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Welcome to Issue 218. If you did not receive a previous issue, you may use the archive link below to view it now. The mission of "Marvelous Mondays" is to offer an inspirational thought, a practical exercise, some humor, or a simple tip to jump-start your week and to enhance your life, business, outlook or relationships.
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4, 5, & 6 HABITS OF THE HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL LISTENING |
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4. Let It Be. Don't be a "Mr. Fix It". If the other person is discussing a challenge or problem, we (especially men), tend to want to "fix it". However the opposite results usually occurs. Men, have you noticed that when you attempt to "fix" a problem, especially for a woman, you have in effect shut down the conversation and have not allowed the woman feel being listened to?
5. Listen, Don't Reassure. I know this may be contrary to what you've been taught, but let's take an example. A friend of yours who has little experience in public speaking tells you he is very scared about giving his presentation. Often we have a tendency to want to reassure and give the person confidence by saying "you'll do great". But that's not listening and it disregards their feelings. Instead, just listen to what their fears are.
6. Avoid Having to be Right. In conversations, we sometimes think we have to correct somebody if they have mistated a fact. Usually it's not necessary to make any corrections. Is your goal to be right or be in a real conversation?
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This week I invite you to do the following:
- Practice listening and not responding in a conversation.
- Notice when you begin to try to "fix" a person/problem instead of just listening to them.
- Notice how important it is for you to be right in a conversation.
- What do you need to do to become a better listener?
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