Welcome to s2s Insights!
Welcome to the Steps to Socialization newsletter 
s2s Insights
. Each month
'Social Thoughts' contains a theme article on a relevant social topic. Informative articles or books related to the theme can be found in 'News and Reviews'. The 'Tips and Tools' section contains social thinking tips and activities. 'In the Neighborhood' covers related events and programs.

Have you ever said 'I know what you're thinking' to someone? How did you know what was in their mind? How did you know what their thoughts were? This month we're thinking about thoughts!
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Social Thoughts

 

Thoughts are the ideas we have. Thoughts are the words or pictures we have in our brains. They are usually silent. We always have thoughts. We think about the people, places and things going on around us. Thoughts pass through our consciousness quickly so that sometimes it feels like we aren't aware that we had a thought.


We can often figure out what someone else is thinking about by observing what they are looking at. If you see your friend looking at his watch, he's most likely thinking about the time. If you're at work and it's getting close to the end of the day, you can be pretty sure he's thinking about going home.

 

If we know someone very well we might even say 'Hey I know what you're thinking!". We use our knowledge of the person, our social memory, and the information we are taking in from the situation to make smart guesses and predictions about others. For example, you and your friend usually eat lunch around 1 PM and she very often orders grilled cheese. If you notice your friend looking at her watch at 12:30 you're probably going to think that she's getting hungry and is ready to order that sandwich. If you turned around and said, ' I bet you're thinking about ordering lunch', you'd probably be correct.

 

Not everyone has the same thoughts or the same information in their brain. If we want to tell our friend about the movie we saw, we begin by saying that we went to the movies and tell the title. Then we describe/explain the story. We don't launch into a description without giving them a frame of reference for what we are talking about. They wouldn't understand or follow the conversation.

 

 

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Tips and Tools
 

Concept of the Month: Thoughts 
Many children don't understand that we are always thinking about what is going on around us. Because thoughts are silent, they don't realize that everyone has them. Here are some suggestions for making thinking more conscious.

 

Activity #1: The purpose of this activity is demonstrate that we can figure out what someone is thinking about by following their eye gaze. Explain that what someone is looking at is usually what they are thinking about. Take turns looking at different objects. First ask your child to tell you what it is you are looking at. then ask them to make a smart guess as to what you could be thinking.

 

Activity #2: What we think and what we say are not always the same. We use our social filter so we don't offend people. Draw 'thought bubbles' and 'talk bubbles' to demonstrate the difference between your thoughts and your words.

 

Activity #3: Talk about what you are thinking. Our thoughts are usually silent, they stay in our heads. Say what you're thinking out loud. 'I notice that man is pacing back and forth and looking at his watch. I think he's waiting for someone and they're late. He's probably getting upset.'

 

 

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