Inspiration

We can Empower ourselves and overcome our fears by changing the stories we tell ourselves.  We change our stories by being very careful about the words we use to talk about ourselves.  We need to start listening to what we say to ourselves.  We can stop the negative thoughts we have about our self.  We reset our negative thoughts when we do something physical because our physiology changes our psychology!  Even something as simple as throwing our hands up in the air and shouting t-dah! 

I like to visualize a negative thought as a dumpy little green monster sitting on my shoulder.  Picture Mr. Mucus from the Mucinex commercial and that's my guy!  I actually take my fingers and flick the little monster off my shoulder!  This action stops me from dwelling on or obsessing over the negative thoughts and I often laugh out loud.  I have imagined his demise in many different ways.  This simple little action as silly as it may seem lightens the moment and allows me to get a grip on the reality of the situation.  I can now process my negative thoughts by asking myself these questions.   

• What in my life currently supports this negative belief? 
• Is there any evidence of this now or is this a story I tell myself based on past fears?
• If I was introduced to someone exactly like me what would I think about them?

When I started my coaching and speaking business my limiting story was lack of a 4 year formal education.    Most of my clients have almost twice that so why would they want to listen to me!  Thanks to a great mentor of mine who challenged this belief with a simple question...Aren't you bored with that story by now?  Initially I was hurt, followed by anger, how dare him...and finally a realization that I was indeed tired of this story!  So I challenged it by asking myself was it reality.  True I didn't have a formal education but I did have over 25 years in the industry working in the trenches testing out what worked and what didn't.  Dentists were interested in hearing what I had to say and hired me to speak and coach.  I met other colleagues who had a similar education and yet were very successful.  Hmmm...this really was just a story based on fears from the past.

When we change the words we tell ourselves  

we change our stories  

and change our destiny!    

Judy Kay leading a Ta-Dah Moment!