That, which we appreciate, appreciates.

 Appreciation is the alchemy that literally transforms the substance of matter.  What you value will actually become more valuable. 

The reverse is also true!

• TREAT your kids as if you appreciate everything about them and they will give you more and more to appreciate.
• TREAT your wife like she is supremely beautiful inside and out and you won't be coveting anyone else's wife.
• TREAT your husband like he is the most competent, generous, loving partner on the planet and you will be the envy of all.

TREAT yourself  like you are not worthy, by tolerating anything less than this from others or from yourself, and you will experience none of the above.