Volume IV, No. 10                                                                    December 2013

"So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable."  
   ~ Christopher Reeve              
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Be the Unique and Sexy Speaker you've always wanted to be
Comments & Kudos From My Readers
Food for Thought
More about Marion Claire ~ My Embarrassing Secret
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.

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MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, unique and sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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                  ~ David Feldman, CPA, www.feldover.com

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Speaking Tip Vol. IV, #10

Making the Fear Disappear  

Question: What do overcoming the fear of speaking in public and holiday gift-giving have in common? Answer: We use the same principles to give a speech or to give a gift!

      When we think of the folks on our holiday gift list, whether they're the people we work with, live with, or network with, we take into consideration their likes and dislikes, the financial limits we all agree to observe, and then try to come up with something they'll appreciate that they didn't have before. Something that will make them feel we care about them. And when they smile and say, "Thanks, I love this, it's just what I need!," they'll really mean it.

      This is a great technique for overcoming the fear of speaking in public.

      If we break down the elements of our gift-giving technique, we find three simple principles:

a.  We need to give something that has value to them.

b.  We need to stay within a few mutually agreed upon rules.

c.. We need to think about what they would like and would please them the most.

Question: What do all three of these principles have in common?

Answer: It's all about them!


The key to this technique is that when we're choosing what to give, we're not thinking about ourselves. We're thinking about them: what will they like, what will be appropriate to them, what will make them feel that we cared enough to find something worthwhile they didn't have before? When we're giving a gift, at holiday time or any time, we're asking ourselves, "W.I.I.F.T.? What's in it for them?"


When we get up to give a speech, the key to not being afraid is to use exactly the same principles:

a.  The information we're giving them is valuable.

b.  We're going to speak for an agreed upon amount of time in a format they can easily absorb in language they'll understand.

c.  The talk we're giving is our gift to them. They want to leave the room knowing more than they did when they came in. It's what they came to get and they'll be extremely pleased to take it home with them.  


Question: What is the key to not being afraid?

Answer:   "W.I.I.F.T? What's in it for them?"

Notice: In these three principles, there's no "I". We can't be thinking about ourselves at the same time we're thinking about them.


     If we're focused on giving the audience our gift, impressing on them the value of the information we're sharing and making sure they're getting what they came for, we don't have time to be afraid. There's no room to wonder if we're saying it right, if everyone agrees, if perhaps that guy in the third row thinks what we're saying is hogwash, if they've got a basket of rotten apples under their seat ready to let fly at the first mistake we make. We can't possibly be thinking about any of those things because our minds don't work that way.

     Our brains are wired to think sequentially, one thought after another. We can't hold two opposing thoughts in the same moment, it's physically impossible. Thus if we're focusing all our attention on the audience, on making our message land, on giving them our gift with passion and gusto, we can't possibly worry about whether we're doing it 'right', about making a mistake or forgetting something important. In other words, we can't be afraid because we're too busy sharing what we know, giving the audience the gift they came for, focusing on knowledge they didn't know before they entered the room.

      When we're focused on giving them the gift of our knowledge, we feel strong, confident, unique, sexy, and proud. We have nothing to fear. Our job is to give them our gift. When we do our job, the fear disappears.    

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"Public Speaking was terrifying to me AND necessary to my business.  Within a short time of working with Marion, my fears subsided and my confidence grew.  With her program and knowledge, I am able to speak publicly for the first time.  She gave me the tools necessary to make this painless and even FUN!  I learned a lot and feel so much better about myself in general.  Thank you so much, Marion. "

      ~ Jennie S. Crowley, Chef Eric's Culinary Classrom


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Comments & Kudos From My Readers


I look forward to reading your "Speaking is Sexy" newsletter, which always has some unique thoughtful and important information that will help me in both my business and personal life  You have great insight, wisdom and pracitical tips to help guide me in my many speaking opportunities and coaching experiences.  Thank you, Marion!
~ Mary Berney, MSW, Executive Coach | DISC Trainer 

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Each month I read the tips in Speaking is Sexy and it helps me refresh my skills.  As a lawyer, I need to be able to feel comfortable in giving speeches and the tips in the newsltter have continued to help me.  Thank you Speaking is Sexy! 
                                  ~Sharon Kopman, Attorney at Law 

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Character may be manifested in the great moments, but it is made in the small ones.       
 ~ Phillip Brooks     

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Revealing An Embarrassing Secret   

      We all have an embarrassing secret that we don't want to reveal because we're afraid people will think less of us if we do so. For many, many years I hid mine. I was sure that people would look at me strangely or not want to be around me if they knew I was less than perfect. Boy, was I wrong!

      The thing about hiding the truth about yourself is that you are depriving yourself and the folks you come in contact with of the opportunity to have an honest relationship with you. True, you don't want to just blurt out your deepest feelings or most painful memories at inappropriate moments. You want to be sure your revelations will be received with kindness, consideration and sympathy, and not with distaste, anger or ridicule.

      But it is far better to be open about the things you cannot change that have shaped who you are. Facing the secrets of the past helps you understand yourself and it helps others understand you. And with understanding come the gifts of appreciation, sympathy, empathy, and love.


      So here's the embarrassing secret I used to be afraid to reveal.

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces. Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside. My enemy was not the great outdoors. It was simply fear.

      Everyone experiences fear on occasion. And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual. Mine was fear of being alone out in the world. I didn't feel safe by myself. Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home. No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers!

      I'm so proud to say that I overcame my fear. It took, first of all, the courage to admit there was something wrong. Then came the desire to fix it and to seek out the help I needed to overcome it.

      And wow! Look at me now!

      Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests.  If I can do it, so can you!  Let me help you.  contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com.  

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