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Happy, Healthy, and Wealthy New Year!
Greetings!
Today is the first day of 2011. I am sitting at SmartWorld Coffee, my home away from home, in a big comfy chair looking out through the glass walls to a brilliantly sunny, relatively warm and very peaceful Morristown morning. It feels good to be making some time for me. I've been reflecting on the events of 2010 and musing over the possibilities for 2011. I'm checking in with myself about how I got where I am right now. Which behaviors do I wish to enhance and which do I need to release? I'm thinking about the truly amazing people who have touched my life and how deeply blessed I feel by their contribution to my personal growth. I am forever grateful that I learned how to walk around the planet on the same level as all of you - whether you have more or less than I do, whether you are or more or less educated, whether you are wiser or more naive, whether you are more or less attractive in others' eyes, older or younger, shorter or taller, etc., I know I am your equal and there are no words to describe how heartening this is to me. I wish you awareness in 2011...love it all.
Be well. Be good to yourself.
Laura
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Resolution? Oxymoron
Almost everyone has something they would like to change about themselves. The first of the year seems like a neat and tidy time to correct course - begin anew working at having our behavior reflect the kind of person we know we are in our hearts.
Did you ever stop to think about how truly crazy it is that we could ever be unable to get ourselves to do or stop doing something? We're in a dysfunctional relationship with ourselves! Life can be pretty disquieting when we can't even get ourselves to meet our own needs and desires - forget about adding anyone else into the picture!
This discomfort or dis-ease sends us to the drawing board intensifying our efforts to control our own behavior. It is exhausting, if not demoralizing. We set goals, list intentions, repeat affirmations and make resolutions. It feels like we are strapping on a girdle for a very good reason...we are! A girdle is uncomfortable and only masks the problem. This is also the case with resolutions.
When we make a resolution we are setting out to re-solve our problem. This is an oxymoron. How does one re-solve anything? The solution is the solution. That's it...problem solved. There is no need to go back a revisit a problem that has been solved. In fact, that is only asking for trouble.
If you find yourself making a resolution, be aware that you are trying to fix the result and not the cause. If you have a leaky basement (metaphor - cracks in your foundation), you would be a fool to continually shop-vac after every storm without finding the cause of the trouble. So, too, with self-defeating behaviors like smoking, over-eating, shopping, drinking, gossiping, etc.
Take all of the work out of changing by simply becoming aware. Pay attention to all of your thoughts and feelings surrounding a "relapse." Be thorough about this and you will discover that the emotion, which sponsored the behavior, was not so unbearable to experience. Paradoxically, when you admit the feeling - it is released and so is the behavior that you used to mask it. In essence, you have accepted this about yourself, which takes all the power out of it and your need for escape is gone as well.
Let it all in to release it. That which you resist, will persist.
I know it works. I have done this with some behaviors I never thought I could stop.
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NASH FLASH 
How I perceive things is a perception of myself onto that, which I behold.
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Coming Events
The dates for the February Meditation program are 2/13, 2/20, and 2/27 from 10 a.m. till noon in Chatham, NJ. A free introduction to meditation will be offered on February 6, 2011 from 10a.m.-11a.m.
Event details will be posted on my website shortly. Please feel free to contact me with any questions:
Watch for other announcements regarding webinars and the unveiling (finally!) of my new website, which is my blog until we are ready to launch the full site.
My Website
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