"Stop gossip and build trust!

 

~ Judy Kay Mausolf 

 

About Judy Kay
 
She coaches dentists and managers 
who want to be better leaders, get their teams to work together better and ultimately grow their practice.
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2014
January 25-27, 2014, Atlanta, GA
February 5, 2014, Antioch, CA
February 7, 2014, Walnut Creek, CA
March 14, 2014, Salt Lake City, UT
March 27-29, 2014, Alanta, GA
April 3-4, 2014, Key West, FL
April 16, 2014, Atlanta, GA
April 23, 2014, Fort Worth, TX
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May 7-8, 2014, Brownsville, TX
May 14, 2014, Washington, DC
May 19-20, 2014, Walnut Creek, CA
June 5-7, 2014, Tampa, FL
September 4, 2014, San Francisco, CA
September 5, 2014, San Diego, CA
September 12-13, Columbus, OH
September 25-26, Indianapolis, IN
October 2-4, Nashville, TN
November 6, 2014, Buffalo, NY
November 19, 2014, Apple Valley, MN
2015
January 22-24, 2015, Houston, TX
February 26-27, 2015, Chicago, IL
April 23-25, 2015, St. Paul, MN
May 7-8, 2015, San Antonio, TX
May 2014 
The Poison Triangle of Mistrust! 

 

The Poison Triangle of Mistrust is toxic and can destroy the team and the practice culture!  What is The Poison Triangle of Mistrust?  In simple terms it is gossip. I refer to it as The Poison Triangle of Mistrust because it often involves two people talking negatively about a third person behind their back.  When the third person learns about it they no longer trust the two people involved.

  

This month's newsletter is dedicated to learning how to create a culture that no longer tolerates Gossip...The Poison Triangle of Mistrust.  

Gossip - The Poison Triangle of Mistrust
Gossip - The Poison Triangle of Mistrust
Inspiration

  

I often hear the following statements regarding gossip:  It's a woman thing, women just have to gossip, it's really not a big deal because everybody does it, and you can't stop it even if you try. 

 

Gossip is not just a woman thing...men do it to they just call it something else.  It is a big deal and you can stop it if you are serious about having a no gossip office culture.  The reality is that gossip will continue to exist in our dental practices as long as we allow it to exist.  If we truly comprehended the negative impact from gossip it would no longer be tolerated.

 

Gossip affects:

  • Trust
  • Communication
  • Team Performance
  • Morale
  • Patient Experience
  • Bottom Line

 

That's just to name a few.  Gossip is not fluff stuff.  It is really big stuff!  Why would we continue to allow anything this toxic to be a part of our culture? Isn't it time to add No-Gossip Culture to our Communication Standards?  You can read more about implementing Communication Standards in April's Newsletter on Drama.

 

I teach my clients the 5 following steps to nurture a No-Gossip Culture and end the Poison Triangle of Mistrust!

 

Step One - Start with a team meeting with the entire team including the doctors.  Share with the team the impact gossip has on the team and the practice and that in the future it will no longer be tolerated.  Ask everyone individually to verbally agree to support a No-Gossip Culture in the practice.  For example, I agree to support a No-Gossip Culture.  Once they verbally agree they can't say I didn't agree.  I just didn't say anything. 

 

Step Two - Define what gossip means in your practice.   I define gossip as anything that is negative or private about another person that they do not want others to know.  As a team agree on a word or phrase to use if someone starts to gossip about another team member to them.  It could be something as simple as peace (as in keep the peace), please take it to the source, please stop, or remember we said we weren't going to gossip anymore.   It doesn't really matter what word(s) you use.  What is important is that everyone knows what it is and agrees to use that specific word or phrase. 

 

Step Three - Establish consequences for gossip.  I suggest the same consequences as any other behavior that sabotages instead of supports the standards of the practice.  Establish consequences that you know you will be willing to carry out.  It is very important that the entire team understand what the consequences will be for gossip.  If you would like to receive a complimentary copy of my white pages on consequences please email me at [email protected]

 

Step Four - It's time to actually stop the gossip.  This will take doing a few times before it becomes more comfortable.  FYI if you are on the receiving end of gossip you are just as responsible as the initiator. You play 50-50 role because if they have no one to tell the gossip stops. If a team member starts to gossip to you or you over hear two people gossiping about another team member say the word or phrase.  Please be mindful of your tone of voice and attitude.  Always speak from a place of care and concern not judgment and criticism.  If they continue to gossip remind them once more by saying remember we agreed as a team we would not gossip about each other.  Old habits die hard and we want to be supportive and help each other to stop the gossip.  If they are gossiping to you and they refuse to stop physically remove yourself from the conversation.  If they continue to gossip to  another team member inform them that if they do not stop you will inform the doctor or manager (whoever handles conflict resolution in the practice). 

 

Step Five - The doctor or manager holds the team member accountable by following through with the consequences.  It is important the entire team understands the consequences for participating in gossiping.  Yes you can terminate a team member for participating in gossiping.  It is important to make it very clear what the consequences are for gossip and include as a part of your written communication standards.  Following through with consequences is where the line is drawn in the sand.  It will determine whether you succeed or fail at creating a No-Gossip Culture.  Gossip is really big stuff!  It affects trust, communication, team performance, morale, patient experience and your bottom line.  Isn't it time to create a No-Gossip Culture and end The Poison Triangle of Mistrust?  

  

Contact Judy Kay today if you would like to learn more about how she can help you end The Poison Triangle of Mistrust in your practice!