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Blessings to you and Happy Autumn!

 

I hope this email finds you all balanced, happy and well!  Here are a few updates to share with you.

 

Registration is now open for R.E.A.P. Certification Training course beginning Monday, October 20th.  This will be a weekly class through Monday, November 10th.  This healing method is currently in the process of being reviewed by the NCBTMB for providing continuing education credits to massage therapists and bodyworkers alike.  I'm both honored and pleased at the possibility of R.E.A.P. being nationally recognized in this manner.  Please note I also offer this certification training one-on-one by phone for those who are unable to attend in person.


I've also returned to writing more and have recently been inspired to write an article titled Healing the Healer: How To Cope With Loved Ones Who Resist Your Help.  You can read this article belowHealing.

 

As a reminder, I am continuing to offer private sessions either in-person or by phone for intuitive counseling, mediumship readings (communicating with loved ones on the other side), mentoring and both R.E.A.P. and Transfigurative Trauma healing sessions.  You can contact me directly or schedule your own appointment by clicking on the link on the left hand column. 

 

Below the article you can find out more information about future events by clicking on the title of the event listing. I hope you enjoy the article and find it helpful.  Thank you so much for your presence! 

 

Yours always in love and joy,

Pamela


"Pamela's energy work is powerful, clear and deeply healing. Working with her frees you from the hidden blockages to your total well being. I highly recommend her beautiful work to anyone who wants to live more fully and freely in the present." 

 

Sonia Choquette, World-renowned author, storyteller, six-sensory spiritual teacher

below Healing the Healer:  How To Cope With Loved Ones Who Resist Your Help

 

In my opinion, watching someone you love stubbornly resist any help to feel better - whether emotional, physical or psychological - is probably the most frustrating and at the same time, saddest thing to witness.  You know the difference between those who really work hard to feel better and those who consistently push away any and all suggestions.  It's not that you want them to do it your way - you just want them try any and every way they can.  At one time in my life I was surrounded with people like that.  Although it ended up giving me tremendous gifts and experience in healing and helping others, it left me with a bittersweet feeling towards "resisters". 

 

It's important to first make a correct distinction about who these people are.  "Resisters" are people who hold onto their illness/condition/behavior as a false sense of identity about who they are.  They also hold onto it as a false sense of power and security.  They often have a very strong ego that won't allow themselves to be vulnerable or seek help.  Whether they are aware of it or not, they 
like the illness/condition/behavior they have because in addition to that false sense of power and security, it gives them attention through sympathy.  Deep within they often harbor incredible resentment and anger - to the point where they expect restitution from everyone in the world.  They often opt for the most convenient, if any, method of coping with their problem (i.e. pills, escapism, and addictive substances).  Overall, they refuse to really address their problem they, in truth, don't really want to feel better. This is a huge distinction from someone who acknowledges their issues and searches for ways to feel better. 

So, in order to avoid getting caught up in your own resentment towards any "resisters" in your life, there are a few things you can do to feel better yourself:

 

  • Let go of your attempts to control.  This will give you nothing but grief, agony and a lot of sleepless nights.  Attempting to control them involves scheming and manipulating - definitely not healthy for them OR you.  Attempts at control stem from placing conditions on your own good feelings.  You don't need them to change in order for YOU to feel better.  Repeat that. 
    You don't need them to change in order for YOU to feel better.
  • Be a positive example.  I honestly believe this is the best way to be.  Show them how much you love looking within and discovering new, wonderful things about yourself and about life.  Show them how great you feel and how everything works out for you because you try.  You don't have to rub their faces in it, just be the example - they will notice.  And even if this doesn't inspire them, you're on a roll!
  • Forgive them. This is one you may have to come back to several times so be patient with yourself.  You may know why they do what they do and while it frustrates you, the truth is, they are stuck in a pattern they can't or won't get out of.  Have compassion - just don't go to an unhealthy extreme where you enable them either.
  • Consider they are helping you (and others) by being this way.  When I realized that what I saw as a curse was really a blessing, I was at peace.  "Resisters" are teaching you a great deal and what you learn may eventually be passed on to someone else who is searching for your wisdom and knowledge.  Appreciate them for this.
  • Understand they are in their 'comfort zone'.  Think of a child who doesn't want to go anywhere without their security blanket.  You wouldn't just rip it away from them.  You would gradually teach them how they can feel safe and trusting without it.  It works the same way with "resisters".  It's all they know and feel comfortable with. 
  • Help others who truly want to change.  This can prove to be an incredibly rewarding and healing option for you.  When you take the time to share your wisdom and support with those who appreciate it, everyone wins.  You can even share your experiences in how wonderful this option is with the "resister".  Who knows, maybe this will inspire them to change.

The people we have in our lives are there for a reason - especially the challenging ones.  It's important to remember that "resisters" are actually good for you in some way so that you may see and appreciate the hidden blessing they have for you.  In the meantime, do what you can for you and for others who are looking for your gift.  You don't need the "resister's" condition to change in order for YOU to feel good, so don't let them pull you down.  Otherwise, you're no help to anyone, least of all yourself.

 

 

Upcoming Events

 

 

October Monthly Spiritual Growth & Development Class

 

Saturday October 18, 2014 from 11:00 AM to 1:00 PM EDT

 

In this class, we come together as a group and community to share our experiences - spiritual and otherwise - with the intention to gain wisdom and understanding. In this safe and nurturing judgment-free environment, we support and encourage growth and expansion. Guided meditations and journeys and/or energy transmissions are provided to assist.

 

 Illuminations of Gaia

 

 

 

R.E.A.P. Certification Training

 

Weekly Classes Beginning Monday October 20, 2014 at 6:00 - 9:00 PM Until Monday November 10, 2014

 

In this certification training, you will learn how to apply the specific techniques in R.E.A.P. to heal yourself and others. These specific techniques work on bringing yourself or another into alignment with your/their higher self while simultaneously healing illness and corresponding symptoms of pain, depression, trauma and confusion.

 

Illuminations of Gaia

Be sure to visit my Facebook fan page for helpful daily messages of love and support in your journey.  I also offer last minute special deals off my services there from time to time which you can only take advantage of if you are a fan of this page.

 

For more articles and self-help techniques, check out my archived newsletters, my articles on the Huffington Post, or you can visit my website. 

 

At Passage To Inner Joy, my mission is to align people with who they really are by way of my healing and counseling services.  By helping clients overcome their fears and self-imposed limitations, I am able to assist them in experiencing the abundant love and joy that is ever-present.

 

Thank you all for your continued support and I look forward to supporting you further in your personal journey of healing, growth, and self-discovery.

 

With love and joy,

Pamela Dussault Runtagh