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Happy Easter!  I hope that Easter Day was one of rejoicing and feasting and that you are still singing "Alleluia!"

 

Randy, my Benedictine feline friend, has been very sick.  I truly thought we had lost him and grieved this deeply.  He has written about the trials in his article, tying in Benedict's directives on the care of the sick.  In my article I reflect on "Do not be afraid," words of assurance that I personally need to hear over and over again.   Check out the Book Corner for my review of Meg Funk's latest book, Discernment Matters.

 

I want to alert you that this summer I am taking A Sabbatical so there will be no July/August issue of The Cyber Toolbox.  I will resume in the Fall, adding a new section on vegetarian cooking.  Recall that the early Benedictines were primarily vegetarians, abstaining from four-footed animals (RB 39.11).  (Perhaps they ate chickens?)

 

May we rejoice in these Fifty Days of Easter.  We have been raised with Christ and so, with his help, we can set aside all that keeps us from him.  Alleluia! Alleluia!!

 

                                                                     Jane

 

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Jane to Take a Sabbatical
Mar-Apr 2013

 This is a "heads up" that I will be on a three month Sabbatical to rest and renew from the middle of June through the middle of September marking my fifth year of this ministry.  

I will be doing a May-June newsletter and will resume in October with the September/October issue. 

Mar-Apr 2013
Fra Angelico - 1387-1455
 
Featured Article
 
 
For Nothing Will Be Impossible With God  
 
 
"Place your hope in 
God alone."  RB 4.41

 

 

This morning brought a surprise.  The website I use to access the scriptures on my IPhone (Yes. I've developed this "techno" practice - satucket.com/lectionary) announced that today we were celebrating the Annunciation, our lectionary having moved it out of Holy Week from the usual March 25th date.  With appreciation I again pondered the visit of Gabriel to Mary and her ready acceptance of the call:

 

"Here am I; servant of the Lord.  Be it to me according to your word."

 

I wonder if Benedict ever used the example of Mary as a model of obedience?  Although the Rule makes no mention of her, the early Church Fathers, cited with veneration by Benedict in Chapter 73, saw Mary as the "new Eve" who said "Yes" to God.  Without a doubt she followed with ready step the voice of authority that came to her. (RB 5.8)  Mark Scott offers this thought-"You could say that for Benedict every monk is the Mother of God, because the monk prefers nothing whatsoever to the love of Christ, and who is the one who does that best but Mary, Theotokos, the Mother of God?"[i]

 

I believe that her ready step of obedience (RB 5.8) to God's call was made possible by her already deep practice of faith and trust in God as well as by this assurance of the angel:

 

"The Lord is with you.

Do not be afraid.

...for nothing will be impossible with God."

 

To this, Mary gives her open-hearted assent.

 

When in your life did that needed assurance from God come to you and how did it come?

 

A number of years ago following a particularly difficult time in my life I took a trip to France.  Feeling un-rooted and uncertain about the future, I was looking for a message from God for the rest of my life.  While in the beautiful hilltop town in Vezaley I ventured down a

Mar-Apr 2013
Vezelay - 
 Photo: marc-meneau-esperance

steep, rocky path to see the ruins of the 12th century chapel.  Exhausted from the uneven jaunt down, I was rewarded with an amazing view of the valley below-green, expansive and flowing with fields of crops.  At the edge of the hill there was a large wooden Roman cross where a woman was painting both cross and view.  As I walked by her, still puffing from the arduous journey down the path, we exchanged smiles. 

 

After nosing around the ruins for some time, I glanced at my watch and realized with a jab of panic that the bus was soon to leave Vezelay.  I hurried from the chapel anticipating with dread the steep, rocky climb back up to town. 

 

On the way to the path I met the woman who had been painting, walking towards me with paint box and drawing paper in hand.  Not knowing if she spoke English but needing to voice my distaste over the pending hike, I said, "Oh boy.  I sure dread the climb back up to town."

 

            "You can take the path the goes right from the chapel," she said in English with a French accent and gestured towards a break in some trees by the chapel.

 

            "I'm afraid I don't know that way," I countered.

 

            "Oh, it's easy," she explained reassuringly.  "Just follow the path.  It will lead to a road.  Then follow the road up the hill.  It will take you back to the main road in town."

 

Skeptical, I glanced worriedly again at my watch.  "I don't know...I'm afraid I'll be late, get lost or something."

 

            "It will be fine," she assured me.  "There's only one road and it follows along the curve of the hill back up to town.  It's a bit steep but it's paved and it will bring you in close to where the buses leave."

 

            "Well," I hemmed and hawed waffling in my indecision.  "I should go the way I know.  I'm afraid I'll keep the others waiting."

 

            Then, with the greatest gentleness she looked at me and said, "Don't be afraid; God will guide you."

 

I stared back at her.  Tah-dah!  THIS was message of the trip.

           

            "Don't be afraid; God will guide you."

 

 

Over the years when I've been again afraid, over big things and little, these assuring words come back to me, most often through my best friend who says, "Jane, remember the French woman."  Oh, right..."Don't be afraid. God will guide you."  I have asked God to bless that French woman, my French angel, many times.

 

 

When have you received God's assurance?  What was the situation that was causing you to quake, to lose hope, to despair?  Recall how that assurance came.

 

God's grace pours onto us in many ways, through many different channels.  Looking back on our experiences we can discover The-Hand-Of-Love that carried us through and today rekindle our hope for the future.  We can place our hope in God alone (RB 4.41) and embrace these words... 

 

"The Lord is with you.

Do not be afraid.

...for nothing will be impossible with God."

 

Jane



[i] Mark Scott, O.S.B. At Home with Saint Benedict, p.268.

 

 © April 2013 The Rev. Dr. Jane A. Tomaine

Mar-Apr 2013
Click here to see a good reproduction.
 
Ecce Ancilla Domini! (The Annunciation)
by Dante Gabriel Rosetti 1828-1882
 
In most of the artwork of the Annunciation, Mary is portrayed welcoming the call of God without hesitation.  I can identify with the Mary in this work of art by Dante Gabriel Rosetti (1850).  Here Mary
Mar-Apr 2013
looks perplexed, even frightened in this encounter with the angel.  To me, this seems a deeply human response and the point at which I can draw courage from her.  Her example of ultimate trust in God in spite of whatever initial response she might have had mentors me to trust even though my first response may be
                               disbelief, doubt or fear.

  

A Tool for Moving Towards Trust and Hope

 

Purpose of the Tool:  To develop a practice of replacing fear, worry and other damaging gremlins with trust and hope.

  

Background on the Tool:  Where do you need God's assurance in your life right now?  Is it in a difficult relationship, or in crisis of health, fear of the future, discouragement over a situation that seems irresolvable?  Or is God calling you to a place, an action, a role that you are not sure you can do or fulfill?  Where might God be asking you to step out in faith like Mary?  Do you need assurance that, indeed, you can do whatever is before you that seems impossible?    

 

The Tool:  Live from these words...

 

"The Lord is with you.

Do not be afraid.

...for nothing will be impossible with God."

 

Here are a few suggestions to bring this practice alive.

 

Write the angel's words on small pieces of paper and place these in different places in your home or workplace.  You can even change it to be in the first person singular.

 

          The Lord is with me.

          I will not be afraid.

          ...for nothing will be impossible with God.

 

Make it a practice to say these words each day.

 

You could also choose one situation in which you need assurance and lay the angel's words over your fears.

  

 

            

© April 2013 The Rev. Dr. Jane A. Tomaine

 

 

Mar-Apr 2013
Spotted while jogging through Echo Lake Park in Mountainside, NJ 

 

 

 

 

 

The first daffodils 

of the season

 

 

 
Randy 
The Rule According to Randy

 

Mewsings

 

 

"Place your hope in God alone," Benedict says in Chapter 4 - The Tools for Good Works.  Boy, have I had to do that over the last month!  I'm only now starting to feel and eat better.  Here's what happened to me...

 

Last month I just couldn't eat and was hiding in dark places, so Abbess Jane and Prior John took me to see the vet at the Basking Ridge Animal Hospital.  I had some tests that brought bad news-an enlarged spleen and growths in my stomach.  I thought I was a goner, soon to take my place with departed Benedictine cats in the Paradise Cloister, but I pulled through.  Bottom line is-I have lymphoma and am now getting

a pill everyday except Sunday.  That's my day off. 

 

I haven't been very active as I recover so there's been time to browse through the Rule, searching for what Benedict says about caring for the sick to see if I need to mew a corrective to Abbess Jane.  With glee I found A WHOLE CHAPTER devoted to care of the sick, Chapter 36.  I was pleased to see that "care of the sick must rank above and before all else, so that they may truly be served as Christ" (36.1).  Now I won't equate myself with the Lord, but I have mewed to Abbess Jane that she gets high marks in care of this sick feline.  To entice me to eat she gives me special food and fluffs it up when I mash it down in the bowl.  I also get extra treats and brushes .  She is very careful that I don't suffer any
neglect (36.6).  
 
My vet Dr. Hollo gets high marks, too.  When I stayed overnight in the hospital  he printed a picture of Monte Cassino (where Benedict had his monastery), and taped it inside my hospital room.  I felt right at home!  He removed my spleen which made me feel better-I was in lots of discomfort.  The down side was that I had to wear one of those ridiculous collars for TEN DAYS!   I weakly mewed to the doctor that wearing this was an impossible task and, as Benedict advised, patiently explained why I couldn't wear the thing (RB 68)
Dr. Hollo held his ground and, as a junior, I had to recognize that in the end this was best for me.  In obedience I chose to trust in God and obey (RB 68.4-5).   Adding insult (the collar) to injury (the stitches) I had to spend TEN DAYS in a large cage so that I wouldn't  
Mar-Apr 2013
Randy in collar
jump off high places and tear my stitches.  What a burden!  But in true Benedictine humility I chose to embrace this suffering and endure it without seeking escape (RB 7.35-36).

 

In Chapter 36 Benedict gives some instructions to those who are sick and that's me.  I'm not to make excessive demands that stress Jane or Prior John (36.4).  I don't think I do this, but Target has hissed a word of warning about my demanding special attention.  Instead of hissing back I followed the example of the cellarer and offered "a kind word in reply, for it is written: A kind word is better than the best gift" (31.13-14) and gently purred a reminder of RB 34.3-"Whoever needs less should thank God and not be distressed."  I decided not to report his unkind hiss to Jane even though the shortcomings of the disciples are her responsibility (36.10).  

 

Reading further in Chapter 36 I found a disturbing passage:  "The sick may take baths

whenever it is advisable." (36.8)  In a big hurry I sent Rickey on a search for some white tape so I could cover over this directive in Jane's copies of the Rule before she'd get any crazy ideas like, "Wouldn't a nice warm bath feel good, Randy?  I could add lavender bath salts."  Yugh! 

 

As to my daily responsibilities, I'm not off the hook totally.  Benedict instructs that those who are sick or weak be given some work or a craft that's not too hard for them; the superior must take their infirmities into account (48.24-25).   One of my main jobs is to mew at mealtimes so that our human servers will attend to our needs promptly.  I'm just not up to that yet so Smokey and Target alternate doing this job.  My current and only job right now is to make sure that I eat well, drink water and get naps.  Not bad!

 

Are you taking care of someone who is sick?   Please know that you are doing holy work.  Remember to take care of yourself and get help when you're feeling worn out.  If you are sick, express your gratitude for the care you receive and "place your hope in God alone."  I am.

 

Hope I'm feeling up to writing again.

  

Your feline Benedictine friend, 

  

Randy's Signature                     

P.S.  If any of your animal companions would like to mew, bark, gurgle or whatever with me, 

just click here.

© April 2013 Randy the Cat


A Prayer for Our Ill Animal Friends 
 

Heavenly Father,

Mar-Apr 2013
Randy - Pensive before surgury

You created all things for your glory

And made us stewards of this creature.

If it is your will,

restore [your animal friend's name]

to health and strength.

Blessed are you, Lord God,

And holy is your name for ever and ever.

Amen.

  
 
(Sent to Jane by Jane's and Randy's friend, Gloria. 
 Thank you, Gloria)
 
 
 

BookCorner

 

  Mar-Apr

The Book Corner 
A Recommended Read
 

Discernment Matters: 

Listening With The Ear Of The Heart

By Mary Margaret Funk, OSB

 
 

In preparation for I retreat I'm leading at Holy Cross Monastery in West Park, New York later this month on discernment I was pleased to see that Mary Margaret Funk (Meg) had recently released a book on this subject.  I recommend this book for its thoroughness, detail and organization.  This is the fifth book in Sr. Meg's Matters Series that came about through her teaching and living the Rule of St. Benedict.  (See below for the other titles.)  I appreciate her depth of insight and the honesty with which she approaches her experiences with discernment.  I was especially moved by her description of how she came to rely on the Holy Spirit in all her decisions through a ten-month study/lectio of the story of Pentecost in Acts 2:1-4 and how she then found this trusting way to live impossible to sustain without a clear understanding of discernment as a way of life.  Discernment, the author explains, is "collaboration with the Holy Spirit rather than self-talk."  It is this way of life that the author presents in this fine book, a book to be used over time as a guide to learning to choose Christ above all rather than self.

 

Discernment is about more than a call to religious life or holy orders-it is about our journey towards purity of heart--how we choose to live our life from day to day--by learning first to sort out our thoughts, "watching them rise, and noticing that we are not our thoughts. (p. 8)  A big John Cassian fan myself (He's up there with Benedict and Bach),  I appreciated her presentation of the eight afflictive thoughts--food, sex, things, anger, dejection, acedia, vainglory and pride.  She discusses in detail how she perceives or sees these afflictions and provides ways to meet and pass through them.  She offers six antidotes which include the monastic practice from Cassian of watching our thoughts and noticing the earliest arising of a thought.  She provides seven practices that can build a habit of prayer including here such teachings as the practices of the presence of God, of self-abandonment to the present moment and of dialogue with the Lord.  She also includes a process for decision-making which can be done individually or with a group. 

 

There is a lot of material in this book, plenty of food for thought and an abundance of help for the spiritual path.  I read the book straight through, but will be going back to dig into specific areas--my most active "afflictions" and  a practice of prayer.  I recommend a slow, thoughtful reading of this book.  I close with a quote, one of many, with which I resonate and hope you do too.

 

"We lift up our heart and mind to God often, everywhere, and bow from the inside...This is our real work as creatures.  It doesn't matter where we work and where we live.  It doesn't matter what we do but that we do every action with faith, 

in and with God." (77) 

 

Details on the Book:

Discernment Matters: Listening with the Ear of the Heart.  Collegeville, MN: The Liturgical Press, 2013.  978-0-8146-3469-1.

 

Click here for a link to Amazon.com.

 

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Mary Margaret Funk is a Benedictine nun of Our Lady of Grace Monastery in Beech Grove, Indiana.  Visit her website at www.megfunk.com.  Click here for the monastery website.

  

Sr. Meg's other books from the Matters Series include the following with links to Amazon:  Thoughts Matter, Tools Matter, Humility Matters, and Lectio Matters.

 


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