Common Outlook Consulting Inc. New Perspectives
June 2015 - Issue # 15-06

Founder's Message

There's a lot of information out there about how to resolve conflict, but not so much about the need for and role of conflict in the first place - about what it can do, not to us, but for us.

You and I may resist the notion that it can serve us; after all, conflict can be unpleasant... very unpleasant at times. But if we have the courage to enter into it, and to look at our reactions and deal with them, we discover that conflict can build confidence; it can impart wisdom; it can teach us patience, and it can provide us with a higher level of understanding.

In light of all that, we've decided to kick-start the summer by celebrating the upside of conflict. As such, we're offering you something different this month. In lieu of an article, we're providing you with some questions that will let you explore the way you think/feel about conflict, followed by some pithy sayings that will help guide you when you're in the thick of it.




"What you resist, persists."
~ Neale Donald Walsch                        




The way in which a conflict is processed runs parallel to its levels of reconciliation. 


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Appreciating Conflict                 

All meaningful relationships, whether at work or at home, have conflicts. The conflicts may be ongoing; they may come in short bursts; they may be separated by long interludes of harmony; but if those connections are to continue to be a source of inspiration, hopefulness, and steadfast loyalty, conflict has to become an acceptable and even welcome part of the equation.  


Well, yes; given that conflict is an agent of change and change is a fundamental premise of life. We're never not changing. We're never not growing, and intermittently or even daily, the power of conflict is needed to boost that growth.  

But as normal humans, we don't generally view conflict like that... as a welcome and powerful ally. We don't see it as an opportunity; we don't see its tremendous potential. Instead, we view it as a threat or enemy. We become defensive, or arm ourselves to the hilt and go on the attack. Or we shy away from it, smile misleadingly, and pat it down to make it go away.   

With that in mind, you might want to take a look at the way(s) in which you view conflict, and as such, we offer some points for you to ponder regarding your stance.  

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Peter Hiddema


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