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What I learned from my favorite teacher
Nostalgia
One of the most vivid manifestations of nostalgia in one's life is often those of our days in school. This was a period of carefree abandon and fun. Nothing seemed to bother us. Everything was taken in a positive, hopeful and cheerful manner. It was a sangfroid that would be the envy of us as adults.

Memories of school going days are also the ones that laid the foundation for education, career and the pursuit of life goals, and crucially, the germination of personality. Nothing was more inspirational than the individual with whom a major part of this period in one's life was spent. This was of course your school teacher. It could have been the home room teacher or the science, art, humanities  or any other subject teacher. It was an individual in whose presence you took your fledgling steps in life.

Why a School Teacher?
Why is it that a school teacher commands such an important place in your hearts and memories. Well, there are a lot of reasons. To begin with, being the formative years of our lives, we seek a real life figure outside of our family (parents for example) for, apart from the obvious reason of gaining knowledge, guidance and encouragement. Considering that for anything between six and ten years we spend the major part of our waking lives in the presence of this figure, the influence is understandable.

In a way, our school teachers held a huge place in our hearts - often even more than our parents. A school teacher being an independent person tended to understand our mindsets more than our parents. Parents are very aspirational when it comes to their children and frequently are too close to them and do not understand the singular motivations and innermost thoughts of the child, which often were at odds with those of parental figures. This is not to say that parents are apathetic to a child's thoughts, it is just that they do not share a child's perspective. Your school teacher is able to do that well.

So, having said that school teachers hold a place in our hearts, it is not a sweeping generalization. There are some school teachers who we revere more than others and who we respect. They are inspiring.  While role model would be a cliched expression, we do look up to them. What is it about these special individuals which earns our esteem?

Nurturing Innate Potential
School teachers are, arguably, in a better position to nurture the innate potential of a child more than anybody else.  This is because they literally watch the child grow in front of their eyes. However, more critically, they are in a position to influence the thinking of a child.

Childhood experiences are precious since they plant the seed of self-esteem and worth which later as an adult we grow into. A strong word of discouragement or even (more commonly) a put down - you cannot do this or you are not good at this - will cause a lifelong dent in self-esteem. On the other hand, this is where probably those special teachers hold a place in our hearts. They encouraged us, praised our efforts (the power of praise is immense) and that laid the foundation to not just our innate potential but our "worth" in our own eyes. We look up to these kindred souls who are nurturing a budding personality without any expectations - what can a child give the teacher (gone are the days when the teacher demanded a gurudakshina (a mandatory gift from student to teacher in return for the imparting of knowledge).

Moreover, since your school teacher is directly monitoring your academic performance and gets to know your strengths and weaknesses very closely, they place themselves in the perfect position to nurture your talents and abilities. Whether they nurture or in many instances effectively kill your motivations would separate those special individuals from the ordinary (often awful) ones. The presence of those special personalities mean you have a favorite in school.

My History Teacher
My favorite teacher in school taught us history. History is a subject which, if not taught well can send students into slumber. This is particularly because most of the time we are looking at historical characters. The past is prime. And can get monotonous. However, my history teacher was an ace. He imparted so much life Into his history class that all of us used to wait for his class with excitement and anticipation. What was so great about him? Well, to begin with, Tripathi was a master storyteller. He infused so much color into his tales of historical figures that we were fascinated. I still remember vividly his description of Napoleon Bonaparte and his mercurial manner with his army.  His anecdotes were also hilarious and we used to be in splits constantly at his sense of humor.

Apart from his phenomenal teaching prowess, Tripathi genuinely cared that his students liked history as a subject. He thus took great pains to know how each one of his students was performing in tests and internal exams. He also encouraged us a lot and  made us feel as if we were super bright students with a great future ahead of us. Those years of being under his tutelage and counsel built a strong sense of confidence in us. In contrast, our language teacher literally considered us students as abominations. Our history teacher was a breath of fresh air among some of the dreadful faculty at our school.

I can go as far as to say that now that I am firmly settled into the marvelously fulfilling experience of teaching, I have used a lot of the foundational methods my history teacher often used to infuse engagement in students.


Let me leave you with this question.
Did you have a favorite teacher in school? What kind of effect did he or she have on you? Were these individuals special?

If they were, this journey down memory lane should be a pleasurable one indeed!

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The Abyss of Negativity!
Are your allowing yourself to feel low?

What is Negativity?
It is said that human beings have a morbid fascination for negativity. You only have to pick up the daily news to see how the media revels in spraying all the macabre details of things gone horribly wrong day after day. After all, death, serious injury, abominations sell incredibly well.

In all this rather bleak background, it may seem justified to feel depressed, wallow in self-pity and generally be a personification of negativity.

However, have you ever considered that being mired in negativity (and often self pity) does not improve anything, in particular your current state. You stop seeing good in anything. You court misery stubbornly. The abyss of negativity is deep and unrelenting.


Why Negativity?
Why does somebody choose this obviously painful path? Have you reflected on this? What makes individuals get depressed and be in a "low"?

Without ever this sounding like a psychiatric evaluation, it is key to understand that negativity is actually a defense mechanism. What do I mean by this? It means, individuals do not want to be accountable for their own actions. They would rather take refuge in this vulnerable state. It deflects ownership of things that we experience. It is often said that being in a state of happiness requires courage. Yes, you read that right. You need courage to be happy. Not just happy today or tomorrow but in a regular state of good cheer. With all the negative things strewn around on any given day, it is a supreme example of self discipline and awareness to stay happy.

Individuals who are negative are often those who are constantly playing the comparison game. They are trying to keep up with the joneses, so to say. In this never ending process, they consistently find that they are inferior to those they compare themselves with. In his landmark bestselling book, Psycho Cybernetics, Dr. Maxwell Maltz, the renowned plastic surgeon states that people who play the comparison game are those who consequently have a low self-esteem of themselves. However, the doctor goes on to say that there is no need for comparison at all because the creator meant for every human being to be as different as their finger print or DNA. Moreover, and critically, every human being is inferior to some and superior to some others. So, comparisons have no place at all although they are the ones that generate and perpetuate negativity.

 
The Past and the Future
Negativity has another source. In fact, twin sources. Regret about the past, fear of the future. You are either wallowing in what has already happened and you regretted or becoming a nervous wreck fearing what will happen in the future. You can actually do nothing to either. However, you can certainly get out of the abyss of negativity by doing something you control.

Be IN THE NOW! Savor the moment. Those magnificent morsels of time that you can enjoy and feel liberated about. Negativity will be banished for sure. You owe it to yourself.

The Dalai Lama says "There is no way to happiness. Happiness IS THE WAY."

And celebrating the present is as good a way to be happy as any other. The fetters of fear and regret are removed forever. The current moment is supreme. It is gone if you do not capitalize on it.

 

Count your Blessings
So, what does one do to counter negativity? To begin with, it may sober you to learn that there is no human being on this earth who Is without some problem or other. How is it then, many people are happy and positive? Is it that suddenly their problems have vanished and life is a bed of roses? If you pay attention to such people (you may find them everywhere including next door), they seem to be those who are making a willing effort to look up the bright side of things. In short, they are counting their blessings.

If you happen to read about any of UNICEF's global programs, you will be horrified to learn the kind of poverty and inhuman conditions many people particularly children are suffering day in day out. Would you consider yourself lucky and fortunate to have food, clothing and shelter when these unfortunate people cannot be certain of their next meal.

So, you are far more blessed than sometimes you may be considering yourself to be. Remember the heart rending quote:"I complained I had no shoes until I met somebody who had no feet."

Gratitude - the blessed salve
Counting your blessings also means that you are grateful for certain things. That you sincerely are thankful for a lot of good things in your life. It cannot be that there are no good things happening in your life at all. Think for a moment about all those things that you have been able to enjoy without any major problems.  Think about the healthy state you are in (all limbs and faculties working!), the lovely family you have, that you can actually look forward to another day of joy. These are infinite moments in this finite life of ours to  soak up and revel in.

In particular, as you grow older, it is important to feel grateful about things that you take for granted. For example, as long as you are fit enough to go for your morning walk, eat your meals normally have control over your faculties and not be dependent on others, you should consider yourself very lucky indeed. Would that serve to chisel away at negative feelings you may harbor?
 
Let me leave you with this thought.
Are you relinquishing the unalloyed joy this present moment is carrying?

Do Not! For that is pretty much what there is. It is a precious opportunity you do not want to let go!
 
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