Volume IV, No. 6                                                                     April 2013

"Ambition is the path to success.  Persistence is the vehicle you arrive in."  
   ~ Bill Bradley              
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Included In This Issue
What's Marion Up To Now?
Your Unique and Sexy Speaker at your next Event!
Have you downloaded your FREE report yet?
Speaking Is Sexy Vol IV, Tip #6 ~ How Hard Is It To Write A Speech?
This Year... A New You!
What Do My Readers Say?
How Can I Help You?
Food for Thought
More about Marion Claire ~ My Embarrassing Secret
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
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  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, unique and sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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            Do you need to speak at a company gathering, your son's wedding, your daughter's engagement party, your mother's milestone birthday or your father's retirement celebration? Know what you want to say but not how to say it?  Need a speechwriter to create your speech for you?  Make it easier on yourself to have the perfect speech.  We can create it over the phone, fast but thorough, and you'll have the right words in record time.

            Why struggle by yourself when you can get it written without the trauma? Email me at  marion@marionclaire.com or call 310/659-8956 and tell me what you need.  Be smart. Get help. You'll be delighted you did!  



"My job revolves around communication. Whether it's introducing myself in a crowd, public speaking, delivering good news or bad, my ability to convey information clearly and confidently is what leads to a trusting relationship with my clients. With Marion's practical instruction, she taught me how organize my thoughts and speak from the heart. A few new techniques and my confidence and competence have increased dramatically. I can highly recommend Marion - she's a gifted speaking coach!"

                               ~ Lorraine Greig, Financial Advisor







       My new book, SECRETS OF A UNIQUE & SEXY SPEAKER,155 Helpful Speaking Tips for Writing Your Speech, Facing the Audience & Overcoming Fear! will be available for advance order in about two weeks!  Let me know you'd like to have one... send me an email at SpeakingIsSexy@aol.com.  I'll make sure to notify you so you'll be the first to have a copy!

        In it are tips used by experts that you can keep in your pocket or desk for a bit of quick help.  
Use these Tips and you, too, will look and sound like a unique & sexy professional speaker.

        This is a book for speakers of all levels, from beginners to experienced.  You're sure to find in it helpful Speaking Tips for any type of speech or speaking occasion that will save you time and uncertainty and make creating your next presentation a joy instead of a struggle. 


      "Marion Claire brings light into the room as she sets everyone at ease so they are ready to learn.  Our team mostly had no experience in public speaking, and so were shy and stumbling at first, but gained confidence quickly under Marion's effective guidance.  They were left with solid information that they could use as they practiced putting speeches together and then giving them.  And as a seasoned speaker myself, I nonetheless learned a thing or two to make my speaking more effective."

~Pauline Field, Chair, www.5050Leadership.org 


      Looking for a speaker for your next event? Want to know what it means to "Be a Unique and Sexy Speaker!"? Let me show you ASAP!  

      I'll customize a program for you and show your group time-tested techniques to become the speakers they've always wanted to be. 

      Send me an email at: Marion@marionclaire.com or call me at 310/659-8956.

      All you need to do is ask!


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Knowing the answers to these Five Questions will enable you to create a speech for almost any occasion.  Download your Free Report now and make creating your next speech so much easier!   


        "After working with Marion Claire, my fear of speaking in front of a group of people is practically gone.  I still get a few pre-speech butterflies, which Marion assures me are totally normal, but my former severe anxiety has disappeared.  Marion taught me simple techniques to release my pre-speech tension and build up my confidence.  Her knowledge and easy-going manner make her very easy to work with.  She's the real deal and I'm happy to recommend her."  


                        ~ David Feldman, CPA. www.feldover.com

   Speaking Is Sexy Vol. IV, Tip #6

   How Hard Is It To Write A Speech?     

      Why is it that when some folks are asked to say something at a special occasion, their first question is, "Do I have to write a speech?" This is accompanied by squinching up their eyes, raising their eyebrows in dismay, and maybe wrinkling their nose as if at a malodorous smell. The  question itself is often asked in a querulous tone, the underlying meaning of which is "Please tell me I don't have to write a speech. I really don't want to write a speech. Can't I just say a few words off the top of my head?"

      What's the big deal about writing a speech?

      It doesn't seem to matter how well they know the subject, some folks feel that sitting down and organizing their thoughts into a coherent message that an audience will appreciate is just too hard. It doesn't have to be. Writing a speech is a skill you've been learning since you first went to school, even if you never took a speech class.

      From the time you wrote your first book report or a short essay on "How I spent my summer vacation" in elementary school, you've been putting down your thoughts in an organized, coherent way. Whatever the assignment, you learned a formula with a beginning, a middle and an end that would lead the reader or listener to understand whatever you were describing. This is a skill that served you all through your schooling. So why can't you use it now that you're an adult when you're asked to write a speech?

      It's a truism that once we graduate, we forget half the stuff we learned in school. It's stored in our brain somewhere, but if we don't need to use it every day, we just leave it buried in storage. We even forget we ever knew it. What to do?

      Here are a few suggestions to get rid of the reluctance and make creating a speech for any occasion a lot easier. There are several elements you need to be aware of.

      First, who will be in the audience? Why are they there? What are they expecting to learn from you? Are they there because they want to be or because they have to be? Do they already know something about your subject or is this totally new information? Are they expecting a formal, hi-tech presentation or an informal talk without even a microphone? Will it be a roomful of strangers or a gathering of friends?

      Next, how many minutes will you actually speak? Is your subject highly technical or are you giving your point of view about a topic others are familiar with? What is the premise and purpose of your talk? Are you going to educate, inform or persuade the entire group or is your job to honor an individual or the bridal couple?

      Third, what are the three most important items the audience must hear in order to understand your premise? Using these as your outline, what kind of evidence do you need to support each one? Do you have the evidence at your fingertips or do you need to do a bit of research? Can you enliven your points with stories, analogies, metaphors, or humor? Can you paint word pictures of the points you wish to make? Will you go narrow and deep and tell the audience enough about the three items that they'll feel they understand them thoroughly?

      Finally, will you have a rousing finish that recaps your key points and tells the audience what action you want them to take next? Will you have time for a Q&A? Are you prepared to answer questions from the audience, even challenging ones? At the very end, will you have proven the premise you started with? Will the audience feel they know something when they leave that they didn't know when they came in?

      That's all there is to it. Knowing the answers to these questions is like creating a roadmap to guide you through the writing process. You'll have gathered the knowledge you need to write your speech, so the writing will be a lot easier than you'd thought. The feeling of overwhelm or insecurity about how to put down what you want to say will disappear. You'll find that the words you need will come to you trippingly on the tongue, as Will Shakespeare liked to say.

      Next time you're asked to give a speech, you'll smile like the Cheshire Cat and reply, "Sure! When, where, and how many minutes?" And then get out your roadmap and start writing!

DO YOU HAVE FRIENDS OR COLLEAGUES who would benefit from seeing this Speaking Is Sexy eZine?  Please forward it to them or send me their email address and I'll send them a copy and tell them it's from you!  www.marionclaire.com 
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You can, as long as you include this entire blurb:  For fifteen years, Marion Claire has coached entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals of all kinds to become the unique and sexy speakers they longed to be.  She'll also help you write your speeches for almost any occasion.  For more information about Marion and her programs, check out her website at www.marionclaire.com 
This Year... A New You!... In 2013 become the
Unique and Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be!


"Public Speaking was terrifying to me AND necessary to my business.  Within a short time of working with Marion, my fears subsided and my confidence grew.  With her program and knowledge, I am able to speak publicly for the first time.  She gave me the tools necessary to make this painless and even FUN!  I learned a lot and feel so much better about myself in general.  Thank you so much, Marion. "

            ~ Jennie S. Crowley, Chef Eric's Culinary Classrom



Give yourself a break! It's easier than you think to overcome your nervousness and increase your confidence. You don't need to be reluctant to get up to speak. Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back!    


If the thought of giving a speech absolutely paralyzes you, it's time to change your thinking! You can overcome those debilitating fears and get rid of the limiting beliefs that keep you from speaking with confidence. At the same time, acquire tips and techniques that will make you a calm, cool, unique and sexy speaker!  


Smooth and Polish your present speaking skills!  Easily learn useful techniques to increase your capabilities and look and sound professional.


Giving a major speech for an important occasion? Need some guidance on writing and delivering it?  Quickly learn to organize your thoughts, create a skilled presentation, and speak to your audience with authority and enthusiasm.


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What Do My Readers Say? 

RE: Vol IV, #4: Body Language

Love the idea of picking someone left, right and center and especially love "focus on those that are listening and don't worry about those that are not".  Great stuff!  I always learn something new from your newsletters.
~ Brendan McMahon, Financial Advisor,
Merrill Lynch Global Wealth Management


I look forward to reading your 'Speaking is Sexy' newsletter, which always has some unique, thoughtful and important information that will help me in both my business and personal life.  You have great insight, wisdom and practical tips to help guide me in my many speaking opportunities and coaching experiences.  Thank you, Marion!
~Mary Berney, MSW, Executive Coach, DISC Trainer  

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Each month I read the tips in Speaking is Sexy and it helps me refresh my skills.  As a lawyer, I need to be able to feel comfortable in giving speeches and the tips in the newsltter have continued to help me.  Thank you Speaking is Sexy! 
                                  ~Sharon Kopman, Attorney at Law



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conftableFood for Thought



The creative is the place where no one else has ever been. You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition.  What you'll discover will be wonderful.  What you'll discover is yourself.     
 ~ Alan Alda       

           More about Marion Claire


Revealing An Embarrassing Secret   

      We all have an embarrassing secret that we don't want to reveal because we're afraid people will think less of us if we do so. For many, many years I hid mine. I was sure that people would look at me strangely or not want to be around me if they knew I was less than perfect. Boy, was I wrong!

      The thing about hiding the truth about yourself is that you are depriving yourself and the folks you come in contact with of the opportunity to have an honest relationship with you. True, you don't want to just blurt out your deepest feelings or most painful memories at inappropriate moments. You want to be sure your revelations will be received with kindness, consideration and sympathy, and not with distaste, anger or ridicule.

      But it is far better to be open about the things you cannot change that have shaped who you are. Facing the secrets of the past helps you understand yourself and it helps others understand you. And with understanding come the gifts of appreciation, sympathy, empathy, and love.


      So here's the embarrassing secret I used to be afraid to reveal.

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces. Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside. My enemy was not the great outdoors. It was simply fear.

      Everyone experiences fear on occasion. And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual. Mine was fear of being alone out in the world. I didn't feel safe by myself. Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home. No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers!

      I'm so proud to say that I overcame my fear. It took, first of all, the courage to admit there was something wrong. Then came the desire to fix it and to seek out the help I needed to overcome it.

      And wow! Look at me now!

      Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests.  If I can do it, so can you!  Let me help you.  contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com.  

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