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Conflict Resolution Newsletter
by Alternative Resolutions, LLC 

September 2013 - Vol 3, Issue 8
In This Issue
Company News & Recent Publications
Bridging
Theory Application Tips
Conflict Resolution Events
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September is a time of transitions so our article on bridging is particularly appropriate.  The bedrock of the bridge are fundamental mediator skills which all leaders can tap into.

 

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Bridging:

Bridging is the seventh tool of the mediator identified by Mark Gerzon in Leading Through Conflict: How Successful Leaders Transform Differences into Opportunities, Boston, MA. Harvard Business School Press, 2006.   Bridging follows naturally from our last newsletter article about dialogue. True dialogue means identifying creative options where none previously existed and deeply examining the assumptions we have about "the other" in conflict.
  

"Bridging is building actual partnerships and alliances that cross the borders that divide an organization or community." Id at 189. If dialogue is effective then bridging can begin to take place.   The common challenge for both dialogue and bridging is the need to transcend professional, social and political identities to connect with each other. Id at 193.   All the talk needs to produce some action or results. In bridging many creative possibilities exist, such as reframing the conflict in a more constructive way, reducing friction by building relationships where distrust reigned previously or finding a way to collaborate through joint work. All of these bridges require stronger relationships between the participants. Id at 190. The leader with mediator skills can characterize the conflict so that participants can engage in developing creative solutions.

 

Organizations that thrive and collaborate have a problem solving mindset. Instead of thinking about "us" and "them" they think "us" and "we". When the stakes are high, as they are with most serious conflicts one party needs to take leadership and characterize the issues as a "we" problem.

Bridging produces social or emotional capital, which is like the cabling on a suspension bridge that holds up the supports and the roadway. Id at 192. Emotional capital is the intangible product that will begin to transform a conflict.   This is a side benefit of charitable work done by many corporations. In addition to the worthwhile project it brings people from diverse teams in a company together.

 

When bridging occurs and social capital increases, relationships become strong enough to produce synergy" Id at 195. With synergy, the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. The Synergos Institute, an organization that is dedicated to solving global economic and social problems through collaboration teaches bridging leadership skills, as a fundamental aspect of its work and its mission.   What lies at the heart of these skills is listening, empathy and problem solving, the skills of a mediator.


Next month:  Innovation

  

Theory Application TIPS

TIPS for leaders on building bridges 

  • Start small, such as having lunch with an adversary. Get to know them as human beings.

  • Find some joint project that diverse organizations can work on together.

  • Step into the shoes of someone less fortunate or privileged and envision the problem from their perspective.

Do you have questions about this month's article? We'd like to hear from you. Email us now!

Conflict Resolution in the Community:  Upcoming Events
 

How to Resolve Disputes More Effectively, Rockville, MD, September 18, 2013 Payroll Network 

 

University of Maryland School of Social Work, Baltimore, MD September 19, 2013

  

Basic Mediation Training, October 28-November 1, 2013. To register go to Maryland State Bar Association.

 

We look forward to being your partners in productive, proactive conflict resolution endeavors. If you are a new reader or didn't request a copy previously please email us for a free copy of our organizational needs assessment.  Put your organization in a conflict healthy environment.

Sincerely,

Ellen

Ellen F. Kandell, Esq.
Alternative Resolutions, LLC