Running our tongues can be standard practice for many, and if you think it might be you, here are some compelling reasons to keep some things unsaid:
1. You look more professional and less like a gossip.
"Loose lips sink ships," that old saying is still true. You can land yourself in trouble when you are the messenger of confidential information shared inappropriately. You are seen by others as untrustworthy and immature. Don't put your reputation at stake for sharing things at work without discretion.
2. When you pause before you speak, you allow yourself time to read the audience and adjust your message to have more impact and influence.
When we are speaking, it automatically means we are not listening. Those who control what they say and when they say it may not say much, but when they do, they are taken seriously. Instead of firing off that email, put it in the Draft folder, sleep on it and then decide if you want to respond.
3. You spend less time apologizing for offending people.
Some individuals have a more direct communication style and with that, often comes blunt language, and warnings that "the truth hurts". When feelings do get hurt, the blame is placed on the receiver for being too sensitive or taking things too personally. If you are someone who finds yourself often apologizing, it's time to stop saying sorry by no longer making the comments that get you in trouble.
People who struggle with impulsive mouths are seen as emotional, dramatic, reactionary, unintelligent, and obnoxious. I am not saying you shouldn't share your opinions or your point of view, just be smart HOW you do it. Customize your approach using situational awareness. Ask yourself, "Does saying what I am thinking help the situation or just make me feel better in the moment?" "If I collected more info about this, would it change my mind?" "If it became public that I am the one saying this, would I still say it?". By making more mindful choices, you have the power to manage your mouth and increase your credibility.
