Thinking about more than candy hearts this Valentine's Day
If it's February, you must be a victim, like me, of the marketing machines saturating our days with Valentine's Day ads and products: chocolate hearts, heart-shaped cookies and cakes, and heart-shaped boxes of heart-shaped chocolates--a double whammy of Valentine's Day joy. Even diamonds are cut into the shape of a heart in honor of this day.
What a shame the focus of this winter holiday is eros, which can be so fleeting, so temporal. "What the world needs now is love, sweet love," Dionne Warwick reminded us in 1966; "It's the only thing that there's just too little of." That feels just as true today as it did close to a half-century ago, but it's not the love celebrated on Valentine's Day that our world lacks. Rather, it's the universal love that originates with God that we're missing--that love that's "not for some, but for everyone," as the song goes.
Imagine what the world might be like if we devoted Feb. 14 to agape--the selfless, sacrificial and unconditional love demonstrated by Jesus. C.S. Lewis referred to this highest form of Christian love as "gift-love." Imagine communities holding seminars such as "How to Love Your Neighbor" on this day. Or neighborhoods replacing a book group meeting with a discussion of "How to Welcome the Stranger." What if The New York Times headline that day pronounced, "Nation Celebrates Day Dedicated to Loving One Another"?
You and I know that this kind of celebration is not going to happen any time soon. But, individually, we can celebrate Valentine's Day by living our lives incarnating the love of God with our friends and colleagues, our families and the strangers we meet along the way on Feb. 14, and every other day of the year as well. This is how we make a difference in the crazy, mixed-up world in which we live.
"Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God... . If we love one another, God lives in us, and God's love is perfected in us." -- 1 John 4:7,12 (NRSV)
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May your Valentine's Day be filled with love--the deep and abiding kind.
Susan Gottshall
Associate Executive Director, Communications
American Baptist Home Mission Societies (ABHMS)
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