Good Morning,

In the two years that I have been running Sprouting Melodies groups, I have come across a common statement from parents: "I don't know why he's doing this," the "this" being anything from crying throughout class, throwing instruments, biting, shying away, pushing etc. Young children go through stages of challenging behaviors in their natural development that may leave you feeling helpless or frustrated. In most cases these behaviors are typical for children who are exploring their world and the cause and effect responses they get from these challenging behaviors. Other times, an early intervention assessment can be explored for additional support for the family and child.

In the case of a typically developing child, the above mentioned behaviors can be a way for children to test their boundaries.  When you find your child testing your limits, the best way to teach your child what you expect is to be consistent in your response. If your responses vary, it becomes a game of "what will she do this time?"  If your child is engaging in a behavior that can be harmful to themselves or others, use a firm voice to get their attention. If the child is biting, they may just be seeking the sensory input of the bite.  If you can firmly tell them "no" and then give them a toy or something they can safely bite, then you have successfully conveyed what was wrong with their behavior and given them a safe alternative.  If your child is throwing objects, firmly tell them "no," and give them one or two more chances with the object. If they throw it again, the object is "all done," and put the object away.  

This immediate, consistent, and firm response to difficult behaviors will help you and your child understand what is expected.  It takes time and practice, and plenty of patience. Remember, your child does not always have the self-control you think they should. In those moments where they need to throw a temper tantrum or throw something, you need to be their self control.  Physically stop the behavior and redirect.  

In Sprouting Melodies we are inclusive not exclusive.  We create an understanding and supportive environment where you can learn tools to use at home and in the community to help your child learn and grow.  We strive to be welcoming, and trust that the families who come to class are tolerant of those difficult moments.  

If you experience any of these challenges, stay in class, and remember you are supported not judged.  See you in class!

~Kristina