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School is back in session, slightly cooler air is moving in. Late summer is when most of us switch gears from summer living to focusing on school and work, and we even start thinking about those upcoming holidays.


At EPI we've been gearing up for our bi-annual Train the Trainer event. On September 14th we started 10 days of training and welcomed new trainees to the Emily Post family. It's one of our most exciting times of the year.


Peggy is settled in at her summer office on Martha's Vineyard. She's been soaking up the sea air while working on interviews and her column for Good Housekeeping.

Dan is loving married life and he and his bride spend their free time getting their cabin on the mountain in tip top shape before winter sets in. After Train the Trainer Dan sets off to present a number of seminars around the country throughout this fall.

Lizzie, Peter, and Tricia are off for a family vacation to Italy once Train the Trainer wraps. (Someone has to practice the right way to twirl pasta!) When they return, Peter and Lizzie will continue updating the e-learning program and bring you brand new Etiquette Bites! and Tricia will start work on the 19th edition of Etiquette. (Yes, it's time to update!)

Anna has been working tirelessly on the new website so that when we launch you will have all your most sought after advice at your fingertips.

We have some etiquette-packed articles for you this month: business dining tips, names and titles on wedding invitations and how to handle your pets when visiting friends. Don't forget to check out our latest columns, YouTube videos and, of course, the most recent episodes of our podcast, Awesome Etiquette.

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(Please note: Personal etiquette questions will not be answered through the newsletter. Please post them to www.etiquettedaily.com for our community to answer, or consider submitting them to the "Awesome Etiquette" podcast by emailing them to awesomeetiquette@emilypost.com)  

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For more information on business etiquette, check out Emily Post's The Etiquette Advantage in Business, 3rd Edition or visit www.emilypost.com.

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You've just been invited out to a business lunch with your new boss, but you have no idea what to expect or how you should act. This lunch could be the event that determines what type of relationship you have with your new employer. The last thing you want to do is make a bad impression. Instead of thinking of it as a stressful meeting, think of it as an opportunity to put your best foot forward and show your boss that you were the right pick for the job. To keep this lunch running smoothly, focus on these five essential tips to successful business dining:
1. Don't Be Late.
This is probably the most important tip to remember. Arriving even five or ten minutes late leaves a bad impression. Make plans to leave early enough so that you will be on time for your lunch.
2. Follow the lead of the host.
If your host hasn't arrived, wait in the lobby or waiting area until he or she arrives. Allow your host to choose the table and look to the host for seating assignments. Your host may have a specific seating arrangement in mind, so you should let him or her point you in the right direction.
3. Don't talk business right away.
It's your host's prerogative whether or not you'll even talk about business. Use this as an opportunity to get to know him or her. This is your chance to begin to establish a relationship and possibly make a connection. Don't dive into business conversation unless your host initiates it.
4. Place an appropriate order.
Order medium-priced dishes, not the most expensive items on the menu. Avoid ordering finger foods. Order food that is relatively easy to eat and familiar to you. It would be embarrassing to discover you don't like what you ordered and then not eat your food.
5. Thank your host twice.
Not only should you thank your host at the end of the meal, you should also send a follow-up thank you after the occasion. A simple thank-you note is preferable, but a brief phone call or email thank you is also acceptable.
Keeping these tips in the back of your mind will leave you free to concentrate on the most important task of any social or business meal, which is to engage with your host. Your host should be the focus of your lunch and should be treated as such. A little careful preparation will go a long way toward making the occasion a successful one.

For more information on office etiquette, check out Emily Post's The Etiquette Advantage in Business, 3rd Edition or visit www.emilypost.com.
Figuring out proper names, titles and honorifics for formal wedding invitations can be quite overwhelming. Here's a run down of the basics from Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette.

1. Professional Titles
Physicians, veterinarians, dentists and clergy use their professional titles socially. Professional credentials (like CPA) and business titles (like Esquire) are not used in social circumstances. If you're unsure, call or email the person to ask. Educational degrees are also not used, however if the person regularly goes by "Doctor" then it's fine to use "Doctor Jane Smith," on the invitation but avoid "Jane Smith, PhD."
2. Judges, Mayors and Senators often retain their titles on invitations because they are regularly used in daily life.

3. When listing a couple where one person holds a title and the other doesn't, you list the person with the title first. For example, "Doctor Laura Swanson and Mr. James Swanson." If both members of a couple have the same title you may choose to write "The Doctors Swanson" or "Doctor James Swanson and Doctor Laura Swanson."

4. Military titles are used on formal invitations. They are never abbreviated and are used for both those who are members of the armed services and those serving on active duty in the reserve forces. For officers ranked captain or higher in the army, air force and marines, or lieutenant, senior grade or higher in the navy the rank will appear on the same line as the person's name with the service listed below:
Colonel Graham Jarvis 
United States Army  
("Reserve" is added after the service listing for those in the reserve.)   
("Retired" is added after the service listing for retired officers.)

For junior personnel, the rank and branch of service are listed below their names:
John Tullings 
Ensign, United States Navy

For more information on names and titles on formal invitations see pages 118-120 of Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette, 6th edition.


The world is a much more dog-friendly place than it ever used to be. Many stores, restaurants and public places allow entry to dogs on leashes. It's wonderful for dog owners, it prevents dogs from having to be constantly left in cars or at home and it's great for teaching dogs how to socialize and behave in these environments. However it can also mean that dog owners forget that their dogs may not be welcome everywhere. Here are some tips for how to manage your furry friend when you visit someone's home.

1. Always ask first. Before you bring Rover over, ask your friend if it's okay to bring your dog. "Oh, Jenny before I forget, is it okay to bring Rover or would you rather I not?" It's important to do this every time until your friend says "Rover is always welcome!" There are some times where it might be a great day to have your dog visit-casual hang out, backyard pool time-and other times when your host may not want Rover running around-think dinner parties, events, larger get togethers. Always asking first shows that you respect your host's home.

2. Be prepared if you can't bring your dog. If your host says no, be sure that you have a back-up plan, either leaving your dog at home, with a friend or doggy day car service. In general, it's not a good idea to leave your dog in your car. Your car will ALWAYS be hotter than the outside temperature and this can be very dangerous! Especially if you are parked in the sun. If it is at all warm out, do not leave your dog in the car. 

3. Know your dog. If your host is fine with you bringing your dog over, it's important for you to think about your dog's personality as well as the environment you're bringing him to. If your dog is a marker, make sure he has plenty of outdoor time before you bring him inside. You may have to keep a close eye on him to make sure he doesn't mark in your friend's home. If your dog constantly needs to play, don't assume your host will have a toy; bring a ball, Frisbee or bone with you. If your dog is better behaved when on leash, consider leaving his leash on during the visit. If you know your dog isn't good with cats, children or other dogs, be sure to find out if these other people or pets will be at your host's home that day.

4. Take responsibility. If, by chance, your pup makes a mess (relieves herself indoors, digs in the garden, chews a shoe, gets into the trash...) be sure to take responsibility. Clean up what you can in the moment. Offer to come back with enzymatic cleaners, or hire someone if necessary. Offer to replace broken, or ruined items. It's important to take full responsibility for your pet and the impact he or she could have on your host's home.

By putting some forethought into your visit, you'll have a much better chance at success and at maintaining a positive relationship with your host! And that's the best scenario for you and your dog.

 For more information on pet etiquette tips, check out Emily Post's Etiquette, 18th Edition or visit www.emilypost.com. 


Personal Calls at the Office  

Dan Post Senning talks about how to manage personal calls at work. For more Etiquette Bites, visit our youtube page EmilyPostProductions.

The "Awesome Etiquette" podcast, hosted by Dan and Lizzie is looking to hear from you! So don't be shy. Send in your etiquette questions, awesome etiquette salutes, etiquette confessions, or any suggested topics you'd like to hear about on the podcast to awesomeetiquette@emilypost.com. You can also post questions to our Facebook or Twitter page using #AwesomeEtiquette so we know you want your question answered on the show!

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