Volume V, No. 10                                                                                   July 2014

"Many times a day I realize how much my own life is built upon the labors of my fellowmen, and how earnestly I must exert myself in order to give in return as much as I have received."

                                                               

   ~ Albert Einstein              
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Included In This Issue
What is Marion Up To?
Need a 30-60 Second Elevator Speech?
Do You Have A Copy Of My Book?
Speaking Tip Vol. V, #10, Winning the Procrastination Game
Get Help Writing Your Speech!
Have Speech, Will Travel!
Food for Thought
The Clock Is Ticking! (Time to Be a Unique & Sexy Speaker)
More about Marion Claire ~ Revealing an Embarrassing Secret
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, unique and sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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What Is Marion Up To? 

 

I'M QUOTED IN THE HUFFINGTON POST!

 

How do you overcome your biggest business obstacle?

That's the question Julie Barnes asked in the Huffington Post recently, and she posted my answer. Take a look

 

 

AND ALSO ON YOPROWEALTH.COM!

 

If you could give your younger self one piece of financial advice, what would it be?
Take a look at what I said in
Austin G. Netzley's Blog on YoProWealth.com. 

 

Please send me your comments. I'd love to know what you think!

Need a 30-60 Second 'Elevator' Speech? 


          Be irresistible in 30-60 seconds or less. Describe yourself in compelling terms that tell people how much they'll benefit from working with you. Show them with confidence and flair that you can answer their questions and help them solve their problem. Contact me at 310/659-8956 or marion@marionclaire.com. I'll coach you to put your best foot forward in a minute or less!

"Marion, your presentation (on the 30-60 second Intro) today was excellent! I definitely have take-aways from it, especially your suggestion that we 'provide a solution to an emotional problem people have'.  That's a nice twist on the difficulty of doing a good elevator speech!  I think it will enhance our communication and will foster more referrals.  Thank you very much for your expertise." 
~ Ivy B. Rappaport, LTC & Life Insurance Specialist  

 

Need a 30-60 second intro? CALL MARION!

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            If you have a copy, and have read and liked it, please go over to Amazon and say so! The more likes and positive reviews folks see on Amazon, the more it'll help spread the word.
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            SECRETS OF A UNIQUE & SEXY SPEAKER,155 Helpful Speaking Tips for Writing Your Speech, Facing the Audience & Overcoming Fear! is full of speaking tips used by experts. It's perfect to keep in your pocket or on your desk for a bit of quick help year round to make you look and sound like a unique & sexy professional speaker. It's for speakers of all levels, from first-timers to 'been there, done that.'

            If you don't have your own copy yet, an autographed copy is waiting for you at www.marionclaire.com. Or pick it up without the autograph at www.BalboaPress.com, www.Amazon.com and www.BarnesandNoble.com.
     

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"This is a very good book. I have been recommending it to everyone I know!

                   ~ Dr. Tamara Eskenazi, Professor, HUC 

  

  

"I have a whole new mindset about getting up to speak after reading Marion's book.  I was quite nervous before, but she showed me another way of looking at the audience which made me feel more confident.  And I liked the way the Speaking Tips reinforce the advice in every chapter.  It's a terrific book and it really helped me."

       ~ Larry Freedman, Dynamic Nursing Service 

  


Speaking Tip Vol. V, #10

Winning the Procrastination Game

           

            How often have you thought to yourself, "I'd really like to be a better speaker"?

 

            Cynthia, an accountant, hates to go to networking events because when she has to introduce herself, she's chagrined at the nervousness that overwhelms her. It's not her competence that's in question. She's a very good accountant, has no problem with tax returns, profit & loss statements, budgets or anything else financial. But when she has to tell potential clients just how good she really is and why they should work with her, she freezes. It's hard to remember her own name.

 

           Cynthia would really like to get over this nervousness. She sees other people speaking easily in front of the group, and wonders why the thought of getting up and giving a speech ties her in knots. Her business limps along while she dreams of being more successful and providing the good life for herself and her family. For several years now she's been thinking about it... and thinking about it... and thinking about it. But when it comes to actually doing something to overcome her fears, she procrastinates.

 

            Cynthia is an expert at playing the procrastination game.

 

           She's not alone.

 

           People fear public speaking for a whole slew of reasons, many of which have nothing to do with actually making a speech. It could, of course, come from an unpleasant experience, often years ago, say when you were a kid in school and gave a report you thought was brilliant but the whole class laughed at you. Or maybe you forgot your speech in the middle at your 16th birthday or high school graduation or some other important occasion when you wanted to be perfect.

 

           Maybe it's not a particular event that has robbed you of your confidence. Many people grew up in a family where they were constantly compared to a sibling who was more accomplished and they suffered by comparison. "Why can't you be like your older brother/sister?" is an insidious criticism that eats away at our self-worth. Some people acquire a deep-seated feeling that whatever they say or do will never be important or good enough, and nobody will ever listen to them. They fear they won't be heard.

 

           Sometimes it's just the fear of doing something you've never done before. Maybe stepping out of your comfort zone to make a speech is too painful to think about. Not knowing in advance if you'll succeed or make a fool of yourself stops some people cold. Even though you plan, you prepare, you rehearse, taking that leap off the cliff and actually giving the speech is way too scary. So you continue to procrastinate because that feels safe.

 

           Here's the truth. Refusing to speak in public robs you of the joy of knowing that you do have something to say and people want to hear it. You have a gift to give, valuable knowledge to offer, and people want to listen and learn from you. You're unique and your own special perspective is your gift to the world.

 

          Give yourself the gift of overcoming your fears. Join Toastmasters, work with a speaker's coach (like me), read some of the many books on how to be a better public speaker (like mine), practice with a recorder, get a friend to listen and give you gentle feedback.

 

           You'll be amazed, once you start speaking in public, how many people will admire you, think your gift is valuable and will thank you for it.

 

           Give yourself a break! Stop playing the procrastination game. Grab hold of the joy of sharing your gift with the world. Make up your mind that now is the time and you can do it. Because you can!

 

  


GET HELP WRITING YOUR SPEECH! 

  

"Wow!  I am totally blown away, Marion!  Thank you!  Hope to use your services again soon."
~ Victoria Ferro, CEO, MicroKey Solutions, Inc.

          Do you need to create a talk for a company conference, a toast for your son's wedding, your mother's milestone birthday, your father's retirement celebration or even a eulogy for a memorial service? Too overwhelmed to do it yourself? Let me help you make it easier to have a speech you'll be proud of. We'll create it together over the phone, quickly and thoroughly, and you'll have the right words just when you need them. 

 

         Why struggle when you can get it written without the trauma? Contact me at marion@marionclaire.com or call me at 310/659-8956 and get it done fast.

 

Thank you for your help. Love it. If you don't mind, I will use you again when I have to speak. Thank you so much.
~Andrew Lotter, CEO, Ameriflight, Inc. 

"My speech was a hit! Thank you so much for your guidance and help.  I received so many compliments from the audience. I would love to retain your services in the future to help me become a more comfortable writer and speaker."
~ Angela W.

Need help with your speech? CALL MARION!

Want to use this Speaking Is Sexy Tip in your Newsletter or Blog?  
You can, as long as you include this entire blurb:  Marion Claire coaches entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals of all kinds to become the confident public speakers they long to be.  An autographed copy of her book, SECRETS of a UNIQUE & SEXY SPEAKER, is available on her website.  She'll customize a Keynote Speech or Workshop for your organization and help you write your speech for almost any occasion.  For more information go to: www.marionclaire.com 
"After working with Marion Claire, my fear of speaking in front of a group of people is practically gone.  I still get a few pre-speech butterflies, which Marion assures me are totally normal, but my former severe anxiety has disappeared.  Marion taught me simple techniques to release my pre-speech tension and build up my confidence.  Her knowledge and easy-going manner make her very easy to work with.  She's the real deal and I'm happy to recommend her."
~ David Feldman, CPA, david@feldover.com

DO YOU HAVE FRIENDS OR COLLEAGUES who would benefit from seeing this Speaking Is Sexy eZine?  Please forward it to them or send me their email address and I'll send them a copy and tell them it's from you!  www.marionclaire.com 

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Have Speech, Will Travel!

 

 

Stand and Deliver:

Impress the Audience as a
Unique
& Sexy Speaker

 

 

"Your talk was smashing!  Thank you so much for taking the time to share your expertise with our NAWBO-LA membership.  We truly appreciate it!"

~Mina Trujillo, PR & Marketing Specialist

 

      Looking for a dynamic, entertaining Speaker for your next meeting or conference? Whether you need a Keynote Speech, Presentation or Workshop, I'll design an informative, amusing, value-laden talk specifically for you and your organization. Choose 30 minutes, an hour, two hours or more in your choice of formats. I'll reveal the secrets professional speakers use including techniques to overcome pre-speech jitters, grab the audience's attention, keep them tuned in and leave them wanting more. Contact me at: Marion@marionclaire.com or call me at 310/659-8956. Let me help you solve your speaking needs.

  

 

Looking for a terrific Speaker? CALL MARION!

conftableFood for Thought

 

  

There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up. 
 
 ~ John Andrew Holmes          

The Clock Is Ticking!  It's Time to be the Unique and Sexy
Speaker you've always wanted to be!
 

 

"Public Speaking was terrifying to me AND necessary to my business.  Within a short time of working with Marion, my fears subsided and my confidence grew.  With her program and knowledge, I am able to speak publicly for the first time.  She gave me the tools necessary to make this painless and even FUN!  I learned a lot and feel so much better about myself in general.  Thank you so much, Marion. "

      ~ Jennie S. Crowley, Chef Eric's Culinary Classrom

  

 

        If the thought of giving a speech paralyzes you, it's time to change your thinking! Work with a coach to streamline the process of organizing your ideas, create a skilled presentation to deliver with authority and enthusiasm, and increase your ability to look and sound professional. Let me show you the tips and techniques you need to make you a calm, cool, unique & sexy speaker!   

 

        All inquiries are confidential. Call for a *free* half-hour consultation at 310/659-8956 or email me at Marion@marionclaire.com.

Need a speaker's coach? CALL MARION!

 
More about Marion Claire

 

Revealing An Embarrassing Secret

      
      We all have an embarrassing secret that we don't want to reveal because we're afraid people will think less of us if we do so. For many, many years I hid mine. I was sure that people would look at me strangely or not want to be around me if they knew I was less than perfect. Boy, was I wrong!

     

      The thing about hiding the truth about yourself is that you are depriving yourself and the folks you come in contact with of the opportunity to have an honest relationship with you. True, you don't want to just blurt out your deepest feelings or most painful memories at inappropriate moments. But it is far better to be open about the things you cannot change that have shaped who you are. Facing the secrets of the past helps you understand yourself and it helps others understand you. And with understanding come the gifts of appreciation, sympathy, empathy, and love.

 

      So here's the embarrassing secret I used to be afraid to reveal.

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces. Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside. My enemy was not the great outdoors. It was simply fear.

      Everyone experiences fear on occasion. And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual. Mine was fear of being alone out in the world. I didn't feel safe by myself. Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home. No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers!

      I'm so proud to say that I overcame my fear. It took, first of all, the courage to admit there was something wrong. Then came the desire to fix it and to seek out the help I needed to overcome it.

      And wow! Look at me now!

      Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests.  If I can do it, so can you!  Let me help you.  contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com.  

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