I have discovered a new elephant in my life. Before I continue, an explanation is in order for those of you not familiar with my book, Juggling Elephants. In that book Todd Musig and I look at how the struggle of trying to get it all done is like attempting to juggle elephants-it's impossible. In our training programs we have participants identify their "elephants" and these could include anything from an assignment at work to a strained relationship to personal health challenges.
I never really thought about a negative attitude being an "elephant," but there is no question that having a less than positive perspective is a heavy weight when we are trying to move quickly through our day. It adds a layer of resistance to tackling the tough tasks while creating unnecessary friction in our interactions with others. I don't know about you, but I need every resource available to get my work done-not struggle with an unnecessary burden.
Once I recognized how my negative attitude was limiting the number of "standing ovations" I was getting from my circus (another concept from Juggling Elephants) I started making note of when I was feeding this elephant so I could take the appropriate actions to starve it. Here's my current list:
When I forget that I can't get it all done. I still have some days when I am not as intentional about prioritizing my tasks, and I just "wing it." On such days I get caught up on number of tasks completed instead of the number of high priority tasks accomplished. It's about being productive, not just busy.
I start substituting blame for responsibility. It takes so much less work to just blame a challenging situation on the economy, the failure of others to perform, or a hundred other things. And I've noticed that if I start blaming someone or something for poor results in one area, it spreads to other areas quickly. In those moments of blame I have to remember another line from Juggling Elephants: You are the ringmaster of your circus. I am the one most accountable for my success or failure-not someone or something else.
I envy someone else. Be it celebrity, successful business person, or someone with the latest electronic gadget, wishing I had their status, money, or object diminishes my attitude of gratitude. Admiring others and their accomplishments is one thing...wanting to be them instead of you is quite another. Once I start making my list of the things for which I am thankful, I get a more proper perspective on my situation.
I stop engaging in proven routines. Almost every morning for the past eight years you could find me getting physical exercise. It has kept me mentally sharp during the day, kept my waistline in check, and prevented me from having to resort to medication to control my cholesterol. When I go just 2 or 3 days without the exercise, I find my attitude toward my work and life to be much less positive. I also try to have at least one conversation per week with someone who I consider a professional or personal mentor. When I neglect this routine, I find my world view getting smaller, and a sense of urgency to improve some aspect of my life wanes.
I put self above service. I find tremendous joy in encouraging others. Whether it's sending a personal note, congratulating them on an accomplishment, or just spending time in engaging conversation, I find that the enrichment to my own life is probably greater than what they receive. When I start saying to myself, "I don't have time for such things," I'm feeding my elephant a BIG meal.
What would you add to the list? Send me an email with your thoughts. And if you know someone who is trying to juggle the elephant of a negative attitude, feel free to pass these tips along to them. You can tell them I asked you to.
What are the signs that you are feeding the elephant of a negative attitude?
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