Volume V, No. 3                                                                                    March 2014

"Nothing so conclusively proves our ability to lead others as what we do from day to day to lead ourselves."  
   ~ Thomas J. Watson              
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Included In This Issue
Need a 30-60 Second Elevator Speech?
What's On My Bookshelf?
Special Occasion Speech?
What's Marion Up To Now?
Speaking Tip Vol. V, #3 ~ Why Rehearse? A Confession
The Clock Is Ticking! (Time to Be a Unique & Sexy Speaker)
Food for Thought
Have Speech, Will Travel!
More about Marion Claire ~ My Embarrassing Secret, Revealing an Embarrassing Secret
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.

Did you miss a previous Speaking Tip?

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, unique and sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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Need a 30-60 Second 'Elevator' Speech? 


"Marion, your presentation (on the 30-60 second Intro) today was excellent! I definitely have take-aways from it, especially your suggestion that we 'provide a solution to an emotional problem people have'.  That's a nice twist on the difficulty of doing a good elevator speech!  I think it will enhance our communication and will foster more referrals.  Thank you very much for your expertise." 
~ Ivy B. Rappaport, LTC & Life Insurance Specialist  
        Be irresistible in 30-60 seconds or less. Describe yourself in compelling terms that show people how much they'll benefit from working with you. Show them with confidence and flair that you can answer their questions and help them solve their problem. Contact me at 310/659-8956 or marion@marionclaire.com.  I'll coach you to put your best foot forward in a minute or less!

What's On My Bookshelf? 

       Want to know the speaking tips used by experts?  SECRETS OF A UNIQUE & SEXY SPEAKER, 155 Helpful Speaking Tips for Writing Your Speech, Facing the Audience & Overcoming Fear! may be the perfect solution.  Keep it in your pocket or on your desk for a bit of quick help year round to make you look and sound like a unique & sexy professional speaker. This is a book for speakers of all levels, from first-timers to 'been there, done that'.

        Your personal autographed copy is available
at marion@marionclaire.com

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      Keep your New Year's Resolution to become a better speaker in 2014! 



"I have a whole new mindset about getting up to speak after reading Marion's book.  I was quite nervous before, but she showed me another way of looking at the audience which made me feel more confident.  And I liked the way the Speaking Tips reinforce the advice in every chapter.  It's a terrific book and it really helped me."

               ~ Larry Freedman, Dynamic Nursing Service 


Special Occasion Speech?      


         Do you need to create a talk for a company gathering, a toast for your son's wedding, your mother's milestone birthday, your father's retirement celebration or even a eulogy for a memorial service? Too overwhelmed to do it yourself?  Let me help you make it easier to have a speech you'll be proud of. We'll create it together over the phone, quickly and thoroughly, and you'll have the right words just when you need them.

         Why struggle when you can get it written without the trauma? Contact me at marion@marionclaire.com or call 310/659-8956 and get it done fast.              


"Wow!  I am totally blown away, Marion!  Thank you!  Hope to use your services again soon."
~ Victoria Ferro, CEO, MicroKey Solutions, Inc.

"My speech was a hit! Thank you so much for your guidance and help.  I received so many compliments from the audience. I would love to retain your services in the future to help me become a more comfortable writer and speaker."
~ Angela W. 


"Thank you for your help. Love it. If you don't mind, I will use you again when I have to speak. Thank you so much."
~ Andrew Lotter, CEO, Ameriflight, Inc.
What's Marion Up To Now? 
  • Planning my new Conference Room Workshops for businesspeople who need to improve their speaking and presentation skills.  I'll bring tips and techniques to become a Unique & Sexy Speaker right into your Conference Room for 3 or more participants.  You won't have to waste time traveling or even leave your office.  Watch this space for more details or contact me at marion@marionclaire.com.

Speaking Tip Vol. V, #3  


Why Rehearse?  A Confession  


            As I was preparing my talk on "How to Become a Unique & Sexy Speaker" for the So. Cal. MENSA Regional Gathering a few weeks ago, the Evil Gremlin on my left shoulder whispered in my ear, "You don't need to rehearse. You've written a whole book about this. You know this stuff cold. All you need is an outline, and you can wing it from there. Just go for it!"


            "Hmmm," I thought. "Maybe he's right. I'm short on time. I've talked about this topic before. I don't need to rehearse. I'll just wing it."

            Almost immediately, the Good Angel on my right shoulder whispered into that ear, "Waaaait a minute! Are you kidding? You of all people know how important it is to rehearse your speech at least 3 times before you give it. Do you want me to tell you all the reasons why? Remember the Six P's! Make time!"

            "Uh-oh," I thought. "Maybe she's right. I really should rehearse."

            I always think of my Evil Gremlin as 'he' and my Good Angel as 'she'. No particular reason.

            My Evil Gremlin spoke up louder. "Oh, come on! What are you, chicken? You've talked about this stuff for years now. You're not going to forget anything mid-speech. You're not going to trip over your tongue or be so nervous you can't talk. You're a pro! Just go out there and do your thing!"                                                                                                

            My Good Angel, rather than raising her voice, whispered deeper into my ear, "Yes, you have been speaking for quite awhile, and so you know that nothing ever goes totally smoothly. If you assume that nothing will go wrong, you'll 'make an ass out of u and me'!"

            Guess which one I listened to.

            My talk was to last 45 minutes. My outline contained what I thought was just the right amount of information to fill 3/4s of an hour, including a Q&A. The first time I rehearsed it, when my timer rang at 45 minutes, I still had 15 minutes of speech left. Obviously, I was going on too long. Not only that, I found myself stumbling over concepts I thought I knew cold, tripping over my tongue, saying 5 words where 2 would do, making awkward transitions, even forgetting one of my key stories that I like to use to illustrate a point. On the whole, it was a pretty sorry attempt. And a rude awakening.

            My second rehearsal went better. I cut 15 minutes that I could live without, made better transitions from point to point and repeated certain phrases that I liked in my first rehearsal to implant them in my memory. It was much smoother, kept within the allotted 45 minutes, and I reinforced the 3 major points I wanted to emphasize along with the stories that I'd created to amplify each one. So far so good.

            My 3rd rehearsal was smooth, confident, and devoid of annoying little connecting or thinking words like 'uh', 'um', and 'okay'. I recorded it so I could listen to it in the car or before I went to sleep at night, as added reinforcement. I remembered the clever descriptive phrases and stories from the first two rehearsals, and I ended exactly on time. I was ready!

            Here's what happened at the event.

            I arrived on time, but the speaker ahead of me ran over. I had to start 15 minutes late. I now only had 30 minutes, which meant I had to cut something in order to leave room for my big finish and Q&A. I reread my outline and selected the concepts I could explain to the audience more succinctly without losing the focus of my talk. Thank goodness I'd listened to my Good Angel!

            I chose the few necessary points I needed to make these concepts compelling to the listeners and decided on the order of importance, leaving the most important for last. Then I put the outline aside. Because of those rehearsals, I was able to recall the key phrases I'd practiced. There was just enough time for my big finish, a short Q&A, and then we were ushered out to make room for the next speaker assigned to use the room.

            Yes, it's a happy ending. The audience was pleased and came up to me in the corridor to ask more questions and talk a bit. Here was my chance to tell them some of what I'd had to cut out earlier. Nothing ever goes to waste.

            I confess to being just as human as the next speaker. We all want to take shortcuts if we think it'll make our job easier. But remember the Six P's: "Proper preparation prevents (im)possibly poor performance!" How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, practice, practice!

            My Evil Gremlin is nowhere to be found lately. I think he's gone into hiding. Not to worry. He'll be back.

Want to use this Speaking Is Sexy Tip in your Newsletter or Blog?  
You can, as long as you include this entire blurb:  Marion Claire coaches entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals of all kinds to become the confident public speakers they long to be.  An autographed copy of her book, SECRETS of a UNIQUE & SEXY SPEAKER, is available on her website.  She'll customize a Keynote Speech or Workshop for your organization and help you write your speech for almost any occasion.  For more information go to: www.marionclaire.com 
"After working with Marion Claire, my fear of speaking in front of a group of people is practically gone.  I still get a few pre-speech butterflies, which Marion assures me are totally normal, but my former severe anxiety has disappeared.  Marion taught me simple techniques to release my pre-speech tension and build up my confidence.  Her knowledge and easy-going manner make her very easy to work with.  She's the real deal and I'm happy to recommend her."
~ David Feldman, CPA, david@feldover.com

DO YOU HAVE FRIENDS OR COLLEAGUES who would benefit from seeing this Speaking Is Sexy eZine?  Please forward it to them or send me their email address and I'll send them a copy and tell them it's from you!  www.marionclaire.com 

The Clock Is Ticking!  It's Time to be the Unique and Sexy
Speaker you've always wanted to be!


"Public Speaking was terrifying to me AND necessary to my business.  Within a short time of working with Marion, my fears subsided and my confidence grew.  With her program and knowledge, I am able to speak publicly for the first time.  She gave me the tools necessary to make this painless and even FUN!  I learned a lot and feel so much better about myself in general.  Thank you so much, Marion. "

      ~ Jennie S. Crowley, Chef Eric's Culinary Classrom


        If the thought of giving a speech paralyzes you, it's time to change your thinking! Working with a coach will streamline the process of organizing your ideas, help you create a skilled presentation to deliver with authority and enthusiasm, and increase your ability to look and sound professional.  You'll learn the tips and techniques you need to make you a calm, cool, unique & sexy speaker!  


        All inquiries are confidential. Call for a *free* half-hour consultation at 310/659-8956 or email me at Marion@marionclaire.com

Did you miss previous Speaking Tips?  You can find them at www.marionclaire.com/newsletter or www.speakingissexy.com

conftableFood for Thought



I don't know anything about luck. I've never banked on it, and I'm afraid of people who do. Luck to me is something else: hard work and realizing what is opportunity and what isn't.    

 ~ Lucille Ball         

Have Speech, Will Travel!


  Stand and Deliver:

Impress the Audience as a Unique  

& Sexy Speaker   


            Looking for a Speaker for your next meeting or conference? Ask me to customize a Presentation or Workshop specifically for you and your organization in your choice of formats, including techniques to overcome pre-speech nerves, grab the audience's attention, keep them tuned in and leave them wanting more. I'll reveal the secrets of making eye contact no matter how large the audience, establishing your presence in front of the room, speaking with or without a microphone or slide program, what to do with your hands, ways to keep moving around the room without making the audience seasick, and lots more!

            Contact me at:  Marion@marionclaire.com or call me at 310/659-8956. Let me help you solve your speaking needs.


"Marion Claire brings light into the room as she sets everyone at ease so they are ready to learn.  Our team mostly had no experience in public speaking, and so were shy and stumbling at first, but gained confidence quickly under Marion's effective guidance.  They were left with solid information that they could use as they practiced putting speeches together and then giving them.  And as a seasoned speaker myself, I nonetheless learned a thing or two to make my speaking more effective."

~Pauline Field, Chair, www.5050Leadership.org

           More about Marion Claire


Revealing An Embarrassing Secret   

      We all have an embarrassing secret that we don't want to reveal because we're afraid people will think less of us if we do so. For many, many years I hid mine. I was sure that people would look at me strangely or not want to be around me if they knew I was less than perfect. Boy, was I wrong!

      The thing about hiding the truth about yourself is that you are depriving yourself and the folks you come in contact with of the opportunity to have an honest relationship with you. True, you don't want to just blurt out your deepest feelings or most painful memories at inappropriate moments. You want to be sure your revelations will be received with kindness, consideration and sympathy, and not with distaste, anger or ridicule.

      But it is far better to be open about the things you cannot change that have shaped who you are. Facing the secrets of the past helps you understand yourself and it helps others understand you. And with understanding come the gifts of appreciation, sympathy, empathy, and love.


      So here's the embarrassing secret I used to be afraid to reveal.

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces. Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside. My enemy was not the great outdoors. It was simply fear.

      Everyone experiences fear on occasion. And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual. Mine was fear of being alone out in the world. I didn't feel safe by myself. Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home. No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers!

      I'm so proud to say that I overcame my fear. It took, first of all, the courage to admit there was something wrong. Then came the desire to fix it and to seek out the help I needed to overcome it.

      And wow! Look at me now!

      Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests.  If I can do it, so can you!  Let me help you.  contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com.  

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