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Sometimes love requires confronting people. But it must be done in the right way, and only over the right issues. If you spend your life correcting people you'll finish up with no credibility, and no friends.
At what point should you confront somebody? Only when you've answered these questions: (a) Is it important? If it involves a destructive habit, an abusive behavior, a major doctrinal error, or a situation that could hurt them, it's important - get involved. (b) Is it chronic? If you observe the same thing happening over and over, it doesn't have to be big to get your love in gear. (c) Have you earned the right to speak? If a casual acquaintance does something unwise, it's probably none of your business. But if someone close to you does it, it's both appropriate and loving to say, 'That will hurt you.'
Paul points out four things about love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-5: (1) 'It is not rude.' It doesn't use the aggressive, heavy-handed approach. (2) 'It is not self-seeking.' It forgets about the need to be accepted, and makes sure that what the other person hears is filtered only by kindness. It refuses to walk away having spoken half the truth. (3) 'It is not easily angered.' When you confront someone in love, don't be upset if you get an angry response such as, 'Who are you to tell me?' The right medicine doesn't taste good, but it heals. (4) 'It keeps no record of wrongs.' When you have been hurt, it's critical that you deal with it and put it behind you. Only then can you confront someone for their own good.
God Bless you.
In Mary Help of Christians,
I remain,
Fr. Jim McKenna SDB
Director
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Walking with the Church
Q. I have been writing or phoning various Congregations of Nuns or priests in Religious Orders for prayers which I badly need. Am I right in doing this because I know I am a sinner especially with sins against the sixth commandment and I feel a hypocrite at times. A. One of the beliefs of our Catholic Faith expressed in the Creed is that the Church is a Communion of Saints. The faithful on earth and the Saints in Heaven are all part of the mystical body of Christ and being part of the one spiritual body whatever we do has an effect on the rest of the body. Our good actions and our prayer for others has an effect for good on those we pray for and on the other members of the church. So because we are one in Christ and in communion with one another, we can help one another by our prayers. The prayers of the faithful here on earth can help the souls in Purgatory and also be a help to those who are still on their pilgrim journey through life. So when we ask others to pray for us we are acknowledging our belief in the communion of saints. Daily in the mass we pray for all others in the Church with the belief that our prayers will help them. We are all sinners, all in need of prayer, all in need of its great power. Let us pray for one another.
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 How to handle insult
One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others," he shouted. "You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake."
Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?"
The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift."
The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself."
"If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy." *$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$*$ Beautiful Quotes
If you are right then there is no need to get angry
And if you are wrong then you don't have any right to get angry.
Patience with family is love,
Patience with others is respect,
Patience with self is confidence and
Patience with GOD is faith.
Every test in our life makes us bitter or better,
Every problem comes to make us or break us,
Choice is ours whether we become victim or victorious !!!
Search a beautiful heart, not a beautiful face.
Beautiful things are not always good
but good things are always beautiful.
Do you know, why God created gaps between fingers?
So that someone who is special to you, comes and fills those gaps by
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 Laughter the best Medicine
Exam By Chance
A young student reports for a final examination that consists of only true/false type statements.
The student takes a seat in the hall, stares at the question paper for five minutes, removes a coin and starts tossing the coin and marking the answer sheet. Heads means true, tails means false.
The young student is all done in 30 minutes while the rest of the class is sweating it out. But, suddenly, during the last few minutes, the young student is seen desperately throwing the coin and sweating profusely. The moderator, alarmed, approaches the student and asks what is going on.
"Well, I finished the exam in half an hour," says the student, "but I thought I ought to recheck my answers."
In Need of Prayer
A young boy called the pastor of a local "corner" church to ask the pastor to come by to pray for his mother who had been very ill with the flu.
The pastor knew the family and was aware they had been attending another church down the road.
So the pastor asked, "Shouldn't you be asking Pastor Simon down the road to come by to pray with your mom?"
The young boy replied, "Yeah, but we didn't want to take the chance that he might catch whatever this is that Mom has."
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 The Devotion of the Three Hail Marys
The devotion of the THREE HAIL MARYS is a very simple yet most efficacious devotion.
Everyday, recite Three Hail Marys, adding the invocation: "O Mary, My Mother, keep me from mortal sin." Many people recite the Three Hail Marys as part of their morning and night prayers. To practice this devotion in time of danger, stress, special need or temptation, is a sure means to obtain Our Lady's help.
It was 15th December 2015 and I had made some purchases from the local supermarket and the road was narrow and crowded. In my hand I had a walking stick and a bag. A truck was reversing and I was behind it. There was no one to alert the driver. I saw the truck coming towards me but I was too feeble to get out of the way. I was struck on the thigh and fell forward out of the way of the vehicle. I firmly believe I was saved by the help of Our Lady and the powerful intercession of the 3 Hail Marys.
Francisca A. Kava, Monroe, NY
Our heartfelt thanks to Mary Help of Christians and Don Bosco for the grace of a good and peaceful death to my brother. The intercessory prayers of seminarians, relatives and friends brought about a dramatic turnaround after years of separation. He was indeed saved by the grace of God. Mrs. M. J. John, NY
Baby April was gifted to Sheryl and Bruce after 7 years. Suddenly, a month later the baby contracted meningitis and was hospitalised. Everyone had recourse to Mother Mary and prayed the 3 Hail Marys. Thanks to Jesus, Mother Mary, Don Bosco and Dominic Savio the baby recovered. A Devotee
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In Closing
Dear devotees of Our Lady and Don Bosco,
If you have received a miracle through the intercession of Our Blessed Mother, we would like to hear from you. Email us at MaryShrine@aol.com.
Bookstore hours: Monday - Saturday - 10 am to 5 pm, Sundays: 12 - 4 pm
Confessions on weekdays begin at 11.30 am.
Weekday Masses: 12 noon.
Sunday Masses: 11 am and 12.30 pm
Other activities: Day Retreats, Weekend retreats, Don Bosco Summer Camp, Friday night Lenten Pasta Dinners, 50/50 raffle, 350 club, Rosary Madonna Statue.
Rent Lomagno Hall, Rent our Banquet Hall.
MEMORIES
Remember a Loved One: Engrave plaques on Wall of Memories, adopt a Tree, Engrave blocks on Walk of Honor, All Souls, All year Candle lighting, Holiday (Christmas and Easter), Flowers, Schedule a Mass, Bell Chimes.
MASS INTENTIONS
To offer a mass intention, please write to
Fr. Jim McKenna SDB
174 Filors Lane,
Stony Point, NY 10980
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Marian Shrine
174 Filors Lane, Stony Point, NY 10980
(845) 947-2200
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