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Summer/Fall 2013
     
From Our PastorPastor
Kevin Koslowsky

 

I was recently asked about my first year as senior pastor.  My initial reaction was surprise at how quickly the past year has gone since Jim Brown retired as our long-tenured pastor.  But then my answer was, "Actually, it has gone surprisingly well."  And the surprise shouldn't be surprising because God proves himself faithful.  Perhaps the surprise is that he continues to use us as his tools for his mission.

 

We celebrate the impact of our contemporary worship service which has grown in attendance and established itself with musical excellence and theological depth.  And our passion for traditional worship has been strengthened as well.  We have new worshippers regularly attending both services.  We celebrate new members who are actively engaged in ministry.  Our commitments as a church to evangelism, missions, and leadership continue. 

 

But there is a subtle danger that can arise.  I am tempted to find my identity-not in who I am in Christ-but in what I do for Christ.  A helpful personal example to counteract this tendency is seen in our Assistant Pastor Jim Brown.  Setting aside the mantle of senior pastor, which he carried for forty years here and in North Carolina, did not shake his identity as a son of God.  And you have witnessed this yourselves.  We are blessed by the legacy of Jim's leadership and also by his ongoing ministry.  He continues to care pastorally for us through his visits, and he provides help to our deacons in caring for our facilities, but he has been able to enjoy his retirement.  Jim offers input when asked about direction and decisions, but he is glad to allow the elders on the Session to lead.  He gives us an example of what it looks like to humbly serve and find our identity in Christ rather than simply in the tasks we perform, even tasks done in Christ's name.

 

My prayer for each of us is that we will learn to find our identity in Christ and not in the things we accomplish, even the things done here at church.  This is a call to service and worship.  This is our call to join Christ in his mission.

 

Rev. Kevin Koslowsky, Senior Pastor

 

A Minute for Marriage
 

 by Barbara Shaffer, PhD.

 

"When we were first married, you made it very clear to me that you don't want any input from me about traffic or directions when we're in the car," she said accusingly.

 

"I did?" he said with bewilderment. "I don't feel that way now."

 

"Well, we've been doing it that way for 30 years!" she shot back, as though he had said it every day for three decades.

 

While the immediate impression might be that this exchange is about the husband-wife driving protocol - and certainly that is a common cause of conflict - a more basic and striking issue is the couple's process. Apparently there was a clear boundary set early on that was forgotten by one and resented by the other for 30 long years!   Nobody said anything, and the issue was never revisited.

 

People can say lots of things when they are young, old, stressed, ill, defensive, depressed, anxious, or particularly self-centered. Sometimes with age, experience, wisdom, spiritual maturity, and God's grace they may change their minds. If they remember their earlier words that they no longer affirm, they can say something like, "Recently I've become aware that a while ago (or, last week) I said _______, and I've realized that I no longer believe that/feel that way. In the interest of truth and unity, I wanted to let you know." An apology might be made and a discussion might follow, or the retraction might be enough. Then they can live happily ever after.

 

However, if the one who has made the earlier statement doesn't think about it or even remember saying it, but the other one is burdened by it, what can be done?

 

In some instances, the person's behavior subsequent to the boundary-setting statement may demonstrate that s/he no longer believes/feels that way, and the burden is lifted. In another instance, the one who feels burdened has the opportunity and, I believe, the responsibility to bring up the issue for discussion, rather than smoldering with resentment or struggling silently with energy-draining, relationship-damaging hurt. It is futile for the offended person to expect the oblivious person to have an epiphany and then right the wrong by clarifying, updating or rescinding the ancient statement. The relational thing to do is for the person who is aware of a problem to go to the other person and pursue resolution.

 

There are several principles that might be brought to bear on issues like this. First, we are to routinely speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), that is, speak in a manner characterized by reality, clarity, graciousness, and respect, having the person's best interests at heart; a manner that has the highest probability of being heard and received. To harbor resentments is to be unloving, untruthful, and un-relational.

 

We are also to remove the log from our own eye before addressing the speck in our spouse's eye (Matthew 7:5). To be blaming and critical of our spouse without first considering our own contribution to a situation is to be hypocritical and un-relational.

 

Finally, as we have learned in the Summer Sermon Series from I Corinthians, if we are aware that our spouse has something against us, we are to drop everything, even worship, and go to our spouse and pursue reconciliation (Matthew 5:23-24). Similarly, if we have something against our spouse, we are to diligently seek to repair the broken relationship (Matthew 18:15 -17). In both instances, the responsibility to engage rests with the one who is aware. Ideally, spouses should bump into each other as they hasten to obey the  instruction of the Prince of Peace to go and be reconciled. If spouses would do that, there wouldn't be longstanding resentments and divisions that do such damage to the marital relationship.

 

Then they could live happily ever after.

 

What are the Deacons Doing?

by Mark Robinson, Chairman  Board of Deacons

 

In Acts Chapter 6, the Apostles were overwhelmed with the growing number of converts to the faith. They made the decision to appoint deacons who would help them by assuming responsibility for serving the body of believers. Today at Faith Church that tradition continues. Through the generosity of the congregation by contributing to the Deacon's Fund, we have been able to help meet the needs of our members in a variety of ways. Our Mercy Ministry has included payments for housing, utilities, medical bills, and child care. We have also been able to help with Christian and financial counseling. Our Deaconesses have been instrumental in providing meals for families and maintaining a program of visitation to shut-in members.

 

The Deacons are also responsible for the upkeep and maintenance of the church building and property. This includes both the Marsh Road and Rowland Park manses. This year we replaced the sign on the front lawn, and it now displays our new logo. We are undergoing a program to paint and repair the 19 exterior church doors. In addition to our annual "Church Beautification Day," we are continuing a number of interior projects as well. We are thankful for the dedication and service of Deacons and Deaconesses. We are blessed with the support of a caring congregation that enables us to serve in the work of the Lord.

 

See your current deacons.

 

Important: Faith Community Groups

 

www.faithwilmington.com/communitygroups

 

Starting on September 8, Community Groups will begin regular meetings again for the fall.  However, some of the groups have already gotten a head start.  A few weeks ago, the Noll / Dunham group spent a Sunday afternoon at the Mary Campbell Center (a residential care facility for people with disabilities) talking, reading and playing games with the residents. That same afternoon the

Naylor group gathered for a summer meal along with a number of people who have recently begun attending Faith.

  
These activities exemplify why Community Groups are a core component of the ministry program at Faith Church.  Second only to attendance in public worship, we believe that participation in an active small-group community should be a priority for everyone in the church.  It's the best way to form the deep relationships with others that are so necessary if we are to mature in our relationship with Jesus.  
 
See our Community Group page for details on the groups you can join and plans for the topical discussions in the groups this fall.
  
From Faith Preschool & Kindergarten
By Kevin Koslowsky, Senior Pastor

 

Faith Preschool, Kindergarten, and Childcare has such a positive reputation in our community that I never hear a bad thing when visiting families connected with our school.  So, when a family recently told me, "Well, we do have one complaint," I paused.  But their complaint put things in perspective, "Our only complaint is that we didn't find the school sooner.  We loved the kindergarten so much that we wish we'd had our daughter here for the three and four year-old programs, too."


This positive reputation is because of the excellent program that is offered, but more importantly because of the godly staff who care for children.  We are thankful to Cynthia Naylor for her 14 years of ministry as our director and we give praise to God for her excellent care of children, families, and staff.  Cynthia served as the face of this ministry and prayed with and for families as they shared their lives with her.  Cynthia created a joyful and caring staff environment as evidenced by the lengthy tenures of our staff.  We give thanks to God for Cynthia as she retires from her position.


I am thankful for the new administrators God has provided to continue to lead our preschool.  Any leadership transition creates some anxiety, but Griselda DeLeo and Emily Kirchner bring complementary gifts that will continue to strengthen our school for ongoing ministry in our community.  Both women bring a passion for the ministry along with the experience of first sending their children to the program before working at the school.  Griselda and Emily are capable leaders who bring a Christian maturity to their new roles.  Cynthia leaves big shoes to fill, but with their gifts and excitement for the ministry I look forward to watching Griselda and Emily lead this ministry.  And they don't do this alone because we have a committed and experienced staff who continue to serve and provide continuity of care for our children and their families.


Join me in thanking Cynthia when you see her in these next few weeks.  And pray with me for the ongoing Gospel impact of our preschool.   Visit our Preschool/Kindergarten Site.

 

 

What Is Your Narrative?
By William Stern, pastoral intern

 

When it comes to money and wealth, American Christians daily face two diametrically opposed narratives.  

 

The first narrative comes from our materialist culture.  It calls us to seek our security from our savings accounts and our identity from our wealth.  It teaches us that we must own the latest computer and cell phone.  It teaches that we must wear new clothes and eat expensive foods.  It teaches that money should never limit our freedom to do what we want or go where we please. It teaches that being poor is the greatest evil and failing to participate in the materialism of our culture is strange if not heresy.  According to this narrative, my wife and I are considered poor--although nearly every American is rich compared to the developing world.  I am a full time seminary student and therefore not able to work a full time job; my wife and I both attended an art school for our undergraduate degrees, and the old saying "starving artist" often holds true; my wife works many part-time jobs, and we budget before getting our teeth cleaned and before buying new clothes.  We buy food in bulk, shop at thrift stores, and frequent discounted grocery stores rather than Whole Foods in order to make ends meet.


The second narrative comes from the Bible which confronts our materialistic culture on many fronts.  It says not to fear the future.  As Jesus says, "I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?" (Matt. 6:25).  The biblical narrative says that our security does not come from the balance in our checking account but from our eternal inheritance in Christ.  Therefore, Jesus says, "Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal" (Matt. 6:19-20).  The Bible is full of shocking statements about poverty such as Matthew 19:21: "If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me."  James--the brother of Jesus--says, "Listen, my beloved brothers, has not God chosen those who are poor in the world to be rich in faith and heirs of the kingdom, which he has promised to those who love him?" (James 2:5).  While the Bible does not oppose wealth altogether, it does teach that "the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs" (1 Tim. 6:10). 

 

A recent event in my own life challenged me to choose which of these narratives I would follow.  Grace and I drive a 15 year- old Honda Accord, which is an old but great car overall.  As we prepared for the next school year, we unconsciously based a lot our security on our limited material wealth.  We had enough for tuition between scholarships and church assistance; we had savings to draw from for a while longer as I finished school.  We felt great until our transmission went out on the car, and we faced two expensive choices.  We could either drain our savings in order to fix an old car, or we could buy a new car.  Every option seemed risky and unpleasant.  While I intellectually realized that facing expensive car trouble is not as bad as death or sickness, I still did not trust God's providence or timing as I took a non-thankful posture.  I followed the culture's narrative and began to question the worldly wisdom of being in seminary in order to pursue a call to vocational ministry and theological study.

Thankfully, God did not leave me in the world's narrative very long, and He turned my heart back to the biblical narrative.  He did this in three ways.  First, while I rode the bus from the auto shop back to our apartment, God reminded me of the blessings He has bestowed, and he convicted me of the sinfulness of my own ungrateful heart.  I have the ability to study theology and learn more about the Bible in the original languages, which is amazing.  I have a wonderful wife, and both my mother and father (and my in-laws!) are amazing Christians who love the Lord and me.  I have a supportive church family at Faith Presbyterian and Christian friends at Westminster Theological Seminary.  Second, God reminded me that He is faithful and will provide what we need in hardship.  He even demonstrated this faithfulness through the outpouring of assistance we received from friends at church and family members.  Third, God reminded me that all believers should expect small and great suffering in this life as we proclaim the gospel in a broken world.  I had failed to remember these words of Scripture: "Consider him who endured from sinners such hostility against himself, so that you may not grow weary or fainthearted. In your struggle against sin you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood" (Hebrews 12:3-4).


What narrative will you follow?
  I pray that Faith Presbyterian can live according to the narrative of the Bible and not according the narrative of the world as we all face relational, financial, health, and spiritual suffering and hardships in the coming months and years.  May Faith Church "lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God" (Heb. 12:1-2).

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Important
Fall Kick-Off Dates

  
Smith Baby Shower
August 29, 7pm - all women are invited as we welcome Josh & Kristi Smith's new baby girl.
Pick-Up Softball Game
September 2nd, 10am - join us at Bonsall Park for a pick-up softball game with Faith Church and City Church.
Men of Faith
Kick-Off
Tuesday, Sept. 17th
Our fall Men's Ministry meetings will start.  Join us at 6am.
Pioneer Clubs
Kick-Off
Wednesday, Sept. 18th
Kids ages 4 - 6th grade, join us for an exciting new year of Pioneer Clubs, Wednesdays at 6:30pm.  REGISTER NOW.
Faith Explored
Kick-Off 
Wednesday, Sept. 25th
Join us for a 7-week introduction to the Christian Faith.  Come for dinner at 6pm and  conversation at 6:30pm.  Programs available for children. REGISTER NOW.
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