Greetings!  

Upcoming Services from One Journey Consulting

A new round of the Journey of Divorce Base Camp is scheduled for Thursdays, from February 21 to March 28, 6:30-8pm. This six week workshop series is for those who are separated or newly divorced. Download our flyer for more information.

Our Spring retreat has been scheduled for May 17-19. The theme of this women's weekend is From Pain to Peace- A Journey of Self-Acceptance and will focus on letting go of 'how things should be' and accepting 'what is'. This retreat is held in Hampton, NH - learn more on our website. 

Workshops held at One Journey Consulting, One Pequot Road in Wayland (unless otherwise noted). To register, visit One Journey Consulting, call 508-276-1764 or email info@OneJourneyConsulting.com.

Another January has arrived...a new year with new opportunities. For many, this time of year can be the catalyst to make the changes that have been nagging us...to lose weight, advance in our careers, start dating...or file for divorce.

Believe it or not, January is the busiest time of the year for divorce lawyers. There is something about the New Year that nudges people to take the step. Maybe they just can't picture 'another year' with their spouse, or the holidays strained the relationship beyond repair. Regardless the reason, there are quite a number of people who find themselves in the process of divorce when February rolls around.

If you are one of those people, we say...Welcome to your journey.

A strange greeting, isn't that? It's not said with exuberance, but with a great understanding of the process and experience.

Because divorce, although a common occurrence in almost half of marriages, is an alienating and challenging life path. It's a club you don't want to belong to, even if you're the one who initiated the separation. It's an ongoing life change that defines you and influences your every choice and action from this moment on. Yet it is something that does not have to limit you or hinder your potential for a great life. It may be just the thing to catapult you into it.

Whether you were the one who filed papers or were blindsided by them, we invite you to approach this journey intentionally. The journey of divorce can be a path to regain your personal power and create the life you want.

On this journey, you come to terms with the knowledge that life, as you knew it, is over. Your marriage, your friendships, your living situation and parental activities- they have all changed. Your beliefs about how the world works, how your world works, have been altered. The task is to figure out this new life- the rules, beliefs, truths and realities. And you have to do this with turbulent emotions battling against you at every step. No wonder you're exhausted.

Yes, this ride is surreal. You are probably in disbelief that this is all happening. You have decisions to make, but can't seem to process. Anger, grief, shame and maybe even relief send you on a wild roller coaster. Your judgment is off and you find yourself acting uncharacteristically. Some people change their style, buy extravagant items, experiment with drugs, alcohol or sex, or date excessively, etc. You may not recognize yourself, you may even feel a little bit crazy, but know it is a normal way of coping with this manic period.

And know, you WILL be okay. We have companioned hundreds of people on this journey of divorce, and we know this from their stories and our own: If you do the work to learn and grow from the experience, you will rise above this situation and create an amazing life.

If you (or someone you know) is facing divorce, please join us for our next Journey of Divorce Base Camp on February 21. It can be the beginning of the next great chapter of your life.

Another January has arrived- a great opportunity to make resolutions about what we want to create (or let go of) in the New Year. Everyone does it - we promise that this is THE YEAR we will lose weight, break a bad habit or jumpstart other business or personal goals. Yet weeks later, most of us fall back into the usual routine - back to unhealthy activities or failing to continue new healthier ones.   

I struggle with goal setting. I'm not sure if I have a fear of failure or if I have commitment issues, but I hate to create resolutions and plans. Every year, I get excited and vow THIS YEAR I will set goals and follow through...but something stops me when I sit down to write them.

Years ago, I started the 'theme' for the year instead of goal setting. I chose a word I would focus on and use to motivate me and help me grow. In the past, I've used 'OPPORTUNITY' to help push me into situations I normally would've avoided due to nerves, and the year after my divorce, it was 'STRENGTH'. I used these words to propel, guide and inspire me through all sorts of challenging moments during the year. And last year, I decided to use a different word each month, and chose BELIEVE and FUN...then I stopped. Yes, I completely forgot to pick a new word in March (although BELIEVE continued to be the main one).

So THIS YEAR I am doing something different. While I have my word (BALANCE), I'm also incorporating the Treasure Mapping exercise that Di and Renee shared with us years ago. I have taken an old journal (one I had vowed to use to keep track of my resolutions one year) and turned it into an ongoing vision board for what I want my life to look like in 2013. I'm cutting out words and pictures from magazines and pasting them together in collages and streams of consciousness to help me focus on how I want to live and what I want to do.

This type of goal setting feels more fluid for me. It allows me to be creative and causes me to slow down and find time for me. Things I need to incorporate into my life more so I can have that BALANCE I've resolved to find this year.