John S. Gordon - Business and Personal Coach

"You have the greatness and the power.  I just help you turn on the switch."

MARVELOUS MONDAYS

 

August 4, 2014 - Issue 289

 

Aggressive Personality

 

This is the fourth in a series on Assertiveness and Aggressiveness

 

 
Dear ,

 

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AGGRESSIVE PERSONALITY

  1. I am defining aggressive as an undesirable personality trait which uses force to win.  It's all about winning.
  2. The aggressive style is proving "I'm right and you're wrong".  
  3. The aggressive personality believes he/she can achieve superiority by usually putting others down.  
  4. The aggressive personality expresses opinions as if they are indisputable facts.  

 

EXAMPLES OF AGGRESSIVE BODY LANGUAGE

  1. Bulging or narrowing eyes, staring 

  2. Hands on hips with feet spread apart

  3. Fist clenching, fist pounding, finger pointing

  4. Invading another person's space, tone of voice

  5. Sneering or scowling

 

EXAMPLES OF AGGRESSIVE SITUATIONS 

  1. In a business setting the person conducting a meeting leans forward or stands with hands on hips and uses scolding words in a demanding tone.

  2. Grabbing the proposal or report out of the employee's hand.   

  3. Aggressive drivers who cut in front of others or tailgate

 

CONSEQUENCE OF AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR

  1. Hurt feelings

  2. Misunderstandings

  3. Loss of respect

  4. Creates a stifling atmosphere in the workplace which prevents positive feedback

  5. Affects productivity of the team and organization

  6. Causes fear, sometimes resulting in employees quitting 

 

EXERCISE
This week I invite you to reflect on the following:

  1. Do you remember a time when you thought you had to be aggressive to be heard?

  2. Is it more important for you to win or are you willing to compromise?

  3. Observe others who are being aggressive rather than being assertive.

I am trained to coach individuals to deal with their aggressiveness or the aggressiveness of others and to acquire positive assertive skills.  I will be happy to discuss how it can improve your professional and personal relationships.  Just call me soon at 816-213-0125.

 


 

 

"The basic difference between being assertive and being aggressive is how our words and behavior affect the rights and well being of others."    

-Sharon Anthony Bower, author

 

 


JOHN'S BIO
John has owned several businesses and is an attorney who has practiced in the business and estate  areas.  In addition, he coaches business owners, executives, entrepreneurs, professionals, speech makers and presenters.  He also coaches persons who are determined to accelerate their careers and leadership skills or who are considering a career move or retirement.  John uses coaching as a tool in his leadership and business results based consulting.  He is also a life coach.

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