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The goal of therapy is positive change. Four factors are related to therapeutic change. 1) individual: the client's strengths, persistence , support systems, sense of responsibility; 2) relationship with therapist: caring, empathy, encouragement; 3) hope: positive and hopeful expectation that the therapist will help them feel and do better; and 4) technique: theory and methods of specific treatment approaches. Research shows that the most important factors resulting in change are the quality of the therapeutic relationship and the client's belief and hope. Other elements of change are:
- You can only change yourself. However, you can create opportunities for others to change via your attitude and actions.
- Information, skills, support, and hope are essential for change.
- Believe in the possibility of change: maintain a positive attitude, be a role model of change, reinforce little steps, focus on the future not only the past.
- Experience is the basis of change. Provide your child with new and positive learning experiences, resulting in new expectations ("I can trust you") and positive feelings ("I feel secure and loveable").
- Have a plan with specific goals and ways to achieve your goals.
- Change is a team effort, something you, your spouse/partner, and child work on together.
- Your relationship with your child is the primary vehicle for change.
- Change is not easy; it is a step-by-step, back-and-forth process, and it is normal to be anxious and ambivalent.
- Hope is essential. A positive expectation of success allows you to convey optimism and encouragement to yourself and your child.
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Scheduled Seminars for 2013
Attachment, Trauma and Healing
Pre-conference Institute ATTACh Annual Conference September 18, 2013 San Antonio, TX www.attach.org
Treating Trauma & Attachment Issues in
Children & Families
October 25, 2013
Westminster, VT
contact: Kurn Hattin Homes at 802-721-6932 or skessler@kurnhattin.org
Trauma & Attachment Focused Therapy
November 18, 2013 LaCrosse, WI
November 19, 2013 Roseville, MN
November 20, 2013 Bloomington, WI
contact: PESI Seminars at www.pesi.com
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Ask The Experts
Question:
I have heard that eating dinner together is good for families. It is not always easy getting the whole family together. How important is this?
Answer:
Research shows that eating dinner is good for children. Children who eat dinner with their families are less likely to drink, smoke, do drugs, or develop eating disorders. It is a great time for family connection and talking about the day. Some studies find that Americans rank 23rd out of 25 countries in participation in family meals. Research shows that families can reap most of the same benefits by gathering at other times, like breakfast for example, even if just once per week.
Send us your questions, to our email address at attiepc@aol.com, and we will provide an answer to one of them in our next newsletter.
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