Judith Tutin, PhD,ACC

January, 2014

Dear Friend,

These are highlights from my writing this year. If you notice something useful for a friend, colleague or client, please forward it.

Wishing everyone a happy, peaceful and healthy year,

Judy Tutin

In This Issue
Social Media

Social media is a ubiquitous concern of modern life. There are constantly new dilemmas, which I have touched on in,

  • Questions You Must Ask About Your On-Line Relationships. Social media is a great way to connect. Just beware of the dangers. If you had no doubts before, surely after the Manti Te'o fiasco you are taking a hard look at your online relationships. Let me say that I'm no online prude. Continue reading...

For those who've had to split, avoid the social media pitfalls:

  • The Post-Break-Up Social Media Survival Guide. Who can resist the urge to look at their ex's Facebook page? Admit it. It calls your name and whispers, "Check me out!" No harm, right? An astute researcher in England begs to differ. A recent study concluded that the more time you spend on your ex's Facebook page, the more psychological distress you experience, the greater your desire for your ex and the more difficulty you have moving on. Continue reading...

I was interviewed by Samantha Escobar, for an article about,

  •  Why People Create Fake Relationships. "When breakups get ugly, people are often unable to date new people, yet still feel frustrated when their significant others move on - especially if they were the ones broken up with., a Brazilian website, capitalizes on this, charging men $20 to create a fake girlfriend's Facebook page. Read more here...

Health & Wellness

I'm pleased to be able to report an ongoing focus on issues of health and wellness in modern life. This one's not just about eating, but also about racking up fewer regrets in other areas as well:

  • No One Regrets Not Eating That Cookie. A client of mine and I spoke recently about the stress of facing the multitude of holiday parties packed with cookies, candy, cakes and other problem foods, just as she was making progress on her new and improved healthy meal plan. She resolved to pass on all the junk, noting, "Coming home from a party, I never regret not eating that cookie." Continue reading...

I was interviewed by Jeannette Moninger, for a WebMD article about relaxation techniques:

  • 10 Relaxation Techniques That Zap Stress Fast. "Chances are, your ever-growing to-do list doesn't include one very important task: Relax. But managing stress is key to staying healthy. Think you don't have time to unwind? Each of these stress-relieving tips can get you from OMG to om in less than 15 minutes. Continue reading...

My personal wellness favorite and key to bragging rights, at least for this year, is,

  • 6 Life Lessons I Learned From Running Marathons. I have been running my entire adult life. I ran my way from my first marriage, back into college, and right into a divorce. I ran my way into graduate school and by the time I finished, I'd run in at least 12 states, the District of Columbia, the US Virgin Islands and Canada. I ran my way through my first couple of jobs, and a second marriage and divorce. At that point I estimate I'd run in another 11 states and six other countries. Not until I entered my first race, 10 years ago, did I consider myself a "real" runner. Continue reading...

Relationships & Divorce

There is great interest in issues pertaining to how we define the modern family. I talk about creating your own, unique family in,
  • Relationships Are Whatever You Make Them. Growing up on the kind of romantic comedies that Doris Day and Kathryn Hepburn made, and Leave it to Beaver, it's hard to see how I was not flummoxed by the other things I grew up with, like West Side Story, Gone with the Wind, and The King and I. In these latter, boy-meets-girl, but they sure don't turn out like a Doris Day/Rock Hudson, or Tracy and Hepburn film. Continue reading...

I'm also interested in maintaining healthy relationships. So if you're headed to marital therapy or coaching, you'll want to keep these suggestions in mind:

  • 10 Ingredients Of Successful Couples Therapy. When Bob and Carol come into my office the first time, two things about them are immediately clear to me. Bob thinks Carol needs to change and he's just along for the ride; Carol is certain Bob needs to make all the changes. It's a recipe for disaster. Continue reading...

If you're headed down the divorce path:

  • How To Know You're Ready To Date After A Divorce. One of the things virtually every client going through a divorce tells me is they can't imagine dating. They're not ready to even think about dating. It's not on their radar. It's the last thing on their mind. I'm in no way suggesting you must date, get in another intimate relationship or get married. I'm simply suggesting you entertain the possibility of dating. Read more here...

There will be more in my forthcoming e-Book about post-divorce adjustment.

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