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A weekly newsletter from Park Tudor School
January 28, 2016
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A Letter from Peter Kraft, Interim Head of School

Dear Park Tudor Community,
 
These are difficult days for our school.
 
But we have drawn strength from the extraordinary support of the Park Tudor family. Your encouraging notes, generous offers of help, bountiful deliveries of food, and countless other acts of kindness have given us all the courage to face these trying times together.
 
As I shared with our faculty and students this week, I have taken comfort from the wisdom of Abraham Lincoln. During the crucible of the Civil War, Lincoln wrote,
 
"Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing."
 
It is in times like these that true character is revealed. And time and time again this week, I've seen our community demonstrate the integrity, respect and responsibility that define our core values.
 
We are still grieving as a school community. We will navigate these next few weeks one day at a time.
 
Yet while we may have lost our leader, we have not lost our way. Like the tree in our crest, we are strong and deeply rooted.
Park Tudor Crest

Tonight we will gather to discuss, openly and honestly, our recent challenges. In doing so, we will continue our process of healing and reconciliation.
 
Neither this meeting, nor the weeks ahead, will prove easy. But I remain convinced that Park Tudor will emerge stronger and more united from this experience.
 
Our mission is clear and unwavering:

To create an inspiring learning environment, with exceptional educators and extraordinary opportunities, that prepares and motivates students to become balanced, confident and resourceful lifelong learners.
 
I thank you for your continued support of Park Tudor,
 
Peter Kraft
Interim Head of School
Remembering Dr. Miller
Remembering Dr. Miller

During this difficult time, we have received many tributes to Dr. Miller and words of comfort from alumni, parents, students, faculty and staff, and friends throughout Indianapolis and the country. Thank you to everyone who has offered support and encouragement this week.

"Matthew Miller, you had us at hello. You could let students pour a bucket of ice on your head, smile big in the dunk tank with lower schoolers throwing balls at you, or go camping "for fun" over summer break with a dozen 17 year-olds and very few parents. You were at every single school event, every single weekend and weeknight, and your door was always open. I marveled at how you did it as a teacher who worked for you. Most importantly, you connected with kids...all of them. You gave them the benefit of the doubt and second chances. As a PT parent, I appreciated this. You made us teachers feel that the work we do is the most important work out there. We were so lucky to have you as our leader and friend. Rest in peace."
- Bonnie Stewart, 5th Grade Humanities Teacher and PT Parent

"It is in times of heartache and trouble that the power of family is most important. My heart aches for the Park Tudor family today at the passing of Head of School Matthew Miller. My thoughts and prayers are with his family at this time. I hope that as a Park Tudor family, we come together to help support, give guidance and show our undying love for each other in this time of need. Dr. Miller was an inspirational man and one with a vision for Park Tudor School. He will be truly missed by all those he impacted. Rest In Peace Dr. Miller."
- Patrick Rezek '11

"Dr. Miller was such a positive part of my life, and taught me the importance of learning, reading, good humor and compassion to others. He was truly an extraordinary educator, one whom I will remember for as long as I live. God bless his family and the Park Tudor community."
- JP LaBarge '15

"Thoughts and prayers with Dr. Miller's family. I had the pleasure of being at PT during his first years, truly a man who wanted to get to know each and every student. I know he will be greatly missed."
- Ravi Shah '14

"Dr. Miller was a role model to every student in the way he carried himself and spread joy. Never saw him without a smile on his face. Stay strong Park Tudor family."
- JB Rapp '12

"Cathedral is holding the Park Tudor students, faculty, and the family in our prayers today."
- Cathedral High School
"Be Strong" video


Remembering to Laugh
This note by Skye Wallin '07 was read at the Upper School assembly on Tuesday morning:

Wood Room mischief. Those dark, frosty mornings. Rounding hallway corners. Playing games and cramming for impossible exams. The warm rush of indoors that encapsulates popsicle children. Sharon Riddle's announcements. Coach Page's hoo-rahs! Ms. McAlear's questions. Dr. Hamer's edits. Pranks and yelps and sweeping world history. Chicken sandwiches plus dino bites that kill. Curly fry specials. Extended conversations. Extra credit. That special teacher. That cutie across the locker bay. Singing in red sweaters, stealing the show. Terrified of the grade. Gratified that your buddy is in the same boat. Echoes, screeches, and smell of sweat in the gymnasium. Those downer days that friends can make or break. The odd mix of sadness and excitement as summer break comes to an end. The joy of laughter ringing from Lower to Middle to Upper. 

Laughter. It rings in my mind still. I remember laughing and loving so much during my time at Park Tudor. My best friendships were forged there. Teachers who changed my entire life. An environment that was like a learning and living playground. Lucky I was to enjoy and learn at such an institution.

It was utterly shocking to hear the news of late. Dr. Miller's passing made me sadder than I could have imagined. How could something like this happen?  Park Tudor's Headmasters are such a vital part of our culture.  It may seem strange to some, but it's true. In 4th grade, my first year as a Panther, Headmaster Bruce Galbraith was ever present. He would walk the halls with a yo-yo and perform tricks. As I transitioned to the Upper School, Headmaster Doug Jennings joined our community and brought with him friendly conversations that I quite enjoyed. Dr. Miller had a youthful exuberance and took his job seriously. He was a dear friend to the students, parents, faculty, and staff alike. I met him on multiple occasions, most recently when he came to visit PT alumni in Los Angeles. Dr. Miller was eager to connect former students from different eras. Indeed, he connected me with a fascinating Park School graduate at the LA event.

But a dark shadow has been cast over Park Tudor as of late and there is not answer to the question: why? As we stare into the void and grow fearful of our own mortality remember: you are surrounded by beauty and incredible love.  The amount of love and compassion that is about to flood the halls and sing in the auditorium and fly throughout the Commons will remind people what this school is really all about. As hopeless a time as it may seem, the truth is that we are each other's cure. Not that there is an actual cure, but to know that your friends, mentors, and family are there for you. To know that your teachers really love and care for you. To know that those limestone walls will not crumble, and that the school year will go on.  

We must hold on to those truths. The hope and the fact that YOU are loved. YOU ARE LOVED! Seriously. You are. Don't forget it, folks. And if you do forget it, if you get trapped in the gaze of the abyss, if you get hopelessly cynical, remember it. You are loved and you love a lot of others too.

We cannot make the abyss go away, but we can keep it in its place.  The abyss need not wreck our lives. Fight back at it with love, compassion, and tireless empathy. Be strong, be still, and please, laugh.

Panther Proud
By Jean Feit '89 with contributions from other schoolmates

I.
Apple cider. Blue exam books. Mr. Foxlow's brown fountain pen markings.
Playing field hockey in gym class. Indiana limestone. Exam weeks. 
Pelican Shakespeare. Das Boot. Drawing maps. Apple IIe.
"Focus on the math, you won't feel the pain."
Warm chocolate chip cookies that fill a plate. Lunch tickets. 
Small classes. Knowing EVERYONE's name. Rube Goldberg projects.
Morning assemblies. Red auditorium seats. Pay phones.
The super glued quarter next to library phone. Carpooling. The drop-off circle.
Music Man. "My Little Wombats." Apple Press. Annie Get your Gun. 
Holiday concerts. Bees on fallen apples. Pep band. Tucked in shirts.
Watching football from a hill. Meandering Streams.
Diagramed sentences. Film History and Art History - my favorite classes.
Playing cards during free periods or during class for some. 
Golf carts. Plaid kilts. Collared shirts. Corduroys. Prep school. Wrap-around skirts.

No gum in Mr. Williams's class. Monsieur Thibaut. Red and White.
The Commons. The "T." Senior Privileges. White dresses & red, long-stemmed roses.

Balsam bridges. Orange lockers. Great friends. Life lessons. Opportunity.
Foster Hall. Upper School. Lower School. Middle School.
Entered 7th grade shy, scared, intimidated...
Graduated more confident with a Renaissance knowledge base.
Just a few memories...from the six years that I was a PT Panther.

II.
Even today, I talk with, text with, engage via social media with someone from PT. They are some of my closest and dearest friends.
Late night phone conversations, messages, texts, and posts galore.
Catching up in person over a cup of coffee, horchata, or beer. 
Liking photos of children, marriages, gatherings, triumphs.
Support during the difficult times, the darkest hours, providing love all around.
Bonding over the simple fact, we walked the same halls over two decades ago.

III.
Class of '89 features: a comedian, entertainment manager, a travel photo journalist, Infectious Disease Specialist, writers, child life specialist, artists, Eye, Ear, Nose & Throat Surgeon, activists, doctors, orchestra conductor, lawyers, business entrepreneurs, a mountain climber, IT specialists, musicians, a classroom teacher, a museum educator, engineers, marketing specialists, a lobbyist, jewelry designers, a reporter, a minister, an appellate court clerk, a wellness advocate, concert violinist, Pediatric Neurosurgeon, Assistant Attorney General, parents, financial advisors, EMR researcher for improved healthcare, a pilot, former military servicemen.

Amazing really. All we are today because of the solid PT foundation. We were once together in the small classrooms and now we roam the world...
This is the Park Tudor School I know and love!
Celebration of Life for Dr. Miller

There will be a Celebration of Life for Dr. Miller on Friday, January 29 at 3:00 p.m. at Second Presbyterian Church (7700 N. Meridian Street).

We invite all of our Park Tudor family to gather immediately following the service in Clowes Commons on our campus. 

So that faculty and students may attend the service, we will have an early dismissal on Friday. Pick-up locations will remain the same.
  • Hilbert Center/Lower School: 12:45 p.m.; there will be no after-care or after-school classes. 
  • Middle/Upper School: 1:15 p.m.; we will follow our regular schedule through 5th period.
Park Tudor School Mission

To create an inspiring college-preparatory learning environment, with exceptional educators and extraordinary opportunities, that prepares and motivates students to become balanced, confident, and resourceful lifelong learners.


 

Editor: Cathy Chapelle '87

Editorial Staff: Cassie Dull

Graphic Design & Layout: Stefanie Dean '05

 

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