Speaking is Sexy
Volume IV, No. 4                                                                     February 2013

"Success is the good fortune that comes from aspiration, desperation, perspiration, and inspiration."  
   ~ Evan Esar               
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What's Marion Up To Now?
Your Unique and Sexy Speaker at your next Event!
Have you downloaded your FREE report yet?
Speaking Is Sexy Vol IV, Tip #4 ~ Body Language
This Year... A New You!
What Do My Readers Say?
How Can I Help You?
Food for Thought
More about Marion Claire ~ My Embarrassing Secret
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.

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  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, unique and sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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      This is a book for speakers of all levels, from beginners to experienced. You're sure to find in it helpful Speaking Tips for any type of speech or speaking occasion that will save you time and uncertainty and make creating your next presentation a joy instead of a struggle!


      "Marion Claire brings light into the room as she sets everyone at ease so they are ready to learn.  Our team mostly had no experience in public speaking, and so were shy and stumbling at first, but gained confidence quickly under Marion's effective guidance.  They were left with solid information that they could use as they practiced putting speeches together and then giving them.  And as a seasoned speaker myself, I nonetheless learned a thing or two to make my speaking more effective."

~Pauline Field, Chair, www.5050Leadership.org 


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      I'll customize a program for you and show your group time-tested techniques to become the speakers they've always wanted to be. 

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   Speaking Is Sexy Vol. IV, Tip #4

   Body Language     


            Have you ever been to an all-day conference and found that some speakers held your attention with no effort at all while others made you work to stay awake? Some speakers made you feel like the most important person in the audience, while others looked like they couldn't care less whether you were there or not and made you feel they wished they were anyplace else but here.                                                                            

            It's unfortunately true that many people feel that speaking in public is like walking barefoot on hot coals. You can actually see their discomfort. They can't stand still. They constantly shift their balance from one foot to the other and back again, like marching in place.

            For others, standing in front of an audience is like facing a firing squad. They plant themselves on a spot and freeze, afraid to move an inch in any direction or they might get shot. Or they hide behind the lectern or podium, afraid to move out from behind its protective shield to get close to their listeners.

            Then there are those who seem perfectly calm and in control, but can't figure out where to put their hands. They lean on the podium, fiddle with their glasses, juggle their slide pointer, run their hands through their hair, hitch up their slacks, scratch an itch, cough, blink, and display other mannerisms which only distract you from hearing what they're saying because you're hypnotized by all the nervous movements they've brought along with their speech.

            How you use your body and your hands is a major element of being a unique and sexy speaker. It will be much easier for the audience to focus on what you're saying if they see before them someone who looks confident, sure of yourself and happy to be there for the next 20-40 minutes. Here is a basic technique that'll make you look and feel cool and competent, no matter what's going on inside.

            Before you start to speak, take three deep breaths and look the audience in the eye. Move your head from left to right and back again, taking in everyone seated before you. Smile. Choose three people to speak directly to, one on the left, center and right. These are your guideposts to make sure you'll always make eye contact the whole audience.

            If you're using a lectern or podium, settle your notes comfortably before you start. If you're using a slide clicker, hold it gently, don't squeeze it to death. Remember not to lean on the podium. You can use one hand to gesture while the other rests on it gently if you like. Keep smiling.

            When you are preparing and rehearsing your speech ahead of time, find a few appropriate moments to move away from the podium and speak directly to the audience. Move as close to them as you comfortably can. Keep your eyes on them as you make your key point, bending your elbows gently as you gesture to emphasize your key phrases. Don't move until you've finished discussing this point. Then walk slowly back toward the podium and repeat the process a few minutes later. Remember to keep glancing at your three chosen people on the left, center and right.

            Moving gently and slowly this way will make it easier for the audience to both see and hear you. Bending your elbows gives the impression that you are relaxed and comfortable in your skin. Standing in one spot while you're making your key points lets you make direct eye contact with the audience and let your passion for your subject shine through.           

           Focus on the audience members who are really listening. Don't worry about the ones who aren't. As long as you continue to look at your three chosen listeners, the entire audience will hear and see you. You'll look comfortable, in control and glad to be talking to them. Your body will move gracefully, your gestures will be natural, and the audience will be focusing on how strong and confident you look.

             You'll never have to worry about where to stand or how to move about the stage because you'll know exactly what to do at every moment. You can forget about how you look and focus on the gift you're giving the audience. The more you concentrate on them, the less you'll think about yourself. When you forget to think about yourself, you automatically become the unique and sexy speaker they came to hear!

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This Year... A New You!... In 2013 become the
Unique and Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be!

"After working with Marion Claire, my fear of speaking in front of a group of people is practically gone. I still get a few pre-speech butterflies, which Marion assures me are totally normal, but my former severe anxiety has disappeared. Marion taught me simple techniques to release my pre-speech tension and build up my confidence. Her knowledge and easy-going manner make her very easy to work with. She's the real deal and I'm happy to recommend her."
--David Feldman, CPA



Give yourself a break! It's easier than you think to overcome your nervousness and increase your confidence. You don't need to be reluctant to get up to speak. Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back!    


If the thought of giving a speech absolutely paralyzes you, it's time to change your thinking! You can overcome those debilitating fears and get rid of the limiting beliefs that keep you from speaking with confidence. At the same time, acquire tips and techniques that will make you a calm, cool, unique and sexy speaker!  


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What Do My Readers Say? 

RE: Vol IV, #2, It's Not the Fear, It's the Focus

Very well put, succinct and to the point, and an important reminder before I make a presentation.
~ Martin Jacob, Dept. Manager- Bateman Engineering, Ltd.

I look forward to reading your 'Speaking is Sexy' newsletter, which always has some unique, thoughtful and important information that will help me in both my business and personal life.  You have great insight, wisdom and practical tips to help guide me in my many speaking opportunities and coaching experiences.  Thank you, Marion!
~Mary Berney, MSW, Executive Coach, DISC Trainer  

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Each month I read the tips in Speaking is Sexy and it helps me refresh my skills.  As a lawyer, I need to be able to feel comfortable in giving speeches and the tips in the newsltter have continued to help me.  Thank you Speaking is Sexy! 
                                  ~Sharon Kopman, Attorney at Law



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conftableFood for Thought



Progress always involves risks.  You can't steal second base and keep your foot on first.     
 ~ Frederick B. Wilcox          

           More about Marion Claire


Revealing An Embarrassing Secret   

      We all have an embarrassing secret that we don't want to reveal because we're afraid people will think less of us if we do so. For many, many years I hid mine. I was sure that people would look at me strangely or not want to be around me if they knew I was less than perfect. Boy, was I wrong!

      The thing about hiding the truth about yourself is that you are depriving yourself and the folks you come in contact with of the opportunity to have an honest relationship with you. True, you don't want to just blurt out your deepest feelings or most painful memories at inappropriate moments. You want to be sure your revelations will be received with kindness, consideration and sympathy, and not with distaste, anger or ridicule.

      But it is far better to be open about the things you cannot change that have shaped who you are. Facing the secrets of the past helps you understand yourself and it helps others understand you. And with understanding come the gifts of appreciation, sympathy, empathy, and love.


      So here's the embarrassing secret I used to be afraid to reveal.

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces. Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside. My enemy was not the great outdoors. It was simply fear.

      Everyone experiences fear on occasion. And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual. Mine was fear of being alone out in the world. I didn't feel safe by myself. Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home. No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers!

      I'm so proud to say that I overcame my fear. It took, first of all, the courage to admit there was something wrong. Then came the desire to fix it and to seek out the help I needed to overcome it.

      And wow! Look at me now!

      Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests.  If I can do it, so can you!  Let me help you.  contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com.  

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