Lament and a Way Forward

A couple of years ago we spent time as a congregation learning more about the Psalms. One of the major insights of our study was that the majority of Psalms are lament psalms, vehicles through which people cried out to God in pain. Many of them say things like, "Why, O Lord?" or "How long will it take for your vision of life to come to fruition?" or "Why do the wicked always seem to prosper."

Lament is so important. It is not something talked about or often practiced in American society, but it is a deeply spiritual, helpful, and healthy way to face our grief, losses, and disappointments. It is important for us to make time to lament the things that break our hearts - the racism in our society, the death of so many black men and boys, the death of police officers just trying to do their job, the hatred, tribalism, and small-mindedness being stirred up by politicians. We want our country to be bigger and better than all of this, but it seems like things just keep unraveling.

This past Sunday and during many different gatherings this week, members of our faith community had time to lament together. I was so encouraged by the fact that faith community members who are African-American, and originally from Africa and the Caribbean felt safe sharing their true feelings and grief with us. Many of them routinely travel down the same street as Philando Castile, and they knew that they could so easily have been the person shot.

The situation is complex. No one I have spoken with this week is anti-law enforcement, and some members of our community have policemen in their families. As followers of the Way of Jesus we mourn for Philando Castille and his family, as well as for the man who shot him and his family. We mourn for the police officers and their families as well as for the man who shot them and his family. We know that no one is unloved by or a pariah to God. No one is outside God's embrace. We mourn for everyone caught up in this web of violence, misunderstanding, and hate.

A lot of wisdom came out of our time of prayer and conversation Sunday as well as other conversations throughout the week. There was an acknowledgement that we each need to start with ourselves. If we are white, we need to continue to learn more about how white privilege helps us and harms our brothers and sisters who were born with brown or black skin. We need to speak up when we hear racist and misguided statements from family members, friends, neighbors, and co-workers. We need to do everything we can to make sure that qualified adults of color have the same educational, job and promotion opportunities we do.

We need to listen to the stories and pain of brothers and sisters in Christ of color and learn more about what they face each day because they are black. And we need to both partner with people in our congregation working with African-American students like Valerie Matthews and Tina Maynor, and organizations like the Northside Achievement Zone the Promise Neighborhood, Interfaith Action, and YouthLink to make sure that every child and young adult, no matter what their skin color, has every opportunity for a good education, stable housing, regular meals, and a hopeful future. This August we will have up to 24 children and adults, many of them African-American in our church each evening, a wonderful opportunity to listen to and learn from them. And at the Blue House boutique this coming December we will have the opportunity to meet and deepen friendships with men, women, and children from many parts of Africa. Last year I had the pleasure of having lunch at the Boutique with two African-American leader/educators as well as a Holy Trinity parishioner from Ghana. During the course of our meal, I learned more about their lives, faith, and ministries in the community.

This coming Sunday night at 6:30 pm at Redeemer Lutheran Church located at 285 Dale Street North, we all have the chance to participate in an interfaith service against gun violence hosted by Protect Minnesota. Friend of St. Matthew's Don Samuels will preach at this service.  This is an important opportunity for us to stand together and protest the gun violence that is exacerbating the hatred and racism in our society.  Please make time to join me, Dan Anderson, Bob Hardman, James Wilson, and the people of Holy Trinity for this service.
Faithfully,
Blair 
Hospitality for Homeless Families at St. Matthew's in August 
By Elaine Tarone

Each summer during August, St. Matthew's provides a space in the parish hall for homeless children and their caregivers; these families stay from 5:30pm until the next morning. Congregations and neighbors in St Anthony Park join us in volunteering, either in the evening slot 5:30-8:30, or overnight until 7:30 or 8:30am.  

The image above is very large poster made by the homeless families we hosted last summer expressing their view that St Matthew's Episcopal Church is indeed a welcoming place!  Two of these parents who we hosted last August made contact with us a couple of weeks ago to tell us that they and their two children finally had found an apartment. They remembered some of us had offered to help them move.  On Friday July 1, Cheryl Olman, Grant Abbott & Elaine Tarone helped Venoy, Isaac and their kids Devorion & Angelina move their belongings out of storage and into a UHaul van  for transport to their new home.  

In gratitude, Venoy and Isaac have signed up to volunteer this coming August at Project Home, in both the evening and overnight slots.  They are paying it forward in gratitude for the hospitality they experienced here at St. Matthew's.  Stop by and greet them! (Or visit Isaac when he works at the Blue Barn every day after 5 at the State Fair!)
This coming August every Friday night at 8:00pm, Duke Addicks will once again be telling his popular stories about Minnesota to our guests at Project Home.  Drop by and join us for Duke's Story Hour!

We urgently need additional volunteers for this coming August, particularly overnight on Aug 2, 3, 4, 6, & 7, and in the evening shifts Aug. 5-9.  Sign up online by clicking on this link or by writing in your name on the signup board during the coffee hour.  
A New Beginning

Dear friends of St. Matthew's,
It is with a mix of joy and sadness that I'd like you to know I have been called as Assistant Rector at St. Stephen's Episcopal Church in Edina, MN. Of course I am very excited to begin a full time position as priest in a parish, and excited about St. Stephen's, which is a large, vibrant community who, like St. Matthew's was ten years ago, is interested in "going deeper" in its spiritual life. I will engage the full role of priestly duties there -- preaching, presiding, pastoral care, baptisms, weddings, funerals, and church governance -- and will also oversee creating a new vision for ministry to families with young children. What is of course sad about this is that I will have to leave St. Matthew's.

I have considered St. Matthew's my spiritual home since I returned to church and to Christian faith seven years ago, and you will always hold a very sacred place in my heart. From you and from Blair I have learned how to trust that God's Spirit is an active, public presence who can be discerned and followed as a community. I have learned what it means to be "agile church" -- to experiment, be OK to try and fail and learn in a "shame-free zone." I have learned so much about what it means to follow the way of Jesus with you, who have so much collective wisdom and experience. I have been supported to follow the way of Jesus to YouthLink, an experience that has forever changed how I see the world God so loves, and my place in it. And, I have loved cultivating and nurturing a small, vital community of people in the Sunday evening community, whom I will especially miss.

In sum, I have loved being a parishioner and minister among you and care very much about each of you I have had the pleasure to know. Please know that although I won't be able to maintain the same level of connection with you despite still being in town, you will remain very much in my heart, thoughts, affections and prayers. I thank God continually for you. I pray God's richest blessings on all of you, and I continue to trust God's Spirit--whose current moves all of us in unexpected directions for the sake of life, reconciliation, and God's great Shalom.
Blessings,
Lisa
Sending Lisa

Dear Friends of St. Matthew's:
It is with pride, joy, and grief that we blessed and "sent" Lisa Wiens Heinsohn to St. Stephen's this past Sunday. What a gift to have her with us as a parishioner and Sunday night service director all these years. What a delight to hear her sermons, prayers, and thoughts, witness her excellent listening skills, watch her loving and caring for the Sunday night community!

At the same time, I truly believe that we as a community are called to identify and then mentor and raise up faithful leaders for the wider church who are theological, entrepreneurial, dedicated to in prayer, listening and discernment, and have a heart for God's world and especially the portion of God's world forgotten by those who are prospering. I love the Episcopal path to the Christian faith and would like to see it around in a decade or two!

You may not know this, but when a priest leaves her church for another, she is required to relinquish all pastoral relationships so she has the capacity to care for the men, women, and children in her new faith community. Additionally, it is important for the people and clergy of each community to care for their own. This is hard, especially when we have had a close relationship with a person who was ordained. We need to remember that they are not in touch with us because they don't care for us any longer, but because they need to focus on the people in their new faith community entrusted to their care.

So let us "send" Lisa with our continued prayers and well wishes, and free her up to love and care for her new community as she loved and cared for us. 
With gratitude for Lisa and what we learned from and through her,
Blair 
Compline + Conversation: August 21 

Join other members of St. Matthew's for Compline followed by an open discussion of "difficult questions" (example: why do bad things happen?) on Sunday, August 21 at 6:30 pm. Susan Monkmeyer and Howard Quednau will host the gathering at their house, and Blair will join us. Dessert and beverages will be provided.

Location: 2 Red Cedar Lane, Minneapolis
Bring: Any questions you would like to discuss
Transportation: We will organize rides if needed -- let us know ahead of time. Contact Susan.
Looking Ahead: Calendar Highlights
  • July 17: Interfaith Vigil, 6:30pm. Lutheran Church of the Redeemer, St. Paul
  • July 18: Building Discernment session, 7:00pm, parish library
  • July 20: Book Discussion of Living Without Enemies, 7:00pm, parish library
  • Project Home begins at St. Matthew's in August - Sign Up Online
  • Please Note: the Wednesday Noon Eucharist and Lunch will not meet in August, but will resume Wed, Sept 7
  • August 21: Compline + Conversation at the home of Susan Monkmeyer and Harold Quednau, 6:30pm
  • SAVE THE DATE: the Men's Retreat is October 28-29 at Dunrovin Retreat Center (just north of Stillwater).
 
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