In This Issue
FEATURED ARTICLE: The Profound Innate Joy of Human Life - Alzheimer's or Not
The Wit (and Wisdom) of Phyllis Dillereness
Senior Tips for Gardening
On Civility..Or the Lack Thereof
Where am I? How Did I Get Here? How Do I Get Out?
Kudos From Kelly
Providers We Love
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Photos in top banner: Grace and Matthew Dolan playing at the park; TK's  kids VJ and Omule ; Liz spent the day at Macys! She'll be 100 this summer!
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New People:

* Elizabeth Ofori
* Mary Sanders
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A Word On Statistics
By: Wisława Szymborska,
Nobel Prize winning poet

Out of every hundred people,
those who always know better:

Unsure of every step: almost all the rest.

Ready to help, if it doesn't take long: forty-nine.

Always good, because they cannot be otherwise: four, well, maybe five.

Able to admire without envy:

Led to error by youth (which passes): sixty, plus or minus.

Those not to be messed with:

Living in constant fear of someone or something: seventy-seven.

Capable of happiness: twenty-some-odd at most.

Harmless alone, turning savage in crowds: more than half, for sure.

Cruel when forced by circumstances: it's better not to know, not even approximately.

Wise in hindsight: not many more
than wise in foresight.

Getting nothing out of life except things: thirty (though I would like to be wrong).

Balled up in pain and without a flashlight in the dark: eighty-three, sooner or later.

Those who are just: quite a few, thirty-five.

But if it takes effort to understand: three.

Worthy of empathy: ninety-nine.

Mortal: one hundred out of one hundred a figure that has never varied yet."
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Featured Article:
The Profound Innate Joy of Human Life - Alzheimer's or Not
By Marie Marley - Alzheimer's Reading Room.
Marie's beloved husband Ed has been living
with Alzheimer's for several years

I went to visit Ed one Sunday and took my little Shi Tzu, Peter, with me.

It was a very special visit.

I wish I were a great writer and could really describe the essence of the visit, but I am not, so I will just do the best I can.

After a pleasant drive to the Alois Center on that crisp fall day, I arrived and walked down the hall to Ed's room, wondering what type of mood he was in that day.

When he first saw me his eyes lit up and he said "Oh, it's you! Oh, I am so happy to see you! You are an angel! I am overwhelmed to see you! Oh, I am overwhelmed!"

He moved with his walker from his rocking chair to his Early American sofa and patted the empty space beside him, indicating that I should sit there, so I did.

He took my hand and kissed it several times, continuing to say he was overwhelmed and didn't have words to say how happy he was to see me.

His eyes were shining, his face was full of joy, and he held my hand, kissing it again from time to time. That was so typical of Ed - ever the quintessential European gentleman.

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  of Phyllis Dillereness

  • Housework can't kill you, but why take a chance?
  • Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing up is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing.
  • A smile is a curve that sets everything straight.
  • The reason women don't play football is because 11 of them would never wear the same outfit in public.
  • Best way to get rid of kitchen odors:  Eat out.
  • I want my children to have all the things I couldn't afford.  Then I want to move in with them.
  • Most children threaten at times to run away from home.  This is the only thing that keeps some parents going.
  • Any time three New Yorkers get into a cab without an argument, a bank has just been robbed.
  • We spend the first twelve months of our children's lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next twelve telling them to sit down and shut up.
  • What I don't like about office Christmas parties is looking for a job the next day.
  • The only time I ever enjoyed ironing was the day I accidentally got gin in the steam iron.
  • My photographs don't do me justice - they just look like me.
  • Tranquilizers work only if you follow the advice on the bottle - keep away from children.
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Senior Tips for Gardening
with Less Effort  
By Caren Parnes  |  For The Senior's Choice

Gardening is America's favorite leisure outdoor activity, enjoyed by more than 78 million people, according to the National Gardening Association. For most of us, gardening provides an opportunity to commune with the natural world, and creates a sanctuary that promises relief from the stresses of everyday life. Yet for older adults, all the digging, hoeing, weeding, mowing and watering-the necessities that make a garden beautiful-can be especially hard on backs, shoulders and knees. And that can turn a labor of love into a chore we dread, or even one we must give up as we become physically less able. The following tips for modifying tools and gardening techniques can make all the difference for the senior gardener.

Gardening Tip #1: Start with the right tools, and make them do the work.

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By Alan Weiss

When I first flew on airplanes, men wore suits and women wore dresses. Pan Am flight attendants (stewardesses) could have stepped out of a high-fashion magazine. Today, I see people in high-end restaurants in tee shirts, jeans, and flip-flops--men and women.

People who call me on the phone for the first time almost always address me as "Alan," as if we're long-time chums. Those on Facebook, in particular, create an informality that includes obscenity, suggestive photos, and far more information than I care to know about them.

This age of crazed egalitarianism, of a default first-name familiarity, of resorting to behaviors more common to pajamas over breakfast than dinner in public, will eventually end.

The social media sites are losing members, some institutions are restoring dress codes, and civility will be what gains influence and attention. A lack of manners doesn't create familiarity, it creates contempt.

Alan Weiss is a colleague and an international business consultant. He is also occasionally a self confessed curmudgeon.  And he is almost always correct in his observations.
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Where am I? How Did I Get Here? How Do I Get Out?
Regina McNamara, RN, MSN, MPH

There are few sadder and more frightening scenarios than an elderly person alone in a hospital Emergency Room. .  Especially if she has dementia...or difficulty walking...or hearing...or seeing... or speaking.  Especially if she is in pain. 

She has no idea where she is.  She is attached to monitors making strange sounds...There are bright lights everywhere, making it even more difficult for her to see anything much less understand.  People are trying to "find a vein" in order to take blood from her.  She is very, very cold.

No one is talking TO her, but many are talking AT her.

The questions come fast and frequently and are repeated by many different people she doesn't know...Doctors, nurses, social workers, aides....

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 KUDOS from Kelly

  by Kelly McNamara


April is Rookie Month!  Our two caregivers for this month are both relatively new to Always There Home Care,  but have already distinguished themselves as exceptional caregivers as recognized by our most important critics, the clients and families we serve

Shelly Ann Daley Kerr: Bridget, one of our favorite caregivers, referred Shelly Ann.  She is currently a nursing student (and a first rate one at that) but is flexible enough with her schedule to help us out with client care, often on last minute notice.  Shelly Ann's maturity, common sense and immediately apparent  loving chemistry with all the clients she serves are all remarkable.  She somehow manages to win over the most wary client with her wonderful sense of humor and her genuine warmth.  Her skill set is expansive; we have yet to find anything she cannot do.  We look forward to the time when she finishes her nursing program but until them we are thrilled that she has joined us to provide her special blend of care and competence to our clients.  Thanks Shelly Ann!

Luenda Edwards: Luenda came to us as a referral from Lola, one of our long time favorite caregivers.  Luenda had just completed a several years' case caring for a client with severe dementia who had died.  Luenda brings a special brand of patience, understanding and genuine caring to our clients.  They welcome her as a real friend from her first visit.  Clients' families are able to appreciate her considerable skills right away, and they immediately feel their loved ones are secure.  Thanks so much for joining our company Luenda, and we hope to enjoy your work for a very long time!

All caregivers mentioned in this column will receive a gift card and our sincere appreciation!  Many many thanks to all of you for once again extending yourselves to ensure that we are of course
Always There...!!

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We are privileged to have received referrals from and be able to coordinate care with many Assisted Living facilities, rehab facilities, and Medicare Home Care and Hospice agencies. Our growth is in large part due to the trust the staff in these organizations have put in our caregivers. We are likewise impressed with them and we are committed to referring to them on a regular basis

Waveny Life Care, New Cannan CT

With nearly 40 years of expertise in serving the community, Waveny Life Care Network is a not for profit comprehensive continuum of healthcare to serve the growing needs of adults from all areas. They offer an impressive selection of therapeutic programs, services and living options to enhance quality of life

Within their network, all services are provided within a single organization, and without any expensive buy-in fees or long-term commitments.

Their programs include:
Waveny Care Center, a beautiful skilled care facility offering a continuum of inpatient and outpatient services to help patients achieve their most successful outcomes.

The Village is an award-winning assisted living residence that is specifically designed to enhance the lives of people with memory impairment.  A licensed nurse and certified nursing assistants are on site 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

The Inn is a charming residence ideal for seniors who can appreciate the personal benefits of living independently in an active, yet intimate retirement community. The Inn can accommodate most lifestyles, it is important to know that every resident at The Inn has priority access to Waveny's high-quality continuum of healthcare services, programs and facilities, including Waveny Care Center.

Adult Day program is a lively engaging environment for elderly folks, especially those with memory impairment.

Waveny also provides home care services and outpatient rehabilitation and boast an enormous number of dedicated and creative volunteers.

A visit to Waveny is a well worth your time for anyone considering a move to another level of care.  Call for a tour and stay for lunch!  203.594.5331  


 About Always There Home Care

Always There Home Care provides compassionate, dependable and professional one-on-one care for seniors who need assistance in the comfort of their homes or residential care communities.  Services from highly qualified and trained caregivers range from companionship, meal preparation and incidental transportation to personal care, medication management and RN-directed case management. Available 7 days a week, services range from a few hours a day to 24-hour care.

Always There Home Care understands that every situation is unique and creates individualized care plans to help improve a client's quality of life.

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Our caregivers 


Our caregivers are totally committed, highly qualified and carefully selected individuals who are personally and thoroughly screened, bonded and insured. Most are Certified Nurse Assistants or Home Health Aides. Most importantly our caregivers are dependable and extraordinarily caring of others. In addition to their previous experience, our caregivers receive continuous training that includes dementia, hospice care, home safety, nutrition and other topics related to seniors. These highly qualified and trained caregivers are ready to help you and your loved ones with a variety of daily activities such as:

Personal care   /  Meal planning and preparation

Transportation to doctor appointments and other errands

Caring companionship   /  Light housekeeping

Medication reminders  /   Information and referral services   

Our personalized, nurse- supervised services are available 7 days a week and can range from a few hours a day to 24 hour and live in care.

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For more information or service needs, call 24 hours a day at: 800.348.0485 or visit

We are Always There!