September causes many people to focus on back to school activities such as registration, fees for after-school activities, supplies, books, and clothes, to name few. For those who have college-aged children, this might have started for you a couple of weeks ago, if not at the beginning of August. If you are wondering what back-to-school has to do with coaching, I say everything! It is a wonderful time for us to think about our education (development). "Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world." ~ Nelson Mandela
One thing I know is true: if you are a coach reading this newsletter you are excited about and committed to the coaching profession because you want to make an impact in someone's life ... change the world!
And so, it is back to school time for us as coaches as well. What classes, aka development, will help propel you towards achieving your 2015 goals or will position you for greater success in 2016? You are in the final stretch for this year, and I know you want to finish strong! Is it delegating more so that you can spend your valuable time on tasks that achieve your goals or income generating activities? Is it blogging, writing articles, or speaking more to position yourself as an expert? Maybe inviting more people to work with you (sales) will help you close the year strong. Whatever your development areas, check out our offerings as well as our sister chapters. We have some exciting programs coming up in the months to come. If speaking in front of your ideal target audience to position yourself as an expert is one of your goals, consider the "The Art and Business of Speaking" event on September 18, with Denise Hedges. You can sign-up here. If you are looking to developing your coaching skills, the Washington DC Chapter will be hosting a conference in Bethesda, MD on October 3 and 4. The agenda, list of speakers, and program can be found at: www.capitalcoachesconference.org. ICF Global Update By now you have received one or more invitations to participate in the Global Coaching Study. For those who jumped in right away and completed this - THANKS! By doing so you are contributing to research that can be used by coaches globally. Simply click here to complete the survey. ICF-NJ is excited to be a part of your support system and look forward to having you at future events!
Wishing you GREAT success!
Take care, Jennifer Smith, PCC 2015 ICF-NJ President
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"Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life."
~ Wayne Dyer
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Three Steps to Less Stress
by Jamie Sussel Turner, M.Ed, PCC
"I'm stressed all the time," a woman said at a recent workshop, almost proud of the fact. I had asked the participants, all high level leaders, to rate their stress on a ten-point scale. This woman believed her "ten" amount of stress was just a fact of life that couldn't possibly change.
Many of us assume we're stuck with stress. We believe we have the kind of job or life that mandates stress as a constant companion. Then one day we notice that other people with similar jobs and lives don't seem as stressed as we are.
What's the difference?
Some of us come into the world with a higher propensity for stress -that's just how we're wired. Others seem calm on the surface but feel stress swirling around inside.
Whether our stress is visible to others or not, we each have the ability to lessen our stress. We just don't know it. We feel stuck with stress until we can find another way.
From my experience coaching business leaders (and twelve years as a school principal), I've learned three steps that can help anyone reduce their stress. Here they are:
- Step One: Recognize that reducing stress is a choice (then you can choose to reduce it).
- Step Two: Identify the source of stress (then you can figure out how to reduce it).
- Step Three: Divide stress into what you can control and what you can't control (then you can focus on what you can control).
Here's an example:
Imagine you are frustrated with an employee who we'll call Sam. You want Sam to show up with a better attitude so he stops dragging you and the team down. Sam also happens to be your top producer. This makes you fearful of confronting him, worrying that he'll quit on the spot.
You carry your "Sam stress" around for months. It wakes you up in the middle of the night and interferes with your weekend. You decide this has gone on far too long and you are not going to be stressed out by Sam any longer. (Step one: you recognize that reducing stress is a choice.)
Once you identify that Sam is the source of your stress, you dig deeper and uncover that it's your fear of losing Sam and discomfort with difficult conversations that is getting in your way of taking action. (Step two: you identify the source of stress.)
You realize you can't control Sam's behavior, only Sam can. But, you can coach Sam to help him understand the impact of his attitude and what he can do about it, or you can make the difficult choice to terminate Sam's employment. (Step three: you divide stress into what you can control and what you can't.)
Once you take action and either have that difficult conversation with Sam and/or terminate his employment, you will feel the stress melt away.
"I feel as if a weight has been lifted off me," a client commented recently after a similar situation. You can feel less stress too!
When you stop complaining about stress and instead look at your stress as a choice, you create the opportunity for change - which can result in less stress than you ever imagined was possible.
So, I'd say that we can feel less stress by seeing it as a choice, identifying the source, and focusing on what we can control. Imagine what is possible for you when you make this a regular practice.
Jamie Sussel Turner, M.Ed PCC is an author, speaker, and professional coach. Jamie works with business owners and executives who are stressed because work has taken over their lives. She helps them become clear and confident leaders who build dedicated teams so their businesses are more successful and they have more of a life.
As a former school principal, Jamie has extensive leadership expertise and has earned dual masters degrees. Her book, Less Stress Business: A Guide for Hiring, Coaching and Leading Great Employees was awarded as a finalist in the National Indie Excellence Book Awards. She is an ICF-NJ board member, has earned her PCC credential from ICF and is a certified Social and Emotional Intelligence coach and a Fierce Conversations Certified Facilitator. Jamie's leadership has been featured in journals and newspapers, including The New York Times.
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Join ICF New Jersey for a Special Workshop
"The Art and Business of Speaking"
Featured Presenter Denise Hedges, PCC Date Friday, Sept. 18, 2015 Time 10:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. ET Location FEA Conference Center
12 Centre Drive
Monroe Township, NJ Website: www.feaconference center.com |
Join Us for Our Annual Meeting
"Creating
Coaching
Packages that Enroll and Inspire Clients"
Featured Presenter
Kim Keefe Pisolkar, CEO & Founder of Small Biz BIG Breakthrough
Date
Wed., Oct. 21, 2015
Time
10:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. ET
Location
Hilton Garden Inn
Edison, NJ
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2015 Core Competencies Series
"Competent to the Core: Mastering the ICF Core Competencies"
Special offering provided in collaboration with the ICF Philadelphia Chapter
Featured Presenter Lynn Meinke, PCC, Founder and CEO of Coaching Services International
Time 7:00 p.m. - 8:15 p.m. ET |
Welcome to Our New ICF-NJ Members!
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Meet Your Fellow ICF-NJ Members at a Community Group Meeting If one of your intentions for 2015 is to up level your coaching skills, build your business or collaborate with like-minded coaches, visit one of our Community Groups:
Bergen County 2nd Wed. of the month 7:30 - 8:30 p.m.
Burlington / Camden / Gloucester Counties 3rd Tues. of the month 7:00 p.m.
Florham Park Area Day and time TBD
Monmouth County 1st & 3rd Mondays (Note: No meeting on 1st Monday in Sept) 4 - 5:30 p.m.
Princeton Area 1st Mon. of the month (Note: Sept's meeting will be on Sept. 14.) 1:30 - 2:45 p.m.
Somerset / Morris Counties 3rd Wed. of the month 12 p.m. ET
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