Speaking is Sexy
Volume IV, No. 2                                                                     January 2013

"I don't believe you have to be better than everybody else.  I believe you have to be better than you ever thought you could be." 
                                                                 ~ Ken Venturi
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Included In This Issue
What's Marion Up To Now?
Your Unique and Sexy Speaker at your next Event!
Have you downloaded your FREE report yet?
Speaking Is Sexy Vol IV, Tip #2 ~ It's Not The Fear, It's The Focus
New Year... New You!
What Do My Readers Say?
How Can I Help You?
Food for Thought
More about Marion Claire ~ My Embarrassing Secret
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, unique and sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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      Looking toward early March for the release of my new book, SECRETS OF A UNIQUE & SEXY SPEAKER, 155 Speaking Tips used by experts you can keep in your pocket or desk for a bit of quick help to make you look and sound like a sexy professional speaker.   

      If you'd like to be on my special Advance List to be the first to have the opportunity to purchase a copy, please send your request to me at: 


      This is a book for speakers of all levels, from beginners to experienced. You're sure to find in it helpful Speaking Tips for any type of speech or speaking occasion that will save you time and uncertainty and make creating your next presentation a joy instead of a struggle!


      "Marion Claire brings light into the room as she sets everyone at ease so they are ready to learn.  Our team mostly had no experience in public speaking, and so were shy and stumbling at first, but gained confidence quickly under Marion's effective guidance.  They were left with solid information that they could use as they practiced putting speeches together and then giving them.  And as a seasoned speaker myself, I nonetheless learned a thing or two to make my speaking more effective."

~Pauline Field, Chair, www.5050Leadership.org 


      Looking for a speaker for your next event? Want to know what it means to "Be a Unique and Sexy Speaker!"? Let me show you ASAP!  

      I'll customize a program for you and show your group time-tested techniques to become the speakers they've always wanted to be. 

      Send me an email at: Marion@marionclaire.com or call me at 310/659-8956.

      All you need to do is ask!



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Knowing the answers to these Five Questions will enable you to create a speech for almost any occasion.  Download your Free Report now and make creating your next speech so much easier!   

   Speaking Is Sexy Vol. IV, Tip #2

   It's Not The Fear, It's The Focus       


      People who aren't comfortable speaking in public have dozens of reasons why they can't or won't do it. For some it's a really debilitating fear; for others it's just laziness or a reluctance to work that little bit harder to achieve something that doesn't come easily. The fact is that no matter what your fear or where you think it comes from, it's possible to overcome it. The question to ask is, "What would my life look like, how would it be improved, if I weren't afraid?"

      Let's imagine a few typical scenarios.

      You're in line for a promotion in your company that requires you to lead your team and make presentations to potential customers as well as in-person reports at in-house conferences. However, your fear of speaking in front of all those important groups makes you shiver in your shoes at the thought. What are you afraid of?

      Your best friend wants you to be his best man. You never have a problem sitting around with your buddies drinking beer and telling stories, but you're terrified that, in front of the wedding party, you'll forget what you want to say, the audience won't laugh at your jokes, you'll feel like an idiot and embarrass your best friend and his new wife. No way! Better to decline the honor than to risk making a fool of yourself.

      You've started a business and want to network to promote it, not just 60-second intros but actually get up in front of your target market to tell them how terrific your product or service is. However, you're afraid you won't say it right, you'll forget something really important, and you'll be so shaky and light-headed that you'll rush through your speech. Everyone will see how incompetent you are so they'll automatically think your product or service can't be any good, either.

      What is the one simple common denominator in all of these scenarios?

      If you're thinking it's the fear... think again. It's not the fear...it's the focus. 

      When you get up to give a speech, what should you be focusing on? What should you really be thinking about? 

      Not your fear of being judged and failing or feeling you're "not good enough," whatever that means. Not the memory of a previous speaking experience where you were laughed at or corrected, told to shut up or ignored completely, or punished in some way that was devastating at the time. Not whether or not the audience is listening or falling asleep.

      When you speak to a group of people, any group, the trick is not to focus on yourself or how you feel at all. The trick is to focus on them! More specifically, focus on the gift you're giving them...about how much your gift is going to benefit them.

      Your gift is your message. Your message is your knowledge. Your knowledge is unique and how you deliver it is unique. The audience wants your message. They want to learn from you. They want to know more when they leave the room than they did when they came in.  They're like baby birds, mouths open, chirping away: "Feed me! Feed me!" You're the parent bird, bringing food to the open mouths that depend on you.

      When you focus on giving your message, you can't at the same time think about yourself. The way our minds are constructed, we only have room for one thought at a time; we think sequentially. When you're focusing on the benefits of your message to your audience, you don't have room in your mind to think about yourself. You can't be afraid because you can't focus on being afraid. You're too busy focusing on giving them what they came for.

      Remember, whenever you speak, you have the opportunity to influence and to inspire. You'll be so busy influencing and inspiring your audience with the gift that is your message that you won't have time to think of anything else. When you focus on the gift you're giving, and not on yourself, you'll forget to be afraid.

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You can, as long as you include this entire blurb:  For fifteen years, Marion Claire has coached entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals of all kinds to become the unique and sexy speakers they longed to be.  She'll also help you write your speeches for almost any occasion.  For more information about Marion and her programs, check out her website at www.marionclaire.com 
New Year...New You!... In 2013 become the Unique and Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be!

"After working with Marion Claire, my fear of speaking in front of a group of people is practically gone. I still get a few pre-speech butterflies, which Marion assures me are totally normal, but my former severe anxiety has disappeared. Marion taught me simple techniques to release my pre-speech tension and build up my confidence. Her knowledge and easy-going manner make her very easy to work with. She's the real deal and I'm happy to recommend her."
--David Feldman, CPA



Give yourself a break! It's easier than you think to overcome your nervousness and increase your confidence. You don't need to be reluctant to get up to speak. Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back!    


If the thought of giving a speech absolutely paralyzes you, it's time to change your thinking! You can overcome those debilitating fears and get rid of the limiting beliefs that keep you from speaking with confidence. At the same time, acquire tips and techniques that will make you a calm, cool, unique and sexy speaker!  


Smooth and Polish your present speaking skills!  Easily learn useful techniques to increase your capabilities and look and sound professional.


Giving a major speech for an important occasion? Need some guidance on writing and delivering it?  Quickly learn to organize your thoughts, create a skilled presentation, and speak to your audience with authority and enthusiasm.


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What Do My Readers Say? 

I look forward to reading your 'Speaking is Sexy' newsletter, which always has some unique, thoughtful and important information that will help me in both my business and personal life.  You have great insight, wisdom and practical tips to help guide me in my many speaking opportunities and coaching experiences.  Thank you, Marion!
~Mary Berney, MSW, Executive Coach, DISC Trainer  

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Each month I read the tips in Speaking is Sexy and it helps me refresh my skills.  As a lawyer, I need to be able to feel comfortable in giving speeches and the tips in the newsltter have continued to help me.  Thank you Speaking is Sexy! 
                                  ~Sharon Kopman, Attorney at Law



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Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.    
 ~ Maria Robinson 

           More about Marion Claire


Revealing An Embarrassing Secret   

      We all have an embarrassing secret that we don't want to reveal because we're afraid people will think less of us if we do so. For many, many years I hid mine. I was sure that people would look at me strangely or not want to be around me if they knew I was less than perfect. Boy, was I wrong!

      The thing about hiding the truth about yourself is that you are depriving yourself and the folks you come in contact with of the opportunity to have an honest relationship with you. True, you don't want to just blurt out your deepest feelings or most painful memories at inappropriate moments. You want to be sure your revelations will be received with kindness, consideration and sympathy, and not with distaste, anger or ridicule.

      But it is far better to be open about the things you cannot change that have shaped who you are. Facing the secrets of the past helps you understand yourself and it helps others understand you. And with understanding come the gifts of appreciation, sympathy, empathy, and love.


      So here's the embarrassing secret I used to be afraid to reveal.

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces. Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside. My enemy was not the great outdoors. It was simply fear.

      Everyone experiences fear on occasion. And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual. Mine was fear of being alone out in the world. I didn't feel safe by myself. Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home. No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers!

      I'm so proud to say that I overcame my fear. It took, first of all, the courage to admit there was something wrong. Then came the desire to fix it and to seek out the help I needed to overcome it.

      And wow! Look at me now!

      Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests.  If I can do it, so can you!  Let me help you.  contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com.  

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