More than once I've opened a gift with excitement but when I discovered what was inside wondered, What am I supposed to do with this?

It can be disappointing, even hurtful, to receive a gift you don't like, especially when you had high expectations for something different. For example, my friend was offended when she received a sweater that was a size eighteen when she actually wears size eight.

We can often chalk up unwanted presents to poor taste or an error in judgment without getting too distressed. Sometimes we might even have the option of exchanging the gift or giving it to someone who would enjoy it. 

If this Christmas you find yourself receiving a gift you really don't like, you can smile and say:

- I never expected this.

- Hey, now there's a gift.

- I really don't know what to say.  

I've learned, however, it's often the unwanted gifts that are not found under the tree on Christmas morning that can cause the biggest problems. The ones we can't return like when your boss walks into your office and informs you that your job has been eliminated.  Perhaps you discover a lump on your breast and later find out it is cancerous. Or the love of your life no longer wants to be part of your life.  While there isn't any good time of the year for receiving news like this, it can be especially challenging when we feel all alone believing the lie that everyone else is having a great holiday season except us. 

If this Christmas season you find yourself facing heart-breaking circumstances, here are three things to focus on:

The Gift of God's Peace

Admittedly you might struggle to find God's peace in the midst of your difficulties. Even if you only experience brief moments of it, savor what a treasure it is.  

The Gift of God's Provision

What people has God brought into your life to support and encourage you during this tough time?  Recently I struggled with a terrible respiratory infection.  One friend made me soup and another went to the store and picked up my prescription. Their help was priceless to me.

The Gift of God's Presence

I find myself praying that God provides me with His strength, comfort, wisdom and peace. While there is nothing wrong with that request, I don't want to lose sight of what I already have-the daily presence of God.  Regardless of the unwanted gifts that come our way, we've already received the greatest gift of all with Christ's birth. This Christmas may we enjoy the present and presence of our Lord and Savior-Jesus.