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Helping Those Who Refuse     
by Shelly Slaczka

When your loved one needs help you will naturally want to help them but they are not always willing to except it.  Before pushing your loved one to accept help, try to understand their fears.  Help offered should be presented as comforting and supportive. Keep your loved one's right to make their own decision in mind and weigh your responsibility with a family member or friend.  Here are some things to consider when reaching out to help:

  • Remember change is difficult.
  • Introduce change slowly.  Admitting you need help is an admission that you are losing your abilities.  Add new ideas in slowly.
  • Ask open-ended questions and give your loved one 

  • time to answer.

  • If help is refused, wait about 15 minutes and try

  •  asking again.

  • Assure your loved one that they are still in control of decisions made about care.

  • Offer a trial period.

  • Offer options to the type of care needed.

  • Make lists and prioritize problems.

  • If in-home, suggest someone to help with keeping the house clean or to do the heavy work.

If your loved one continues to refuse help and is at serious risk, as a last resort, seek legal advice regarding a guardianship.  Remember to always appeal to your loved one's wants and needs.  It is your loved one who will have to live with most of the outcomes.  

Rich Gwaltney, Nicole Bruno and 
Cooper Linton at the 

2016 Alzheimer's & Dementia Research Symposium


Next meeting on May 19, 2016
You must become a member to attend.

Upcoming Dementia Training at Transitions GuidingLights


"Do You Know Who I Am?" is an Alzheimer's Disease training program for both family and professional caregivers. It is a participatory, interactive, innovative approach to learning how to work with individuals with dementia, especially Alzheimer's.
Interactive training prepares participants to be able to:
  • Understand the dementia disease process
  • Identify and experience common dementia behaviors
  • Apply effective communication and approach techniques
  • Implement failure-free Activities of Daily Living (ADL) techniquies

Upon completion of this training, participants will have gained the necessary tools to create a successful day for themselves and for the special people for whom they provide care.

Friday, May 6

Radio Shows that Focus on Caregiving Concerns
Did you know there are 2 radio shows that can help you?

Caring Connections with your host Nicole Bruno on
97.9 WCHL.  Reaches mainly the Chapel Hill, Durham and Chatham County markets.  Listen in at 10:00 am and 6:00 pm Saturdays and Sundays.  Or you may find the pod casts of past shows by clicking here.

Eye on Health  
"Care For You and Your Parents"
with co-hosts Scott Fitzgerald, Haley Gray and Nicole Bruno.  Airs Saturday mornings live from 7:00 am - 8:00 am on 680 WPTF. You may find the podcasts by clicking here.

If you have a caregiving question that you would love to have answered on air or if you have a topic you think we should cover please email: nicole@guidinglightsnc.org.

2016 Registration is now OPEN for Attendees!

Tuesday, June 21 McKimmon Conference Center Raleigh
Tuesday, June 28 Durham Convention Center

Do You Know Who I Am?
7.0 CEU Dementia Training

"Do You Know Who I Am?" is an Alzheimer's Disease training program for both family and professional caregivers. It is a participatory, interactive, and innovative approach to learning how to more effectively work with individuals with dementia, especially Alzheimer's. Learn more.
Transitions GuidingLights Caregiver Training Institute

The Transitions GuidingLights Caregiver Training Institute now offers the DHSR approved Nursing Assistant 1 (NA1) program.  We also have scholarships available to Raleigh residents who qualify.  For more information about this robust and interactive program, please click here.

Information & Referral


Transitions GuidingLights is pleased to offer information and referrals to caregivers seeking resources for a loved one. Caregivers may drop in or call during regular business hours to receive personally tailored referrals to meet their specific care needs. Transitions GuidingLights provides referral services FREE of charge to family caregivers. Call (919) 371-2062 for help TODAY or Click Here To Contact Us


Caring Matters

Transitions GuidingLights offers CPR, AED, and First Aid training.  This is a two year American Heart Association certification. Contact us if you would like to be certified.  

Interest In CPR

Awakening Program

The Awakening Program is a comprehensive life management program designed for individuals afflicted with dementia, especially Alzheimer's and their caregivers.

Caring Matters

Caring Matters is a 14 video series designed to educate you about the various aspects of caregiving.  Click Here For Videos



Caring Connections

Caring Connections is a weekly radio show for caregivers about caregiving.  This show has entered its third year of production and can be heard locally on WCHL.  All shows are also available via podcast by clicking 

Eye on Health

A weekly live radio show that airs on 680 WPTF addressing baby boomers and their aging parents. Join Scott Fitzgerald, your host, Haley Gray, Sponsor, and Nicole Bruno Caregiver Correspondent as we discuss caregiving issues. Every Saturday from 7-8am.

Lending Library

The Transitions GuidingLights lending library houses hundreds of books to aid caregivers in their journey as well as books that will help you to prepare to care.  For your convenience we also have a complete listing of our titles online which can be found here.

Skills Lab

Transitions GuidingLights has a skills lab available. Are you unsure of how to provide assistance with activities of daily living for a loved one? If so, contact us and we would be glad to set up an appointment with one of our nurses who will work with you to practice the skills you need to become a more confident caregiver. Contact us by clicking here.

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