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Have you ever considered what it means to either fit in somewhere or actually belong? ADHD coach DeShawn Wert brings this to our attention in our feature article in this issue. Do you worry more about what others think or disregard your own inner voice. If so, then DeShawn suggests it might be time to stop and ask yourself two important "gut check" questions.  Read her article below to get insight on fitting in or choosing to belong.

Be sure to catch our recent shows on Attention Talk Radio. Here's a taste of what you'll get!

Are curiosity and distractibility opposite sides of the same coin? Do you think curiosity is a positive quality? If those with ADHD can do for others what they can't do for themselves, would that be a positive or a negative quality? Listen to our interview with ADHD expert Laurie Dupar to get her insight on the show titled, "Positive Qualities of ADHD."

Ever expressed frustration when interrupted on a task that requires you to use your executive functioning skills? Would it be nice to articulate the ADD experience for others to gain insight around why the frustration manifests? Then, gain insight from Jeff Copper in his show, titled "Articulating ADHD So Others Get It!"

It is important to find someone who is patient with his impatience, according to ADHD entrepreneur Neil Peterson in our interview with him, titled "The ADHD Entrepreneur, with Neil Peterson." What do you think about this as a characteristic to look for in people to support those with ADHD?

Here's ADHD Aha! Solution #37:  If your timer worked for a few days and then became invisible to you, consider getting a bunch of different timers and rotating them every now and then so the novelty doesn't wear off.  Check out Jeff Copper's insight on other solutions in our episode, titled "Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Aha Solutions."

And in our video interviews last month, there's some great information for you there.

When it comes to managing time, would variety help? It does for Laura. The key is to use different timers. Find out why this may be a good idea in the interview, titled "Attention Deficit Disorder Time Tips."  
Do you get emotional about ADHD and emotions? Could the ADHD condition be the fuel that inspires and motivates you in the presence of your passion? Watch our interview with Dr. Russell Barkley and learn more on the topic, "ADHD, Emotion, and Dr. Russell Barkley."

Simple systems can be complex when you execute them. More complicated systems might take more effort up front, but they can make execution easy. Check out Laura's morning clothing routine in our interview, titled "ADHD Tip to Organize What to Wear."  

If you have ADHD, what gets in the way of delegating? If delegation is so easy, why haven't you done it yet? Get Jeff Copper's insight in the video, titled "Can Those with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Delegate?"

Are you attending to the right thing? If you haven't done it yet, download our a-Book (the "a" is for attention), "Identify YOUR Top Five Hurdles to Managing ADD/ADHD."  It has tips Jeff has learned from doing over 300 interviews with ADHD experts. Let your friends know about it, too! They can download it here:  
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The Differences between Fitting in and Belonging 
by DeShawn Wert, 
Early in my career, I realized I was pretty good at "fitting in." I saw nothing wrong with it. In fact, I was well liked and respected. And as I grew older, fitting in became even more important to me. Unfortunately, over time as you try to "fit in," something happens - you begin to compromise.

First, let me say that compromise is not a dirty word. On the contrary, everyday life and circumstances call for compromise. Some compromising choices can include a radio station that everyone in the car can tolerate, choosing a restaurant that will satisfy the tastes of everyone, and which movie to watch that will entertain everyone. But when compromise becomes your way of life to "fit in," it gets easy to give away too much.

Women are especially conditioned to "please others." Additionally, if one has ADD, you may feel the need to be on the good side of others because it is likely just a matter of time before we will need to make an apology! Between the cultural issues and ADD symptoms, compromise can become a regular part of life. I call this the "double whammy" of ADD.

Fitting In
So how do you know when to say when to the compromise of fitting in? Has your ability to compromise gone too far? There are two gut check questions that help me know when I am getting close to fitting in:
  • Am I thinking of pleasing others' expectations more than my own?
  • How much am I changing (or hiding) myself to meet the expectations of others?
Choosing Belonging
Using these gut check questions helps me determine more strategically my decision to join a community, become friends, or share valuable information. I am able to live on my terms, honestly share my thoughts, rather than try to blend in. By knowing the subtle differences between the act of "fitting in" and the act of "belonging," I know my responsibility to choose my path and my friends wisely as I consciously choose to belong.

So, when I start to feel I am worrying more about what others think of me and I start to disregard or ignore my own inner voice, I stop and ask myself what I am going to choose - "fitting in" or "belonging"? Which would you choose?


Published with permission. 
Copyright DeShawn Wert,
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Recent Radio Shows in Our Archives

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It is convenient for society to point out what is negative about ADHD, but are there any positive things? You bet! In this edition of Attention Talk Radio we interview Laurie Dupar ( on the topic and illuminate some obvious positive qualities around ADHD and, as you might suspect, some not so obvious strengths and gifts. If you find yourself focused on the negative, you won't want to miss this insightful show.

Wouldn't it be great if people could understand what it is like to have ADHD? To help others gain insight and maybe some empathy? In this episode, your host, Jeff Copper, an ADHD and attention coach, shares a few insights to help you better articulate ADHD and help others understand what it is like to have ADHD and why those with ADHD do what they do. If you feel like others around you just don't get it or could benefit form better explaining the ADHD experience, then you'll find this show very insightful.

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder has its challenges, and so does being an entrepreneur. How magnified are the challenges when the two come together? How can they be overcome? In this episode of Attention Talk Radio, we interview Neil Peterson ( who is a successful entrepreneur and has ADD. If you also have ADHD and are an entrepreneur or are thinking of becoming one, you'll want to listen to this insightful show!

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Aha Solutions
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder solutions don't always look like what one might think. In this episode, your host, ADHD and attention coach Jeff Copper, shares some unique, surprising, and practical solutions that manifested as an Aha! to both him and those he coached. If you want to hear some really out-of-the-box ways those with ADHD move forward, this is a show you won't want to miss.

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Attention Deficit Disorder Time Tips     
Many with attention deficit disorder struggle to manage time. In this interview ADDer Laura shares how she manages time, what devices she uses, and how she rotates timing devices so she doesn't get bored with them to the point she begins to ignore them.

ADHD, Emotion, and Dr. Russell Barkley  
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder isn't just about attention, according to Dr. Russell Barkley ( Emotions are as much a part of ADHD as attention. Watch our interview with this world renowned researcher and learn more.

Attention ADHD Tip to Organize What to Wear

For many with ADD or ADHD, it is helpful to minimize the need for thinking and executive functioning in the morning and save your mental energy for more important things. In this interview Laura shares how she simplifies her morning routine by making it easy to find the outfit to wear and to get dressed.

Can Those with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Delegate?
If it were easy for those with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder to delegate something, they would have done it by now. The question is, what gets in the way? Get the answer and insights on how to move forward in this edition of Attention Talk Video with Jeff Copper (

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Jeff Copper, Editor

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