The CDC defines teen dating violence as the physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional violence within a dating relationship, including stalking and harassment. It can occur in person or electronically and might occur between a current or former dating partner. 

Reports indicate 25 percent of dating teens admit they have been digitally victimized by their partners, yet only 9 percent seek help - rarely from parents or teachers. It is never, ever okay to physically, emotionally, or sexually abuse or harass anyone, even if you are upset. When we act out of hurt, anger, sadness, frustration, or other emotions, we fail to use our prefrontal cortex and use our amygdala instead. This means we are not using our most mature decision making skills. 

Unfortunately, during dating violence, the victims go through feeling guilty or sadness, may turn to substances, and have an increased likelihood of a mental illness like anxiety or depression. Having feelings of anger and frustration are perfectly okay, but it is how we channel that energy that is really important. We all have to keep ourselves and others safe by exercising other alternatives of expressing ourselves in a healthy manner. Remember, our brains are not fully developed until the ages 25 or 26. If we utilize healthy choices (like the ones listed below), we help shape our brain to its full potential. 

Healthy Choices to deal with anger and frustration in relationships:

Download the My Calm Beats App if you want guidance with breathing.

For more information come by the Choices room in N144! Choices cares and the services provided are confidential. Come by to gain support for a healthy lifestyle. Your friends are welcome too!