According to www.History.com, "The history of Valentine's Day -- and its patron saint -- is shrouded in mystery. According to one of the legends, Valentine actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl -- who may have been his jailor's daughter -- who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today." Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France."

Leo Buscaglia said, "There is nothing greater in life than loving another and being loved in return, for loving is the ultimate of experiences. Of all human relationships, there are none more vital and enduring than loving relationships." Ellen Kreidman, the author of How to Light His Fire, and How to Light Her Fire, says that people fall in love because they feel wonderful about themselves in the other person's company. A sense of oneness develops. Both members of the relationship feel valued and appreciated. A higher order of intimacy and understanding prevails. Self-esteem and personal worth are elevated. Selfishness is arrested while selflessness is given free reign. There is a special growing and nurturing dynamics that occurs through the commitment and closeness. It becomes a partnership of equals.

Loving relationships based on this kind of consideration and solidarity usually last. Enduring hardships are a joint concern. Fairness, empathy and tenderness seem to be the chief strategies loving couples use to lessen the cracks and bumps in the relationship.

As Valentine's Day approaches, here is a list of things to consider to honor and celebrate our relationships:

*tell our spouses, significant others how much they mean to us
*send cards or write personal notes
*make a special meal at home or go out to dinner
*do something romantic which can include hearts, flowers, chocolate, jewelry, the color red or pink
*think about what love means to us
*give thanks for all the love in our lives
*do something loving for friends and family

Loving relationships don't just happen. We develop and cultivate them. It requires time, patience and most of all, true respect and concern for the other person.