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WHAT YOU SEE DEPENDS ON WHERE YOU STAND
June 2014 - Issue # 14-06

Founder's Message

  

Because of the terrific response we got to last month's article about the 'should-be' life, we decided to deconstruct that phrase in this issue, and take a hard look at the SHOULDS in our lives. (We'll tackle our originally planned topic: "Disclosure and Honesty" in a later issue).  


We're particularly interested in why, when faced with the hem and haw of the SHOULDS, it is so very difficult to summon a definitive "yes" or "no". I have had - and done - my share of shoulds. For instance, for many years, I was overly concerned about the opinions of others. Sadly, the pressure to have others think well of me made me go against my instincts and hunches, against my 'wants' and 'don't wants', and frankly, against my very essence in some cases.

It wasn't until I realized that the short-term pain of addressing its source was worth the long-term gain of being free of it, that the "should" finally faded. Don't get me wrong - I still have them, and I still allow them to drive choices when I'd really rather not, but I'm happy to report that over time, their frequency and power continues to fade.

So here, in hopes you'll decide to take a clarifying (and freeing) look at the pressures behind your shoulds, is our June 2014 article.   

   

 

Quote

 

Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts.
Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts.
Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me...
Anything can happen, child. Anything can be.

~ Shel Silverstein
                     

 

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Don't just grow up; grow wise.

 

Coming Up  

 

Our July Issue: Technology Tyranny
Free yourself - just in time for your summer vacation.

 

Article


"I should get more exercise/do volunteer work/stop eating sugar/call my mother/have coffee with that person I don't really trust/ get-off my hand-held and give my full attention to... ."

 

We know we should; we know we ought to; we know we must, but we don't. Why?

 


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