Meet one of our Amazing
Tell us about your adoption story?
I was adopted through private lawyers because my parents were struggling with infertility for 10 years. My birth mother picked my parents over many others because they had a strong devote Catholic background and because they lived on a ranch; they could give me a life that she could not. My adoption was an open adoption, I knew my whole life that I was adopted. For me, being adopted was normal, it's a part of me and I love telling people. One of my favorite stories about my adoption is about the day my parents brought me home for the first time. I was born in Harbor City, CA in 1982; my parents drove home at 2am and arrived to a house FULL of my ENTIRE family. All my aunts, uncles, grandparents, and family friends were there to welcome me home; a child that was already so loved, wanted, and in so many ways, needed. I met my birth family 12 years ago and continue to build a relationship with each and every one, including my 7 siblings. We visit often and talk very regularly. My birth family was at my baby showers and my wedding. I have been to their weddings and family functions. We are just one BIG family now.
How did you connect with IPAS?
I came to IPAS for support and guidance during a time in my life when I was discovering who I was and where I fit in with my family & birth family. IPAS social workers gave me just what I needed. They were not only there to help walk me through my emotions of being an Adopted Individual, but they were also able to get me in touch with other Adopted Individuals. Through this new connection with other fellow "adoptees" I have built many new friendships that will last a lifetime.
What is the best thing about being adopted?
I have the love and support of so many people; 3 sets of parents & grandparents, more than 20 aunts & uncles, and countless cousins. I grew up with only 1 brother (he was adopted through a closed adoption) and we were the best of friends growing up. After meeting my birth family, I now have 2 sisters and 6 brothers. My family was built by adoption; my parents raised me well and taught me so many things, I love the life they gave me. Through my birth family, I am learning more about myself & my personality.
What would you say to prospective adoptive parents?
Thank you for choosing & loving us! Be open & honest. Be strong & patient. Open Adoption is a roller coaster, but definitely worth the ride for all. You are giving a child a life that their birth family would not be able to give. You are giving the birth family a calmness and comfort that is desired.
Who are the IPAS Ambassadors?
The Ambassadors are a group of members of the Adoption Triad (birth mothers, adoptive parents, and adopted individuals) who volunteer their time to help connect, support and educate. We are all highly motivated and driven by the same passion and with the same goal in mind; to help CONNECT people and families from the Adoption Triad together, to SUPPORT other Adopted Individuals through their life long adoption path, & to help EDUCATE the community about adoption. Through public speaking events at church groups, Rotary Clubs, adoption classes etc. we share our personal adoption stories, try to banish any negative stereotypes, educate on adoption, and spread the word on what a gift adoption can be. The Ambassador program is something that I am very passionate about. It is a secret dream of mine to become a motivational speaker on Adoption. To stand on the street corners and wave a banner that says "Adoption Rocks". To have Adoption be something that is celebrated, not avoided.
"Ice Breaker" fun at the Ambassador Retreat Volunteering at the Wine Tasting event
