Four Stages of Marriage
Our Helpmate
" The Lord God said, it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helpmate suitable for him." Genesis 2;18
There is a saying - "If Momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." That may be poor english, but it cannot be more true. What makes a woman happy is the satisfaction and trust she develops through her husbands love. The actions from her husband allows her to know without a doubt that his love is sincere, pure, and is always there regardless of any situation. It is more precious than diamonds, houses, or the finest of all the world offers. That is the kind of heart God built into every woman.
Giving that kind of love to a wife, will consequently bring a feeling of significance and success that obtaining the greatest success the world offers will not bring. They say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. But it is also true that the way to capture a man's heart is through his ego. When a woman truly respects her husband, she can make him feel like he is the biggest stud in the world and the absolute king of the world.
God knew what He had made and who He had made when He made man. He knew his shortcomings and his needs. Man not only needed companionship, but he also needed someone to help him along his way in the world. Therefore God created a helpmate.
What is a helpmate? First, it is someone who is willing to stand along side another person giving full support as they strive together to reach a united goal. A helpmate is an assistant getting in the ditch along side the other person, giving advise when needed, and making sure other important things don't get left behind or forgotten. They lead when needed, inspire, encourage, and realize the importance of the relationship and roles that have been created between them.
As a mate, she is someone in whom you can always depend. She is your closest friend, your most trusted confidant, and the most intimate person you know. They are irreplaceable. They are a part of your every fiber and as a result, you treat her with the greatest care. You know her greatest need is to feel loved and, therefore, you work diligently to learn how to express that love. You allow her to calm your ego by recognizing her value to you as a man.
You are also aware that it is your responsibility to make this union last. To have a happy and satisfying marriage takes effort. For many couples, the events that come along in raising a family can draw attention away from each other. We forget to spend time nurturing the relationship. It is a sad thing to see families break up. There can be no greater hurt than that of a forgotten and abandoned spouse. There is no greater disaster to children than to leave them without a daddy in the home. This can happen, it does happen, but it can also be avoided. Not only do we have to make the decision to love our wives as Christ loved the church, but we also have to understand what God has intended when He gave us a helpmate.
