Volume V, No. 4                                                                                    March 2014

"The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. 
The optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty"  
   ~ Winston Churchill              
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Included In This Issue
Need a 30-60 Second Elevator Speech?
What's On My Bookshelf?
Special Occasion Speech?
What's Marion Up To Now?
Speaking Tip Vol. V, #4 ~ Please Don't Say It!
The Clock Is Ticking! (Time to Be a Unique & Sexy Speaker)
Food for Thought
Have Speech, Will Travel!
More about Marion Claire ~ Revealing an Embarrassing Secret
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.

Did you miss a previous Speaking Tip?

You can find them here!
If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, unique and sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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Need a 30-60 Second 'Elevator' Speech? 


"Marion, your presentation (on the 30-60 second Intro) today was excellent! I definitely have take-aways from it, especially your suggestion that we 'provide a solution to an emotional problem people have'.  That's a nice twist on the difficulty of doing a good elevator speech!  I think it will enhance our communication and will foster more referrals.  Thank you very much for your expertise." 
~ Ivy B. Rappaport, LTC & Life Insurance Specialist  
        Be irresistible in 30-60 seconds or less. Describe yourself in compelling terms that show people how much they'll benefit from working with you. Show them with confidence and flair that you can answer their questions and help them solve their problem. Contact me at 310/659-8956 or marion@marionclaire.com.  I'll coach you to put your best foot forward in a minute or less!

What's On My Bookshelf? 

       Want to know the speaking tips used by experts?  SECRETS OF A UNIQUE & SEXY SPEAKER, 155 Helpful Speaking Tips for Writing Your Speech, Facing the Audience & Overcoming Fear! may be the perfect solution.  Keep it in your pocket or on your desk for a bit of quick help year round to make you look and sound like a unique & sexy professional speaker. This is a book for speakers of all levels, from first-timers to 'been there, done that'.

        Your personal autographed copy is available
at marion@marionclaire.com

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      Keep your New Year's Resolution to become a better speaker in 2014! 



"This is a very good book. I have been recommending it to everyone I know!

                   ~ Dr. Tamara Eskenazi, Professor, HUC 



"I have a whole new mindset about getting up to speak after reading Marion's book.  I was quite nervous before, but she showed me another way of looking at the audience which made me feel more confident.  And I liked the way the Speaking Tips reinforce the advice in every chapter.  It's a terrific book and it really helped me."

       ~ Larry Freedman, Dynamic Nursing Service 


Special Occasion Speech?      


         Do you need to create a talk for a company gathering, a toast for your son's wedding, your mother's milestone birthday, your father's retirement celebration or even a eulogy for a memorial service? Too overwhelmed to do it yourself?  Let me help you make it easier to have a speech you'll be proud of. We'll create it together over the phone, quickly and thoroughly, and you'll have the right words just when you need them.

         Why struggle when you can get it written without the trauma? Contact me at marion@marionclaire.com or call 310/659-8956 and get it done fast.              


"Wow!  I am totally blown away, Marion!  Thank you!  Hope to use your services again soon."
~ Victoria Ferro, CEO, MicroKey Solutions, Inc.

"My speech was a hit! Thank you so much for your guidance and help.  I received so many compliments from the audience. I would love to retain your services in the future to help me become a more comfortable writer and speaker."
~ Angela W. 
What's Marion Up To Now? 
  • Planning my new Conference Room Workshops for businesspeople who need to improve their speaking and presentation skills.  I'll bring tips and techniques to become a Unique & Sexy Speaker right into your Conference Room for 3 or more participants.  For more information, contact me at marion@marionclaire.com.

Speaking Tip Vol. V, #4   


Please Don't Say It!  


            At a recent networking meeting, the M.C., a very bright, capable woman and an excellent speaker, was outlining the program for the evening, highlighting the various events and speakers we were going to hear from. She knew how to use humor to liven up the laundry list of information she needed to convey and all was going along swimmingly, until the moment came to introduce the first speaker. And then she said, "So, without further ado, please welcome..." and gave the speaker's name.

            "What's wrong with that?", you might ask.       

            Nothing... or a lot. It depends what kind of speaker you want to be.

            That small, over-worked, and trite phrase says a great deal about the one who uses it. It's not the only tired phrase still assaulting our ears. There are many others. One of my favorites is "awesome," definitely a cringe-producing word. How many times a day do you hear someone say something is "awesome" when it isn't? Awesome used to be reserved for something really spectacular, mind-blowing, inspirational, one-of-a-kind. Now we give that classification to our breakfast cereal or toothpaste.

            Why do we do that? Why do we use words or expressions in a context where they're really inappropriate or repeat them mindlessly because we heard someone else say them and we want to be hip? What has happened to

expressing ourselves uniquely, giving some thought to what we say and how we say it?   Why do we let words spill out of our mouth without thinking about what they really mean?

            "Without further ado" was a popular phrase in the 19th and 20th centuries. In the 21st century, most good speakers try to avoid such over-worked words and phrases because it's a sign of laziness, lack of preparation and lack of creativity. No one gets punished or penalized for using them. But they don't get applauded, either. Audiences are smart. They expect more from the person in the front of the room than just a repetition of the same things they've heard for years and years or hear every day on the street.

            So if you're the M.C., and you need to move the meeting along, instead of "without further ado", what might you say? How about, "It's now my pleasure to introduce...", or "Let's begin with...", or "Let's move on to..." or simply describe the next item on the agenda without any other preamble. Or make up your own. Each of these will move the program to the next step. You don't always need a transitional phrase. The audience will get that you're moving on to the next thing without you pointing a big verbal arrow at it.

            As for 'awesome'... it's a staple of teenagers' language and it isn't going away any time soon. But does it really belong in an adult presentation in front of an audience that came to learn something important from you?

            It's your choice. Look for more creative ways to express yourself. Find the words and phrases that are unique to you. One of the clues to being a unique and sexy speaker is to use language that makes you stand out from the crowd. Be creative. Your audience will applaud you for it!

Want to use this Speaking Is Sexy Tip in your Newsletter or Blog?  
You can, as long as you include this entire blurb:  Marion Claire coaches entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals of all kinds to become the confident public speakers they long to be.  An autographed copy of her book, SECRETS of a UNIQUE & SEXY SPEAKER, is available on her website.  She'll customize a Keynote Speech or Workshop for your organization and help you write your speech for almost any occasion.  For more information go to: www.marionclaire.com 
"After working with Marion Claire, my fear of speaking in front of a group of people is practically gone.  I still get a few pre-speech butterflies, which Marion assures me are totally normal, but my former severe anxiety has disappeared.  Marion taught me simple techniques to release my pre-speech tension and build up my confidence.  Her knowledge and easy-going manner make her very easy to work with.  She's the real deal and I'm happy to recommend her."
~ David Feldman, CPA, david@feldover.com

DO YOU HAVE FRIENDS OR COLLEAGUES who would benefit from seeing this Speaking Is Sexy eZine?  Please forward it to them or send me their email address and I'll send them a copy and tell them it's from you!  www.marionclaire.com 

The Clock Is Ticking!  It's Time to be the Unique and Sexy
Speaker you've always wanted to be!


"Public Speaking was terrifying to me AND necessary to my business.  Within a short time of working with Marion, my fears subsided and my confidence grew.  With her program and knowledge, I am able to speak publicly for the first time.  She gave me the tools necessary to make this painless and even FUN!  I learned a lot and feel so much better about myself in general.  Thank you so much, Marion. "

      ~ Jennie S. Crowley, Chef Eric's Culinary Classrom


        If the thought of giving a speech paralyzes you, it's time to change your thinking! Working with a coach will streamline the process of organizing your ideas, help you create a skilled presentation to deliver with authority and enthusiasm, and increase your ability to look and sound professional.  You'll learn the tips and techniques you need to make you a calm, cool, unique & sexy speaker!  


        All inquiries are confidential. Call for a *free* half-hour consultation at 310/659-8956 or email me at Marion@marionclaire.com

Did you miss previous Speaking Tips?  You can find them at www.marionclaire.com/newsletter or www.speakingissexy.com

conftableFood for Thought



Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world; indeed it's the only thing that ever has.     

 ~ Margaret Mead         

Have Speech, Will Travel!


  Stand and Deliver:

Impress the Audience as a Unique  

& Sexy Speaker   


            Looking for a Speaker for your next meeting or conference? Ask me to customize a Presentation or Workshop specifically for you and your organization in your choice of formats.  I'll reveal the secrets professional speakers use, including techniques to overcome pre-speech nerves, grab the audience's attention, keep them tuned in and leave them wanting more. Contact me at: Marion@marionclaire.com or call me at 310/659-8956. Let me help you solve your speaking needs.


"Marion Claire brings light into the room as she sets everyone at ease so they are ready to learn.  Our team mostly had no experience in public speaking, and so were shy and stumbling at first, but gained confidence quickly under Marion's effective guidance.  They were left with solid information that they could use as they practiced putting speeches together and then giving them.  And as a seasoned speaker myself, I nonetheless learned a thing or two to make my speaking more effective."

~Pauline Field, Chair, www.5050Leadership.org

           More about Marion Claire


Revealing An Embarrassing Secret   

      We all have an embarrassing secret that we don't want to reveal because we're afraid people will think less of us if we do so. For many, many years I hid mine. I was sure that people would look at me strangely or not want to be around me if they knew I was less than perfect. Boy, was I wrong!


      The thing about hiding the truth about yourself is that you are depriving yourself and the folks you come in contact with of the opportunity to have an honest relationship with you. True, you don't want to just blurt out your deepest feelings or most painful memories at inappropriate moments. But it is far better to be open about the things you cannot change that have shaped who you are. Facing the secrets of the past helps you understand yourself and it helps others understand you. And with understanding come the gifts of appreciation, sympathy, empathy, and love.


      So here's the embarrassing secret I used to be afraid to reveal.

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces. Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside. My enemy was not the great outdoors. It was simply fear.

      Everyone experiences fear on occasion. And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual. Mine was fear of being alone out in the world. I didn't feel safe by myself. Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home. No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers!

      I'm so proud to say that I overcame my fear. It took, first of all, the courage to admit there was something wrong. Then came the desire to fix it and to seek out the help I needed to overcome it.

      And wow! Look at me now!

      Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests.  If I can do it, so can you!  Let me help you.  contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com.  

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